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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 12:45 PM
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How do you tell your roommate you're leaving?
This is the first time I've ever had to tell my roommate I'm moving out. Any suggestions? I'm going to tell the truth, but I just don't want her to hate me. I'm miserable in this dorm full of bitchy girls who aren't friendly. So I'm moving back to dorm I loved before. I need moral support more than anything...thanks.
Duckie
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 12:46 PM
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1. Start with farting and tapdancing
Edited on Tue Sep-30-03 12:47 PM by underpants
She will ask you to leave.

Just be honest with her. ON EDIT- It's like a band aid just get it over with.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 12:47 PM
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2. I'll be with you in spirit. Perhaps honesty, toned down. Something like,"I
really don't feel like this is working out. Perhaps I was too hasty, but thank you for the welcome, have a great year." I don't know. But here is the good luck and moral support you asked for.
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JitterbugPerfume Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 12:51 PM
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4. sneak out
like a slithery snake in te middle of the night???

Just kidding


an honest conversation is called for here

honesty in relationships

always the best policy
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eyesroll Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 12:48 PM
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3. Is your schoolwork suffering?
If it is, you could just explain that living on campus was more conducive to studying.

Good luck!
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:01 PM
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5. School work is suffering...
But I'm in the dorms now...it's just not comfortable here...When I lived in the other dorm, I knew all the girls on my wing in a matter of hours...now I've lived here for over 6 weeks, and I know 3 of the girls on my wing. This dorm is out in the middle of no where...and the other one is right in the middle of everything. So, I'm going back to the other dorm so I might get to class, enjoy myself a little. I think that's why I got so sick. My mental happiness/stress level is so low that my immune system is effected. I think this will help.
Duckie
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SlavesandBulldozers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:08 PM
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7. advice
just be honest, tell them you aren't as happy as you were in the other dorm. College is all about carving out your own existence, maybe you will be an inspiration to others feeling the same way. You will feel all the better for having confronted adversity with honesty.
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:12 PM
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10. Lie your ass off. Tell them that it is all because of location.
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NJCher Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:08 PM
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6. what's to gain from leveling with them?
If they made a change, perhaps. But that's doubtful.

I'd tell a little white lie. No point in hurting anyone's feelings or making any enemies. If you make the LWL about some physical thing, all the better. Like, "An old injury flared up and it hurts to walk that far, " or some such thing. Whatever it is, don't let them think it's personal.

Cher
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Scairp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:09 PM
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8. It won't matter
If they are really a bunch of miserable, bitchy girls, then they will have have something nasty to say regardless of how you break it to them. And anyway, who cares if they are mad? If they are as bad as you say then big deal if they get pissed. It'll be fine. Just tell them your leaving, no explanation required. If they do ask just say, "personal reasons". That always works for me.:)
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:12 PM
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9. I'M F***ING LEAVING
has always worked well for me.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:13 PM
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11. straight and to the point, one would say.
;)
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kmla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:56 PM
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16. Then, did you kick their ass?
Just wonderin'...

:evilgrin:
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maxanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:19 PM
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12. at the risk of sounding like your mom
honesty is always the best policy. If she hates you for taking care of yourself, than so be it.

To thine own self be true, Duckie. Those are the most important words to live by. I hope you learn that sooner than I did, and with a lot less pain. ;-)
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:22 PM
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13. Just tell her
You're mad as hell and you're not going to take it any more!

Seriously, you don't have to tell her that it's because you don't like your fellow dormers. As a few other's already suggested tell her you just like the location of the other dorm better. Not exactly lying, it's partially true. One thing you can tell her that might make her feel better is that it's not because of her.
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NashVegas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:25 PM
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14. Just Say it's Not Working Out
You don't really owe any explanations beyond that, do you?
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davsand Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 01:34 PM
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15. There must be 50 ways to leave your...
...Roomie!

Just slip out the back, Jack.
Make a new plan, Stan...

I'm sorry, that song is stuck in my head now.

_______________

To be dead serious, Tell her it is nothing to do with her, you just like the other dorm better because it is closer to your classes and you know more people there.

If she treats it like a divorce then run like hell and be supremely greatful not to be stuck there any longer.

Laura
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-30-03 04:14 PM
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17. Thanks guys...you rock!
She didn't even give a shit. I guess I'm just too nice. She was more concerned with buying a fridge than the fact I'm leaving. I'm kinda glad I'm going now. I guess you don't realize people's true colors until something like this...anyway...thanks, guys for the advice and the support. :grouphug:
Duckie
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