The most bizarre thing just happened.

My old best friend just called me. I haven't heard from her in almost a year. I didn't answer the phone because it showed up on the caller ID, I didn't answer because I didn't know what to do. and I haven't listened to her message yet.

This is just so bizarre.

We stopped talking because we drifted apart, which I helped alone but things were getting different.

It's such a long story. But we met at a summer job we both worked and and we became best friends, she had a little boy, she was four years older them, but she was still young when she had him. So I was 16 and she was 20. But she we were best friends nonetheless.

But around Christmas of '03 things really started to change. She was 21 and she had a job, and so she would go out with people to bars and stuff, and I would hardly see her. Then she would use visiting me as a cover to go out to bars to her very controlling, religious mother so she would watch her son. She still lived at home, because she couldn't afford to live on her with her son, and her parents helped her out with that.

But yeah so she would like that she was at my house but she was really at the bars, because she's wild and immature. And so things were just weird, and she was a user, and I was a giver. So it was give and take.

And I got tired of it, and some other things happened that I won't go into, but basically she repeated some really stupid things she had done her past, and I just got pissed with her, because it was so stupid, and I just realized... she wasn't going to change. And so I let us drift apart. AND NOW she calls me, out of the blue, I don't know what to do.

I do miss her, she was my best friend but.. shit I don't know. I should listen to her message I guess.

Sorry to rattle on, but I just needed to put this all out there and think things over.

an old friend out of the blue that I lost touch with. It can be a good thing. Just be on the alert if she is asking you for something big or is manipulative. Otherwise, cool.

And we live pretty close by each other.

At the end everything was just so fucked up.

to at least hear what she has to say.
:hi: :hug: :loveya:

:hug:

but people change... listen to the message, maybe she wants to patch things up

It's just a matter of it I want to. I don't think I can handle having a friendship like had again. It was way too hard on me. There was so much shit with her. Always.

its really a roll of the dice. maybe she'll have changed, and maybe she won't :shrug:

Fuck.

I'm going to go make a drink and play in the lounge, I'll deal with everything tomorrow.

:(

Edit: Thanks for being so nice. :hug:

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flash ;):hug:

:D

Listen to the message, then delete it. If she has used you in the past, chances are she's trying to find a way to use you again. And it's Friday night--maybe she wants someone to watch her kid or give her an alibi so that she can go out.

Still, if I were you, I'd listen to the message, delete it, and then pat myself on the back for making the best choices for MYSELF.

:-)

I want to think maybe she's changed, but I know she hasn't.

She just uses people.

Thank you for the advice! :hug: