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I find myself in a bit of a dilemma. I hate Christmas. I have no religious attachment to the holiday and the commercialization/Americanization aspect of it completely disgusts me. I stopped partaking in my family's events about 5 years ago. I am 500+ miles away, so it's relatively easy. I go home for Thanksgiving and that's that. My bf has similar feelings regarding Christmas and is not very close with his family (large, dysfunctional family spread around the country). He has not been to a family gathering in 6 years. We went camping last year and had a lovely time. This year he's decided that he would like to go to the family thing based on the fact that the majority(but not all) of siblings will be there. (BTW, There was a large family event in June that we attended and saw everyone for 3 days). And of course he would like me to go with. Said trip will cost us in the ballpark of $1000 for 48 hours of family time. If I don't go the cost drops to around $300 for just him(no need to kennel dogs or get a hotel). While we could afford for both of us to go, I'm not comfortable with going and the expense just doesn't make sense.
So, wise DU'ers, how do I handle this? BF says it will be fine if I don't go, but I feel like it will be a disappointment to him and the family. Also, I'm interested in any creative solutions you and SO's have regarding holidays.
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