Harshest Rejection Ever?

What's the harshest rejection you've ever received?

For me, it was: "Sorry, I don't date Orientals." Man, that one REALLY pissed me off. Then I got over it and realized I was much, much better off without her. :-)

DTH

your feet stink,
and ya don't love Jesus!"
My worst ever.
;-)
I did consider running away to join the navy at 17 when the object of my affection said "I like you and would like to be friends, but I don't love you".
I was crushed.
It's hard to believe that was me, now.

"If you were a chick, sure!"?

I mean, really. Just because the guy is straight doesn't mean we can't go out and have fun. I wasn't even ASKING for a date.

And what kind of decent guy uses the word 'chick' to describe a lady anyway?

This when i was about hmm 10 or so.

Harshest i ever given must have been
"I dont have the same feelings for you"
Still makes me feel kinda bad

Before I realized I was gay...

"Do the women of the world a favor, give up dancing..."

... but I agree... that was way-harsh.

-- Allen

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=148941

That, by far, has been my harshest rejection. BTW, DoveTurnedHawk, thanks for posting in it...

...post was short but I can sense the unbelievable heartbreak in that one....Damn!!

I cannot understand how any human being would act in such a way. You deserve so much better than that. Noone deserves that.

I need to play the field now." And "I only married you because I felt sorry for you."

After 17 years of a marriage,3 kids a mortgage and no indication that she was unhappy she went off like that right out of the blue, abandoned the family and ran off with her internet lover.(who she later married and divorced because the guy was a drunken wife-beater.)

That was 6+ years ago and it still hurts.

I am so sorry. That is just...well, I am speechless.

My sympathies. Stay strong!

DTH

That DOES suck. If you ever see her again, tell her YOU were faking, too.

To be close to the kids whom she might make phone contact with once every 2 weeks. Now she tells her mom and friends about "how good friends we still are". I've done my best to correct that sentiment.

Although my situation is a lot different. How do you cope?

I had a double standarded boy friend. He decided that I wasn't a "nice" enough girl because I slept with him and dumped me.
I had a friend in high school that I really liked. He said "No guy wants to date a girl who is smarter than him and can run faster. Have you considered dating girls?"

that's crap! my girlfriend's easily twice as fast as me, and probably equally smarter. it doesn't bother me.

...I can't guarantee I won't murder you in your sleep."

Now that's what I call rejection!!!

I'd also call it felonious...

... but it sure felt like one at the time:

I was on a date with a rather wealthy fella, at an expensive foo-foo restaurant of his choosing, where he ordered for me and everything. The check arrived, and it was well into the $300 range. He looked at me, did some quick math in his head, and announced to me what my share of the bill was. Split it exactly in half including tip, as I recall.

I had to ask him to drive me to the ATM, as I didn't bring anywhere near that amount of cash with me on a date (this guy pursued me for months, I tell ya). He happily agreed. I gave him his $175 or so bucks, asked him to drive me home, and proceeded to pout on my sofa for hours.

WTF is with rich guys, anyhow? Fooey on them, I say.

:-)

- Jennifer

seriously, who does that? i might not be the richest guy, but i always try to pay, if not for any other reason that just to be nice.

...and single.

... because I'm indeed a feminist, but when a guy pursues you for months and months and you finally succumb to a date with him, at a restaurant of his choosing, where he silences you and orders your meal and wine, well, goddammit, shouldn't he pay the freaking tab all by himself???

Just sayin'... and thanks for agreeing that he was an ass, PittPoliSci.

:-)
Jennifer

My rule is that if I ask for the date, I pay. If they offer to pay, I generally insist on paying anyway, unless they insist back which has happened a handful of times. Then we've split it. :-)

On the handful of times that I've been asked out, I've generally offered to pay anyway, and we ended up splitting it.

DTH

... is that, you know, a sack of White Castles, a 12-pack of Labatt's and a hockey game would have been *the perfect date* for me, and I woulda only been out 30 bucks or so.

What I wouldn't give to get my $175 back... ;-)

i was crushing on this really cute punk rock girl in my high school, i think it was my junior year, we never really talked but a few words, but everything seemed to be okay, we liked the same music and everything, when i asked her if she'd like to go out sometime, she just never talked to me again! seriously, what the hell kinda reaction is that? i'd much rather have been told to fuck off or something! every time i listen to agent orange, i still think about that screwed up incident. weird shit. i was sad for about 2 weeks, then got over it and started dating her best friend. so i guess i kinda got the last laugh.

... and I'm saddened that your listening experience has been tarnished by this rude grrl!!

This girl that I was really only dating in theory was talking to me and said that she had to tell me something. I said, "Uh- oh", because I had a feeling I would be dumped. She said "No, it's not bad.", and I was relieved because I believed her. Then she dumped me. I just find that funny.

WTF!?

That's a good one, tarkus! :-)

I had practially the same thing happen to me. How can that not be bad?!?!?! crackheads...

I asked a girl out, and she never said anything back. Except, I haven't dated her best friend yet...

when I pointed it out to him he said, YEAH BUT YOU WERE *SO* WRONG.
:(

He was my first infatuation. I flirted with him for months and he finally asked me to go on a hike with him. I was 15 and it was my first date. He drove to the coast and we had a great time, I thought. We spent maybe 6 hours together talking, hiking, and just getting to know each other. I got home about 5 and got a call from my best friend asking if I wanted to go to a movie with a couple of friends. I gushed about my "date". My friend arrived and pulled me into a room. Umm. The guy I just had spent the day with had a girlfriend and we went to the movie together that night.

I always knew I got my revenge. Imagine getting home and realizing that your girlfriend just went out to the movies with the woman you just took out on a date. And no, I didn't tell her but I suspect (kind of know) my friend did. :evilgrin:

What a loser that guy was! Glad you got your worst out of the way early. :-)

DTH

That is about as bad a rejection any person can get....when the man says I am going to FLA to 'blaze' the way for 'us'....yeach..and I bet he voted for bush* in 2000...the creep!!!

Of course that was over 30 years ago...and my son is just fine, but he has asked about his father??? What can I say? He left with no forwarding address, except to say he was going there to set up a life for the two of us...until he found out my son (our son) was on the way??? CREEPS are CREEPY! My fault too...it was a time in my life that was perhaps the most horrible....of horrible things?

I should write a book...from age 11 to age today I have lived a very non normal life!

were never so devastating as those I've received in the "workplace" as THOSE were places where I'd proved my worth and "paid my dues."

The harshest for me was when an A&R guy, after witnessing a STANDING OVATION I'd received, told me, "If I showed up with something like YOU, I'd probably lose my job." I pulled the covers over my head and did not emerge for 2 days.

A&R = a**hole and rudemotherf***er.

became lesbians. Had especially unemotional relationships with them too. Does that count as rejection? Probably not, but it did hit my ego hard for a while. :)

She dated and broke up with a guy who had dated five different girls who all became lesbians. She later became friends with him and assured him that dating him had nothing to do with not wanting to date men any longer.
I had a good female friend who dated guys or wanted more with guy friends who turned out to become gay. The guy who she married had only been in one other serious relationship before her and it had been homosexual.
I think that some people are just attracted to gay/bisexual people. If you are, don't be insulted when your girlfriends date members of the same sex instead of you.

I was dating a young woman who I thought was incredible. She was smart, talented and absolutely the cutest woman I was ever involved with. One night, while laying in each other's arms, whispering words of love and commitment to each other, she asked if I would like to marry her someday. I said "Yes!" and was overjoyed.

4 days later, she called me to meet her at our "special" place. So I eagerly tore off on my bike and met her. She took my hands, looked me into the eye, and said she "found someone else" and couldn't see me anymore.

Talk about being devestated. Especially after I found out who she left me for. Some wacked out religious nutcase.

Ewww

:puke:

"Didn't Tim(my 'best' friend) talk to you?"

"No."

"Well...you should go and talk to him"

I did, since he only lived a couple of blocks from her. And no, it wasn't a case of her and Tim getting together- She had told Tim that although she had accepted a date with me, she didn't want to go, because my deformed hand(birth defect) grossed her out, and she didn't want to hurt my feeings, and could he please tell me since he was my friend. And since as my friend, he didn't want to hurt my feelings, and didn't say anything...

It was not the happiest of evenings.

My friend in HS had a deformed arm & hand (born with her forearm & hand fused to her spine, the result being a very short arm with a tiny hand & fingers created from some of her toe bones), and some people would say the most appalling things right to her face, like "Oh my god, what is that thing?!!"...it was really upsetting to her and those of us who were her close friends.

"We need to go our separate ways. I love somebody else."

(After 30 years of friendship and 12 years of marriage).

We were head over heels in love at the time - at least I was. Then I got pregnant. I was terrified - he took a walk. Broke my heart.

That was 25 years ago. He did pay child support. He's phoned me a dozen of times over the last five years. Come to find out that decision haunted him and caused him untold guilt. I moved on - he thought he had "ruined" my life?? Good grief?? My son was the BEST thing that ever happened to me!!

It sounds like many of these people need to learn some etiquette. Here is a web site to send them to: http://www.etiquettehell.com/ .

i can't be with you...you're too nice. six months together and we haven't had one fight. that's not normal." :-(

Then let him try to complain about your niceness :evilgrin:.

Once during a bad argument I tried to break-up with a guy and he begged me to stay with him because he took the fight as a sign of love. That made me even more certain that I didn't want to be with him.

newbie....are you a DEMOCRAT or a troller....sounded like a perfectly normal question...but now I have become persona non grata for that question,.....that has become my greatest REJECTION!

Man, you've led a pretty rejection-free life, then. I'm jealous.

DTH

What a fucking bitch. And stupid too

ouch

I thought so as well. My only regret was being so shocked that I paused and wasn't able to say anything better than, "Your loss."

:-)

DTH

cruel is more accurate.

DTH, you're a sweetie.

It went okay, we went to my prom together. I was going to college locally, not even moving away, but I got dumped by via an email stating I was going to meet someone in college and forget about her so she wanted to just break up with me ahead of time so I wouldn't feel guilty.

Now keep in mind I had close to zero self esteem at that point and the odds of me finding someone was almost nil, but hey it all worked out in the long run. I ended up running into a girl I liked in high school at a football game and we've been going out for 6 years now.

Still, getting dumped by email was a real kick in the gonads.

on a post-it note stuck to the first page of my submitted manuscript:

"sorry. out of forms."