Would you go out with a person who did not have a job?

Deja Q

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:32 PM
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Poll question: Would you go out with a person who did not have a job?

Edited on Mon Nov-29-04 07:34 PM by HypnoToad

Co-worker said today she didn't like a guy that liked her because he did not have a job. (I can't say more, but the guy in question was not a slacker.)

Oops. Subject line is the opposite of the real question - please answer based on sunject line.)

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KDLarsen

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:33 PM
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1. Yes - proudly.

Why the hell wouldn't I do that? Seeing as it's pretty much an employers market these days, I wouldn't hold it against someone if they didn't have a job.

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Deja Q

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:35 PM
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3. I am compelled to agree. I even reminded my co-worker of that.

She didn't like him for other reasons, and that's certainly ok.

And she's got other financial issues as well, so I can see why she'd say no.

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terrya

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:35 PM
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2. He could have just been laid off.

I'm not going to automatically form an impression just because he doesn't have a job. Not in this economy.

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NC_Nurse

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:35 PM
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4. No, not because they didn't have money

but because I want them to be independent, and ready to do whatever it takes to keep themselves going.

My husband was a pizza delivery guy when I met him. He wasn't afraid to do menial work to get by when needed, that shows gumption and a lack of arrogance that I respect.

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warrens

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Tue Nov-30-04 12:21 AM
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18. Speaking as someone who was unemployed for a while

It is hard to get a job like that when your resume says you are a professional who will bolt the second they find a better job. My ex worked at a bookstore here until it folded, and they were getting resumes from people with master's degrees in computer science and social work and stuff. Those people had NO chance at getting the job. They knew $7 an hour would not keep them there. They were looking for people like my ex who had another income.

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Sukie1941

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:36 PM
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5. I go out with myself

all the time!

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acmavm

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:37 PM
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6. You know, I think I answered this the wrong way, because I'm slightly

confused at the choices.

If the guy was a bum like my ex, hell yes. Hated working and spent his life in the bar.

If it was due to circumstances beyond his control and not of his chosing, of course not. That would just be mean.

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gollygee

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:37 PM
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7. I'd need more information, but not soley based upon that

If he didn't have a job because he was a slacker or something, then no. But not having a job in and of itself isn't a problem.

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bigwillq

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:38 PM
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8. I would but

they would have to be looking for a job. I know how hard it is these days to find a good job.

I wouldn't go out with someone who had no motivation to go out and try to find and job and wanted to sit at home all day and veg out.

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sariku

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Tue Nov-30-04 12:14 AM
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14. Same

Edited on Tue Nov-30-04 12:14 AM by sariku

It really depends on the situation. If it is someone who is a career slacker, lives in mum's basement, etc., then no, I wouldn't. On the other hand, when my husband and I dated and married, he didn't have a job because he moved here from Canada.

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flamingyouth

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:45 PM
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9. Yes - of course

My boyfriend is a student, number one, and even if he were just between jobs, that wouldn't even be an issue for me.

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clydefrand

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:48 PM
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10. Suppose he/she were independently wealthy? Hmmmmmm?

I'd go out with a 'him' in that case IF I weren't married!

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MrSlayer

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:49 PM
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11. Yes, it's a non factor to me.

Since I always pay anyway what's the difference?

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supernova

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:51 PM
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12. No, I wouldn't

I've done enough of the suffer with them while they figure themselves out thing. Somone else can have a go at that.

I don't mind of he's the school custodian. He just has to be industrious and make himself useful in the community. I can admire and respect that.

Independently wealthy? I hope he's doing something productive with his life, not just wasting away.

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eyesroll

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Mon Nov-29-04 07:57 PM
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13. Depends on the reason for unemployment.

Very few things in life are true deal-breakers for me, but the reasons behind them could very well be.

Got laid off? Just quit a horrible job? Disabled? In school? Independently wealthy but, say, volunteering 40 hours a week? Full-time dad (obviously not someone still with the kids' mom, but you know what I mean)? Sure.

Slacker? Mooching off his parents? Fired for stealing money for drugs? Trust-fund boy sitting on his butt all day? Nope.

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bettyellen

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Tue Nov-30-04 12:17 AM
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15. i just Du'ed this poll because my fine ass got canned last week.....

Edited on Tue Nov-30-04 12:17 AM by bettyellen

and guys better not be thinking any worse of me. At leat I don't have 8 am meeting anymore!

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bettyellen

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Tue Nov-30-04 12:18 AM
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16. damn, i got busted trying to vote twice,,,,,,, some repug is gonna

take this outaa context fer sure. ooppppsss.

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WindRavenX

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Tue Nov-30-04 12:19 AM
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17. depends

This economy sucks and so if you're between jobs, no problem. But if said person doesn't WANT to work...ever.....there's a problem.

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