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I am so Sorry Pitt, I can understand how this has affected you. Things you have to remember are as follows: YOU DO NOT DESERVE GUILT! Yeah, So what, you and He weren't that close before the accident, what's your Point? Yes, Life is fragile and there are times when you want to kick yourself for being a shit to someone, But in the end there is NO BETTER TIME THAN THE PRESENT! Also, He is young and he is Grieving... He will refuse care, He will have a bad attitude about everything, But his life was tragically changed by this accident, unfortunately, so was the rest of your family's. Sometimes people don't get it... if they refuse to do what they can for themselves, they can lose the ability to do anything for themselves. This will be a tough road to walk for all involved. He needs to get off his rear end more for the pressure sore, If that means hauling his ass out of bed yourself, then so be it. Pneumonia is the same deal, You have to BREATHE! I lost my Ex Brother in Law to a car wreck when he was 23...I can't imagine what he would have been like had this happened to him. With Chris Reeve passing on I can see where and why you would be in tears. You need to acknowledge those tears though, let them happen. Medical technology is making improvements by leaps and bounds, have faith that someday something WILL work. This isn't easy, I understand that, but in the end, you do what you have to, Ya know? Christopher Reeve was an advocate for all Spinal Cord Injury people, he gave the voiceless a voice. I am not downplaying how important he was, But in the same breath, there will be another Person telling his story. Something else... You have to take care of yourself. I mean HAVE TO! I know you are down, and this is distressing news to hear, You have to make the Best of it all... Finally, I want to add something else, and I wouldn't recommend this as a Cure... Sometimes People need to have stuff explained to them in a very harsh and Brutally Real way. I actually employed this strategy the other night with a pt that was refusing the get his Blood Sugar Checked. I stated in Very Real and Not Sugar coated terms what could happen to him, This guy is a hard case, But I think I opened his eyes a bit farther with the "shock and awe" speech I gave him. I felt bad doing it, But in the end, he allowed his sugar to be checked and he was given the right dose of Insulin. As for your Brother.... he has to move around as much as he can, Otherwise his Sore won't heal, he will lose ability, and he will be in worse shape than he is now. For you, My heart goes out to you... If you need me, You know where to look...you know, Behind the Rows.
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