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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:23 PM
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Guys: Is every online interaction a possible dating situation?
The reason I ask is that I was arranging to tutor an online guy in a software package. But he keeps asking personal questions, and asks me to send him a pic, and if I want to go out for drinks. I'm 15 years older than him too! I may call this off completely.

Is there such a thing as a business relationship between a man and woman?
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Squatch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:24 PM
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1. I've had many "business relationships" with women
They can be fun.
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aden_nak Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:24 PM
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2. Every interaction with a female is a possible dating situation.
Online, offline, imaginary. . . it's all good.
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DemocratSinceBirth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:33 PM
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16. how is it all good...
Edited on Thu Jan-13-05 05:34 PM by DemocratSinceBirth
if i go to a female attorney, dentist, physician, et ceterea am I supposed to size her up for a date...


sounds like 50's thinking...
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:44 PM
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22. I'm a consultant and all my clients are female...
Maybe there's a reason for that. The first possible male client, and he acts weird.
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DemocratSinceBirth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 07:15 AM
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24. I'm Certainly Not Blind...
My dentist, accountant, and attorney are females....

Some of them are extremely attractive but I see them as professionals not future lovers...
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 10:14 AM
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26. You have a good attitude...
and make it easy for women to do their jobs. Now I just have to find more like you :)

:hi:
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aden_nak Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 01:06 PM
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27. Well it's not REALLY all good.
I was satirizing the cultural male mentality.
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slutticus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:24 PM
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3. This is your post 666
Cool
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:26 PM
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7. Oh oh, you're right!
That must mean the guy in question is the DEVIL!!

:O


Not that i'm superstitious :)
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:25 PM
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4. No, but you should have asked a more innocuous question for
post #666 :)

It amuses me to watch some of the goings on, but in my case, everyone is just genderless little squiggles of excited photons on my moniter.
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AllegroRondo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:25 PM
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5. Congrats on your 666th post!
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:33 PM
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15. Thanks :)
:) :) :) :)
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trotsky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:26 PM
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6. A/S/L???
;-)

Unfortunately, it's probably very common for men. (Although women are not immune either.) They'll idealize the person on the other end of the line and since it's easier to be more relaxed in cyberspace, probably try romantic overtures much more readily than in real life.
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sundog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:27 PM
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8. lol
:P
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:28 PM
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9. IoEP?
I used to like that one: Interior or Exterior Plumbing?
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:28 PM
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10. What's A/S/L?
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trotsky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:29 PM
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12. Shorthand for Age/Sex/Location
Kiddies throw it around a lot. I used to visit a gaming site which was 1/2 gaming and 1/2 flirting, but the flirting just got to be a meat market and detracted from the gaming.
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:36 PM
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Ohhhh, ok, thanks :)
Now that I think of it, maybe I'm too nice to people. I should be meaner!!


:evilgrin:
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moez Donating Member (638 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:29 PM
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11. Well, now that you mention it....
Can I say that you have a real cute font....
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:34 PM
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17. heh heh!
Now you are allowed to say that. I am not trying to do business with you.

:hi:
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Worst Username Ever Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:31 PM
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13. I have had countless business realtionships with women.
Edited on Thu Jan-13-05 05:32 PM by Worst Username Ever
They costed be 50 bucks a pop.

:P
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mdmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:32 PM
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14. yes as long as there is no attraction
yes yes yes!
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Baclava Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:36 PM
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18. Absolutely...
That's why I always request a thong pic of new female contacts...
cuts down on the riff raff...
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achtung_circus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:36 PM
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19. Not at all.
I'll never meet most of them, I'm happily involved, so I don't think of them as potential dates. How can I even KNOW who is male, who is female. The net is androgenous.

On the other hand, how you doin', Glenda?
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personman Donating Member (959 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:39 PM
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20. Why, you wanna go out? n/t
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Xithras Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:43 PM
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21. Seriously? Every interaction is a possible dating situation
Sounds like your guy needs to work on the "DON'T BE OBVIOUS" part, but yes, when a single man is actively looking for a partner, he pretty much looks at every woman he meets as a potential mate.

However, there's a fine line between being evaluating someone for compatability and attempting to initiate a relationship, and being sexist and harassing. It sounds like your online guy tripped over that line. If you've already indicated that you're not interested and he's continuing with his attempts to pick you up, you should let him know that you're offended by his harassing behavior.
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Glenda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-13-05 05:49 PM
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23. I'm trying to treat it like a business relationship, and not blantently...
come out and specifically tell him to stop being an ass. But I'm going to have to be more blunt, I can see now. Also, he's from a culture which may act weirder toward women.

He's also sort of manipulative, and I may just drop him entirely.

I mean, it's hard because I normally act nice, but it's like nice to him equals "date me."
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Crackingham Donating Member (34 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 07:32 AM
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25. Only if he's horny
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txaslftist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 01:26 PM
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28. He's just a creepy dude.
There's a lot of creepy dudes on the net.

Anonymity lets you say stuff you wouldn't say in front of a live person, and I think the most shy people in real life are probably the most obnoxious on the internet.

Except for Worst User Name Ever. He's just a mess.
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 01:29 PM
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29. Let me ask my wife....
:)
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mdmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 08:57 PM
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30. my boss is coming over later to hang out
even that is a possibility.
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EstimatedProphet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-14-05 09:00 PM
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31. There can be a business arrangement with men and women
but it doesn't sound like there can be with this guy.
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