My Dad Is Getting Really Pissed At Me Right Now!

He keeps asking me what I want to eat, since he was going to order out, and all these things he keeps naming I just don't want, so I'm like "No that's okay." to everything he keeps saying.

And then he finally explodes and is like "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU, YOU'RE SUCH A RUDE LITTLE ASSHOLE! I HOPE SOMEONE DOES THIS TO YOU SOMEDAY! YOU JUST KEEP FUCKING SAYING NO TO EVERYTHING I RECOMMEND! WELL FINE THEN, THERE ARE A MILLION THINGS HERE IN THE HOUSE FOR ME TO EAT! I'LL BE JUST FINE! I'LL HAVE A FUN TIME WATCHING YOU FIND SOMETHING AROUND THE HOUSE THAT YOU, YOUR ROYAL FUCKING HEINESS WOULD EAT! I'M GONNA BE JUST LAUGHING IT THE FUCK UP!"

and then he trailed off screaming and ranting along the same lines, into the kitchen...

and now he's back asking me what I want to eat, and I just said "Listen, don't worry about me, act like I'm not even here." So he starts ranting again about "OH SO NOW IT'S JUST GOING TO BE 'NO' TO EVERYTHING I SAY! I COULD JUST LIST EVERY RESTAURANT OR FOOD IN THE WORLD AND YOU'D STILL SAY "NO! NO!!! NO!!!!" GOD DAMN YOU, YOU CAN BE SUCH A LITTLE FUCKING ASSHOLE!"

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Such a loving home.

I'm sorry.

tell him arby;s or something and he'll leave you alone

needs a time out! :D

How come you're such a fussy young man?
Won't eat your Captain Crunch, won't eat your Raisin Bran
Well, don't you know that other kids are starving in Japan
So eat, just EAT IT!

(at least your dad's not Michael Jackson!) ;)

I suspect there's more to the story. In any event, your dad feels responsible to feed you. So....

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT TO EAT?????

he just gets pissed when, for some reason, he feels it's necessary to feed me, and I don't want anything he does or am not hungry.

To feed you. I mean really, power trips over FOOD???? It's not funny, really it's not.

Only child? Only girl? Only boy? Recent traumatic difficulties that has your parent concerned about you?

Because I can tell you, for me, by child #4, you'd have been eating bologna for dinner. And maybe breakfast too.

Your Dad hasn't had the opportunity to learn that children survive in spite of their parents, not because of them. Cut the guy some slack, choose something for dinner.

:)

the story.

There is always more than one side to a food story.

My 20 year old daughter does that stuff when she is home. I ask her what she wants to eat. Everything sounds boring. I always say, "Fine. Find your own food then."

Why have a power struggle over food when they are older? There are enough of them when they are small.

I raised three. They each got to plan a meal a week when they lived at home. It saved on fights.

But they had to eat what I prepared. No peanut butter crackers or opening a can of soup. I did not run a cafeteria.

My youngest was the picky one. Now she is a great cook, who wants to be a chef.

Once upon a time, she hated chili. I made it for supper. She took one bite, as required, and then ate nothing but crackers with a glass of milk. Before she was excused, she tried to get into the cookie jar.

I said, "No way, Jose! You can't sit here and eat like a bird, and then have a cookie."

She stared crying, and said "My name isn't Jose."

Her brother said, "Yes it is. You are Jose the Bird!"

She cried even harder. For a long time, when the other two teased her, they called her Jose the Bird.

Thank God they are grown up.

has also turned into a gourmet cook and has done much traveling outside the country and eaten God knows what.

My kids that are having trouble with my fussy eater grandchildren just look at him as a role model----Uncle Joe changed and maybe our kids will too. I tell them yes,they will change,but it's too late for the parents to enjoy the benefit because they are usually on their own when the change comes.

I'm glad I'm finished with it also,but they were fun years.

I loved your Jose the Bird story.

Sometimes it does feel as if you cannot please the younger members in the household. :)

And DON'T be sarcastic. He knows you're trying to control him through martyrdom. Just eat anything man and get it over with...

don't be a little asshole.

right next to my dad :-p

but without the cussing-but no matter what, it ends up-"she`s your daughter and she acts just like you"!!!

I am the chef in my little family of two. I'll ask Doug what he wants for dinner and I'll get:

"Nothing. I'm not hungry."
"I ate a sandwich."
"I don't have to help do I?"

After about 10th consecutive day of that, I get bent out of shape.

That's gotta be a pain.

don't do what my kids do, which is say they are not hungry and then come to me in an hour saying they are. No federal cases.

"You think I'm running an all-night diner here? We had dinner an hour ago. You didn't eat then, I ain't feeding you now!" Oh yeah, I'm tough!

After about five minutes, I get them something to eat. Because it's my responsibility to feed the little darlings. The struggles we get into with food, huh?

... what I want to eat... :shrug:

:P

and I'll call it in" "I don;t know what teh fuck I want" "hurry up and order I'm STARVING!" "KYle won't decide what he wants!" "WHAT THE FUCK KYLE! I'm paying and she's calling it in so decide what you want!" "Where teh fuck are the menus!" "I think you spilled bong water on the Paesan's menu." "FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!" heh.

Ask your father what he'd like for dinner, and then cook it, order it, or go get it. :-)

Tell him what you would like to eat. Give him an answer.

I'd scream at you too.

I just didn't want anything he was naming, what am I supposed to do, say YES, then have him order stuff I won't eat? :shrug:

and make it something realistic.

If you're genuinely not hungry, say so. Stop making him beg for an answer. It's not very caring.

You're being OBNOXIOUS to your dad. If you're hungry make a suggestion since his are all unpalatable to you. If you're NOT say so and don't complain to him later. He's trying to FEED YOU (you little brat;-) )!

That is all he is asking you to do.

but its tougher without the meat.

I have four siblings... We would all be secretly happy if someone was sick or got pissed off and left the table because it meant we might have seconds if we ate really fast.

We didn't starve because my dad would buy these bulk packages of generic cornflakes and powdered milk, and we could always eat that, even for dinner if we didn't like what my mom made. She didn't care. Also, there was plenty of fruit around, and weird sorts of bread my dad brought home from the "day old" store.

But honestly, I don't remember ever being asked what I wanted to eat for dinner. That was entirely up to my mom and dad. Going out to eat, which we did a few times a year was a huge treat because we could actually choose what we wanted to eat.

were not to your satisfaction, why don't you just eliminate the middle man and fix your own dinner. Oh yeah, and can the passive-aggressive stuff, it isn't helping either.

...the families that you don't know very well.

Just answer his question.
Be thankful he's buying you dinner.

first of all, his dad is seriously over the top, if those quotes are accurate.

Secondly, it strikes me that Placebo is probably more than old enough and capable enough to get food for himself if and when he gets hungry.

We have an only child who is younger than Placebo and if she doesn't want what we are having or isn't hungry, then she can figure it out for herself later as long as she cleans up her own mess in the kitchen.

What's the big deal? His dad needs to lay off.

My thoughts exactly. I am 18 and can easily make something for myself. And yes, the quotes are accurate.

Doesn't matter if his dad's "over the top" or not as long as it's not abusive.

Every parent has hot buttons, and kids learn how to push them. That's just the way it is. Parents can't be perfect and take a step back every time a kid pushes their buttons.

But isn't it funny how it's so much easier to deal with someone else's kid? In my house the "I'm not hungry" roll-the-eyes routine would be dead in the water.

I'd pleasantly say, "Okay," while I'd obviously be thinking, Cool, I can get anything I want... (It helps that my kids HATE some of the foods I like.)

In Natural Born KIllers...

My pop rest in peace only cursed when he was realy mad...

and tell him what you want. if you're not hungry then just warm it up later and eat. He is your Dad, so show some respect. :toast:

that you're not telling us. Like, are you rubbing your eye w/your middle finger when you are telling him "Listen, don't worry about me..."?

Gyre

that's just what I'm doing and not telling you guys about.

nights at my house....

If I don't feel like cookin' and my hubby doesn't either....time to learn how to make what you want!

that would make me laugh.

.......my dad thinks all his dinner suggestions are brilliant.

Yeah, he flew off the handle and lost it. He shouldn't have done that. But damn, man - he was just trying to feed you. Instead of just saying "no, no, no" to his suggestions, you could have offered him a bit of input.

"Nah, dad - none of that sounds good. How about pizza?"

Throw him a friggin bone. Act like you care.

I think I understand where both of you are coming from, my sister and my father had the same fight all the time. Just tell him you are not hungry right now, and when you are hungry you will find something for yourself. And if the swearing bugs you ask him to stop. Tell him your not trying to be passive aggressive, just honest. Unless of course you are trying to be passive aggressive. ;)

going out of your way to be difficult. He's trying to feed you so HUMOR HIM and let him feed you.
GEESH! KIDS!