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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:36 PM
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Poll question: How much do you fight with your significant other?
One of our collegues brought this up in a post, and I'm wondering: How does fighting fit into your relationship?
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eoberhauser Donating Member (132 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:38 PM
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1. My boyfriend and I
Live together and work together (we own our own business) We've been together for 7 years. The fighting keeps us honest. It's more like debating anyway! ;)

Erin
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Cyndee_Lou_Who Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:39 PM
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2. How 'bout "None, cuz I booted his sorry ass outta my house"?
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myopinion Donating Member (97 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:14 AM
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13. how about all the time cause she booted my sorry ass out of the house
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:39 PM
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3. Only when the Packers play the Lions....
;) and a few other days of the week. :hi:
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:40 PM
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5. I know about you and those Packers!
:)
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:41 PM
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6. I really do need to get a life, eh?
;) :hi:
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tekriter Donating Member (734 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:39 PM
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4. Thirteen year relationship, eleven years of that as husband and wife....
and not one fight. Ever.
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donco6 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:42 PM
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7. Wow!
I've been with my partner for eight years, and I think we've had three fights - but I've never had a "screaming" fight, like you see on TV. Ours are more cerebral, I guess - lots of pointed comments and confrontation about things. Pretty painful, but always felt they left the relationship better off.
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achtung_circus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-13-04 09:43 PM
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8. Loud and Often
It probably impacted my decision to leave. Duh.
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WoodrowFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 09:05 AM
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9. that depends
how how you define "fight". My family is small, introverted and quiet. My wife's is large, extroverted and LOUD. What I call a "fight" she calls a loud discussion.
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SCDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 09:25 AM
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10. We fought so often that now we are
getting a divorce.
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 09:27 AM
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11. Fighting doesn't fit in.
Because we don't fight. We're away from each other almost all the time (a long distance relationship). We may disagree on things, but there has never been an argument or fight. I cherish the time we spend together, and I hope Doug does, also. I don't want to spend the times we are together being mad at each other.
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Magrittes Pipe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 09:29 AM
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12. Eh. My other is not so significant.
:evilgrin:
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Dorian Gray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:20 AM
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14. We bicker a lot
about silly little things. Big fights (screaming matches) happen about once a year. The former are no big deal. The latter get me upset for a day, then I get over it.

We are never verbally abusive toward one another, either. There is cursing, but it's more of the "FUCK! You aren't listening to me!" variety than the "FUCK YOU!" variety.
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Frogtutor Donating Member (739 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:24 AM
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15. I voted "other" because
I've been married for 19 years, and we've covered the whole range! Now it's more of the rarely category. I think the longer you're married, the less you sweat the small stuff. Also, you become so much like each other, there are fewer misunderstandings!

:shrug:
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ProfessorGAC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:26 AM
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16. Diminishes Over Time
Now, after almost 25 years, the answer is never. When we were younger, and less integrated as a single entity, is was more. But, it was seldom bad and never at the breaking point.

As we got older, we ended up on the same page about nearly everything so darned often that there is really nothing to fight about.
The Professor
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shesemsmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:30 AM
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17. My Hubby says things that aim
to hurt, I got over that a long time ago. I just ignor him and that really pisses him off
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mondo joe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:38 AM
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18. My ex and I fought all the time. My SO and I almost never.
And we've been together for almost 15 years.
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frictionlessO Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-14-04 10:38 AM
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19. we never fight, never go to bed angry at eachother, if we squable
its usually over me being lazy or her nagging me because Im lazy... w usualy make a joke out of it. We cant stand seeing the other upset, so angry feelings go away quickly...

we are enablers of love!!
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