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Edited on Thu Sep-04-03 01:39 AM by DoveTurnedHawk
On the thing with your friend, you already apologized, and hopefully he's cool with it now. Make good on your apology, and don't even LOOK at your friend's girlfriend funny. Make the effort, you'd rather have your friend's girlfriend wondering why you're so chilly all of a sudden than have your friend suspect that you're still trying to make a move on his girlfriend. That's just not cool. (This assumes, of course, that you are closer to your friend than his girlfriend.)
On the thing with the neighbor girl...call me suspicious, but I just don't buy it. Try to find out (DISCREETLY) if she really was gone all summer. My impression was that it would have been difficult to dodge all of the messages you had left, frankly (and you should consider working on that...try not to obsess over any one girl, and definitely do not overdo it on the calling and "dropping by").
If she was lying to you in any way, just blow her off COMPLETELY. Be polite but distant when you see her, and NEVER EVER EVER call her or express interest in her again. You don't need that shit, and she is not worth your time.
If she was telling the truth, then she should have had plenty of time to get over her old relationship by now. I disagree with the folks who say take it slow. It's the beginning of the new school year, if you wait too long someone else is going to ask her out and you will KICK yourself for waiting. Again, you regret what you DON'T do a lot more than what you do.
So ask her out. If she demurs with the "still getting over the old relationship" line, or gives you the "let's be friends first" line, or declines with an excuse and does not propose an alternate night, she is most likely either telling you she's not interested in a polite, non-confrontational way, or she's just stringing you along because she likes the attention.
If she accepts, or says she's busy but quickly offers up another night as an alternative, you're in good shape. Explore it!
But if she blows you off, MOVE ON. You gave it your best shot, and that's all anyone can do. It might be hard, but seriously, you gotta move on. And another thing...if she does blow you off, the only thing that might have any REMOTE chance of sparking her interest is you moving on and being happy. Pining over her will just make you look pathetic. Continuing to try will just creep her out. The friends thing will make you miserable while it's happening, and she will put you in the "friends" box and it will be very hard if not impossible to move into the "more-than-friends" box. ESPECIALLY at your age.
My $0.02.
DTH
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