Help - Ank's aunt is dying

She was just diagnosed with brain cancer. It's inoperable and all over the place. She's got days to months. This came completely out of the blue.

I'm not good with this support stuff.

:wtf: do I do??

and listen. That is all you need to do. Anything that you are asked to do just do it if you can but mostly being there and listening. That is what I needed the most.

I'm sorry to hear that...

Full handle is Ahknaten but at one point he got dubbed Ank the Vile.

:scared:

and suddenly last week she was paralyzed on one side.

They did a cat scan and found a tumor the size of an egg. They ran the MRI's last night and the results just came out.

He's not having a lot of good things happening lately...

Just be there and listen... maybe do a bit of research on some support groups if you don't feel comfortable being the 'go to' guy for what he'll be going through in the coming months.

I know you two have had your differences in the past. Avoid arguments even if you are clearly right. He's going to be going through enough without the added stress of an argument. And ditto to replier #1.

If you are close to the aunt, just talk with her, let her know you love her, discuss the good memories you share and just spend time with her.

My mother had a brain tumor, she loved to have her feet and calves rubbed with lotion. As I rubbed them, we talked about everything, anything and nothing.

Just love them!

My prayers go out for you all! :hug:

Years ago a friend had a diagnosis of an inoperable brain tumor and was given just 30 days to live. But she had a newborn baby, and was determined not to die.

Her husband, a pharmaceutical representative, pulled all the strings and used every connection. He got her into Loma Linda Medical Center in California, which had a brand new proton-zapping machine for cancer treatments. At first they told him there was too long a waiting list, but after Daddy donated money to the hospital, an opening miraculously appeared. The other thing they did was to get her on an "herbal cocktail" of some sort that a Yale Medical School physician believes cured his own wife's brain cancer.

To her doctor's amazement, my friend not only went into remission, the tumor completely disappeared. She remained cancer free for 13 years, until unfortunately the cancer returned suddenly and she passed away. But she lived to see her child reach his teens, and her son got to know his mother.

Go on the Internet. Contact the American Cancer Society. Look up the type of tumor your aunt has and find out if there are places/groups that specialize in that type of brain tumor. Try major medical centers like the Mayo Clinic. If conventional treatment fails or has nothing to offer, try alternative medicine.

I hope that you can find a way to help your aunt. Also, remember that even when nothing is done, doctors are sometimes wrong. I knew another person, a man who was a friend of my mom's, who was given just a few months to live after a cancer diagnosis. He was very poor, had no insurance, and didn't get much if any treatment. But he lived for another ten or twelve years, fairly functional for most of that time.

Good luck.