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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:56 PM
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Is it just me, or is anyone else out there married /hooked up with
someone who has the mentality of a teenager? My husband is off tonight (from his pizza delivery job!) and is blaring video games on the TV in the living room...Oh, and he sleeps more hours than he's awake, doesn't clean up after himself, the list goes on.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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1. Then why are you still with this person?
You need to get him to be more productive with his life and not just for your sake.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:04 PM
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8. Well, for starters
I can't afford daycare for two kids AND pay the rent, lights, food, etc.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:06 PM
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11. So you need him for financial reasons?
Come on, you could find someone better.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:08 PM
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13. There's also the issue of two kids
One with ADHD and high functioning autism...sometimes has violent rages (yes, that's being worked on), but the kid is almost as big as I am, and I need help dealing with that.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:22 PM
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23. You're in a tough situation
My boyfriend has custody of his nephew, who is autistic. Luckily, he's a mild-mannered kids who is just hyper active at times. So far, no violence.


I guess you have to do what you have to do and if this means keeping this man in your life then you have to deal with some of his flaws.


The best to you.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:33 PM
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31. Also, my kiddo does not function well at daycare
Tried it before, much too unstructured. I've given this thought, and I'd have to find somebody to come to my house to sit my kiddos. Like I can afford this!
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name not needed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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I have the mentality of a teenager.
Oh wait, I am a teenager. That explains a lot. :silly:
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Moonbeam_Starlight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:57 PM
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2. You have my condolences.
I'm not, but I will give you a hug. :hug:

If I can ask, what attracted you to him?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:06 PM
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10. I'd have to say
being yound and blind....12 years later, I'm no longer either
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LostInAnomie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:58 PM
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3. It could be worse...
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=2071337&mesg_id=2071337
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:05 PM
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9. Saw that and voted! n/t
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Zing Zing Zingbah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:58 PM
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4. No.. I don't have this problem with my spouse.
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WestHoustonDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 08:59 PM
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5. That's how my husband became my ex-husband
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OldLeftieLawyer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:00 PM
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6. How old is he?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:03 PM
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7. He just turned 35! n/t
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OldLeftieLawyer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:11 PM
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16. Get a lawyer tomorrow
Good luck.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:19 PM
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21. I can't afford one, or I would have already
Oh, but I don't qualify for legal aide either, I make too much money (WHERE?????????)
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OldLeftieLawyer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:24 PM
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25. Call the local Bar Association
They'll help you find one you can afford.

There are payment schedules, plus he'll have to contribute to your legal fees. (That's HIS problem, by the way.)

It'll be financially cheaper for you in the long run, believe me.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:30 PM
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29. I'll try to make the call from work tomorrow,
if I get a chance, when the bosses aren't around. I tried once before, but didn't have any luck.
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Polly_Sorbate_60 Donating Member (85 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:08 PM
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12. My dh is also going on 35
and LOVES him some Halo 2. But I don't mind...it beats some of the other "hobbies" he could have!
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:10 PM
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14. I wouldn't mind the video games, but
on the nights that he's off I have to make a reservation to watch TV...plus, it's LOUD...street racing games VRROOOOOOOOM, VRROOOOOOOM, SQUEAL!
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Susang Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:18 PM
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19. Sounds like he's got ADD too
Probably can't tear himself away from the game, right?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:32 PM
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30. Oh yeah, and the constant
Screamed expletives every time he wrecks or messes up...those are lovely as well. Don't walk in fron of the tv, he's racing (when is he not??). Oh, when he's not, he's sleeping (on the couch, his choice). SHHHHH! Don't wake him up or he'll be grumpy!
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:10 PM
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15. Has he always been in the food delivery service or is this new?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:13 PM
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17. LOL...
When we first met he had his own landscape business, and worked at a grocery store as a stocker during the slow season. Then, he was told that he was getting carpal tunnel from machine vibration, sold the lawn equipment, and it's pretty much been pizza delivery since (except for a brief time in construction)...Oh, and then there's the three unemployed and not giving a damn years!
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:18 PM
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20. Maybe he's depressed? Kind of sounds it.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:20 PM
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22. Suspect bi-polar actually
But he refuses to take meds or get any help.
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:23 PM
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24. I hope he does, for all of you
i'm sorry you're having a rough time.:hug:
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:13 PM
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18. I don't have that problem.
My husband loses himself on e-bay quietly!
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JanMichael Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:25 PM
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26. Do you love him?
?
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:28 PM
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28. I think so, but I don't LIKE him anymore
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Hillaryin08 Donating Member (119 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Nov-23-04 09:27 PM
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27. Well, not actually
^More like a two year old. But he did me the favor of finding a suitable alternate playmate.
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