Are the people in the eHarmony commercials slightly disturbing...

or is it me?

Most of them strike me as just a wee bit intense...

looks like a perverted version of Mr. Rogers

eHarmony does not offer same sex matching services. We're sorry if the placement of recent advertising led you to believe that we offer this service. eHarmony's matching system is designed to match highly compatible men and women who are seeking a successful long-term relationship. Our ongoing research has examined thousands of married couples to determine what factors predict the greatest degree of success in the marriage relationship.

Based on over 35 years of clinical practice and empirical study, eHarmony has discovered what similarities and differences between men and women lead to their most successful unions. This unprecedented research into compatibility has been conducted with the goal of lowering the rate of unsuccessful marriages and divorce by providing singles with a tool for finding truly compatible matches with whom to pursue a relationship. With this goal in mind, eHarmony's research has only examined heterosexual relationships.


http://ems00601.egain.net/system/selfservice.controller?CMD=PRINT_ARTICLE&ARTICLE_ID=1069&CONFIGURATION=1002

same-sex personal ads...

They seem way too obsessed with hetero marriage.

Their loss.

Science, research, studies, blah blah blah. No one can predict what a relationship between any two people will be like, despite eHarmony's efforts at patting itself on the back. There's a little thing often called chemistry - that indefinable certain something that draws two people together. No program can supply that.

That's what's always bothered me about these sites. I know they mean well, and I'm sure they've worked for some people, but for the most part what you're saying is very true. That indefinable something cannot be found and quantified by science.

...your wife on eHarmony.com

I met your MOM on eHarmony.com!

:spank:

I know it is mean, I'm sure they mean well, but I just keep hearing "Lowered Expectations..."


Laura

match up in that site

as not suitable for being in a relationship. lol.

Would eHarmony match me up with my husband?

...we'd never be matched:cry:

So far so good, 35 years later!

a lot of couples like you and your husband. Romance and attraction are not, and will never be, an exact science, nor should they ever be.

would rip my headphones off and throw them down everything Dr. Neil Clark Cohen came on.

I logged on to their website to see what they were all about. I filled out a questionnaire, answering as honestly as possible about values and interests and experiences.

They rejected me.

and mentioned that he liked classical music and was a liberal Christian. (This is why he was corresponding with me.) eHarmony paired him with fundamentalists who were into country-western or contemporary Christian.

A woman I know in Minneapolis tried a very expensive non-Internet introduction service. When she applied, she made it clear that intelligence and politics were very important to her (She campaigned for Dean.) I heard her complaining that so far, the company had matched her only with dim-witted right wingers.

I used in '90 or '91.

I was "awarded" a free three-month membership to said introduction service through a drawing held at a local bar. A couple of other women I was acquainted with "won" also. I later learned that the drawing was rigged so that young women would win - apparently there was a shortage of young female members.

Anyway. I went in, made a video, provided a photo, and filled out a detailed questionnaire about myself. My profile CLEARLY stated that I was a smoker and that I was the single mother of a preschool-aged child. I got dozens of responses. When I went to read the profiles of the people who responded to me, I found that most of them wanted nonsmokers and would not date women with children. So why the heck were they choosing me? It seemed pretty obvious these jokers were looking at pictures only and not bothering to read the profiles.

I went on several dates with complete losers. I met ONE decent guy there, who went on to become a good friend of mine. The funny thing was, I didn't meet him through his profile. I met him in the lobby going to the elevator.

They've matched me up with a lot of men, but most of them are too far away for either person to bother pursuing it further. With others, the process didn't get too far. They try to match people up more by inner qualities. They might set you up with someone with whom you have no common interests, but the kind of person you're looking for, based on the type of person someone is, might be similar.

That man who founded the co. is a shrink who is also a Christian--his articles are published on a Christian website. Before they started advertising widely, I think they mostly advertised through the Christian site. But I haven't found much evidence of fundies in the people I've encountered on the site. As a matter of fact, some of them have no particular interest in religion.

I'm thinking I should probably try one of those liberal singles sites--what is it, democraticsingles (or something like that)?

And the one woman with the crazy eyes gives me the heebie jeebies.

When they show them together? The one with the crazed look of horror in her eyes?

Spooky...Then there's the petite brunette with the VERY ample bosom..."She had EVERYTHING I was looking for!"

Uh-huh, you got the RIGHT one, Bay-BEE!

I see those spots and I hear "OOGAH-CHA-CHA! OOGAH-OOGAH!"

Every guy they sent me seemed to be RW golfing Freeper types, and all were horribly obese (why a person would post a full figure photo of themselves when they're packing an extra hundred pounds is beyond me). What was worse was that these heavy, balding men list "must be considered "very attractive" by society's standards" as a REQUIREMENT for potential matches!

Good site, it's how I met my last gf.

The problem is that if you're a guy, you have to try to contact HUNDREDS of women before one bites.

you're a gal, most of the men are only interested in well-off, young, thin, beautiful, childless women. I haven't been on Match or any other site for a long time, but I remember that when I was, a lot of the men would simply delete introductory emails without even bothering to respond with a "thanks, but no thanks", which is the polite thing to do when someone's taken the time to email you.

I agree with you, they seem too weird and too desperate, and not at all like just "regular" people. Desperation is NEVER an attractive quality. NEVER show desperation or neediness in singlesland, it's a real turn-off for both sexes.

Desperate and very, very fixated on "forever", "soulmate" & "love of your life". All of those things are wonderful if you find them, but they seem creepily fixated on it and that one woman in particular with the brown hair has a frightening look in her eyes.

and content with yourself and with being single before you can be secure and content in a relationship and before you can have a successful relationship. You have to make a good, fulfilling life for yourself if you're single, you can't just make your singlehood a "waiting room", only beginning your "real" life when you're in a relationship. You have to have the attitude that if you ever find the right person, that's great, but even if you don't, you're still worthwhile and you still have a good life.

Prob a bunch of republicans :eyes:

a few have already posted here that's not necessarily the case.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trashing anyone who uses the service; just the commercials.