I can't work up the nerve to ask out this cute girl where I work....

She's an intern at the office where I work, and she's very very pretty. And I just happen to have an extra ticket to an REM concert next month, and I would love to take her, but I just can't bring myself to ask her. All the other girls I've asked out are ones that I've only been moderately attracted to or that I just wanted to...you know, but this girl is BEAUTIFUL.

Help me, DU Don Juans!:scared:

Good advice HeyHey plus it makes you WAAAAAAAY smoother.

make sure you catch her at lunch, elevator, right outside work.. and just ASK. simple is better. SUck it up and ask.

or

smoke some reefer & THEN go ask her. :P

That might work, but it might also get me fired. And I don't want that.

Then ask her. That's how I met my first 4 wives!

Intern, huh? You sure she's even heard of REM.

Seriously, though, you need to just walk up to her and ask her. Maybe if you can figure out a way to leave work at the same time.

Take 5 hits an hour or so before you see her and you'l have all the confidence of Rocco Siffreddi

You gotta act like she's already in love with you. Well, at least shoot for that -- you'll probably end up exuding just the right amount of confidence.

anyway, what's the worst that could possibly happen? She'll laugh in your face and you'll be sad about it for a few days.

On the other hand, you could end up taking her to this concert, getting her knocked up, and marrying her!


Go for it!

she could report him for sexual harrassment and he gets fired. But that is highly unlikely.

I'm handsome, brilliant and gosh darn people like me!

is the fear of rejection

Just ask..if no move on...if yes!!! cool- no more stress

Just a 46 year old mom. If you want to swing, you have to sit in the seat, kick your legs, and swing. No other way to know what it is to swing. And if you fall out of the swing, just get back in. Girls, swings, whatever; it's the doing that makes your life your life. Live your life, it's the only one you've got.

Just ask her. What is the worst that can happen? You'd regret not doing it more than you'd ever regret doing it and getting turned down. Just remember that.

If beautiful women are so fucking intimidating, then how come plain/average women like myself don't get asked out more. It's not relavent anymore now that I have a wonderful partner who seems to think I am gorgeous, but he also watches 'rasslin so what are you going to do...but it's still something I wonder about.

Then whisper and snicker to her girlfriends for the next 6 weeks.

Kidding. :-)

Ask her!

Be sincere. Don't some up with any rehearsed lines or creative ways to ask to try to come off suave or smooth if that's not your natural style. It'll come off seeming fake. Just ask -- if you come off a little nervous, that can be very charming, too.

But whatever you do, ask. Being turned down is never, ever as bad as wondering what might have happened if you asked. I still remember the girl I never asked out in college (1988-1991) and regret not making a move. The ones who turned me down, I don't even think about.

If I were you, I'd take some hints from that NYC pick-up artist Matt Drudge was having such a cow about sometime last year. The guy makes a living teaching other guys how to get women.

Here's a link I found

http://www.copyrightinfringed.com/copyright_infringed/2004/01/he_aims_he_shoo.html

Just wanted to congratulate myself for reaching "Post 420"

Ask her about what kind of music she likes. You might even want to ask her out for coffee first (cliched as that might be) to get to a better place for such conversation. You might consider trying to get tickets to see somebody she likes instead. (Not criticising; just a thought.)

Remember to breathe.

Smile; try not to grin.

Ignore any advice from knuckleheads suggesting you get loaded, high, stoned in order to acquire confidence. Just be yourself and you'll do fine.

Call and leave breathing sounds on her machine. Women love that.

Seriously guy, just ask. It's scary, but the worst she can do is say no... then ridicule you mercilessly in front of co-workers until you snap.

Put it up in the lunch room or something. Say "I have one extra ticket to the REM concert and I will draw a name to see who it will go to. Please sign up"
Then wait if she signs up, if she does then you are in like Flynn. All you have to do is announce to the lucky winner that she is going with you. If she doesn't sign up, then...well, then you have to think of another plan.

I work for a non-profit group that offers services to the elderly, so the vast majority of people who work in the office are over 50 years old. The only other person under 30 that works here is a girl exactly my age (23), that I work with all the time.

Since the fall semester started, there are several interns from IU who help out at the office, one of which is the girl I want to ask out. So seeing as how I'm the only male close to this girl's age in the office, I think I have a pretty good shot, assuming she doesn't already have a boyfriend. BUT, the IU campus is famous for having extremely attractive female students, so maybe this girl gets lost in the crowd. I don't know. I talk to her regularly, just kind of testing the waters (asking a coworker out, even an intern, is always awkward) but since tomorrow's Friday, and people are always in a good mood on Friday, I'll ask her then.

I'll keep you guys posted.:)