Being a man ain't all that great either...

especially when you're single and looking for romance.

The frustration that comes with attracting women can be physically painful...anyone else hear me?

no cold toilet seats for US :P

and people ask why I have penis envy ...

:bounce:

damn ..

how cool am i NOW! :D

I'm sooooo jealous, Matcom.

i'll bet i'm the first bilingual pisser you have ever met :loveya:

Matthew = Mateo ;)

My real name is a crappy three letters (LEE) so Im unfamiliar with the concept of it being different in foreign languages...:D

I'll have to ask around this weekend.

"Excuse me, sir, are you a bi-lingual pisser?"

hey, you NEVER know!

Bet you never had to worry about a date on a Saturday nite.

it now reads "MARTAINE"

:eyes:

:D

incidence of penis envy I have.

i usually sit down while going.... :)

I think it all results from having had to clean up all of the "urine splash" from my roommates in college.....an apartment with 4 guys in it and one bathroom, you can imagine what that bathroom was like... :) ...(i have a very weak stomach, and threw up from it a few times...)

Cleaning the bathroom is still not my favorite thing to do, however...it's nice only having to wipe dust off of the outside of the toilet nowadays while living alone...

There are plenty of us single women! Open up your eyes! :P

I haven't felt the need to go the internet dating route yet...but I'm tempted.

Mind that I'm a happily married woman, so I may not be the bestest judge of the situation... :evilgrin:

including one who lives geographically close to me, and I've talked to her from time to time. I've seen her picture and she's hot! I'd invite myself over for drinks, but I don't want to come across as a creep so, for now I'll just admire from afar...

:shrug:

because your really pretty.... and being on DU means your obviously smart as well.

I don't kiss a guy's ass (not that I'm rude or anything, I'm just independent), the political thing, and I'm not a stick. I really think that's all it boils down to. You're more than welcome to visit TN and see, the people run when I come close! :) But thank you for the compliment, that was really nice of you!@

East, middle, or west TN?

Just curious.:hi:

:D

I don't want to be intrusive, so I won't ask you to be more specific. I grew up in Morristown and went to ETSU, went to grad school at MTSU, and lived in Chattanooga, so east Tennessee is pretty familiar!

My cousin went to ETSU for two years. I actually live about 10 minutes away from Knoxville. :) What part of GA do you live in?

On edit: You're not being intrusive! :)

I'm a PhD student at UGA. Now, please tell me you're not a Vol!!

:D OF COURSE I AM! But I'm not one of those crazy, psycho ones. I go to a view games then go to campus to party after. I know a person in the band and one of my really good friends is a majorette. :) It's fun, but a lot of people here take it WAY too seriously.

PhD, huh? :) How do you like being a Dawg?

My dad went here, and I've wanted to follow in his footsteps as long as I can remember. I am one of the fanatics; I go to every single game that I can afford!! Just seeing red and black all over the community is heaven. I'm really going to feel torn about leaving here. I love this university like Lewis Grizzard did.

I'll be in Knoxville on October for our revenge for 2004.
:grr:

Bring it! We'll just kick your ass like last year. :P

And I'll make sure to spot you on campus and gloat!

When you leave Neyland in the 3rd quarter in 2005 the way you did in 2003, I'll give you a smile and a wave... how's that? We're gonna Shockley and awe ya.

The shit's getting pretty deep in here. We'll see, we'll see.

And they're hobnailed boots!! If you don't know the reference, well...

http://www.dawgnation.net/misc/dawgnation.nsf/Larry%20Munson%20-%20Tenn%2001%20-%20Haynes.wav?OpenFileResource

:P

I'll bring the jello, you bring the towels! :D (I don't like mud). Like I said, we'll see!

Me vs. you jello wrestling? Whether or not I get pinned, it's a no-lose situation for me!!

:D Gotta run, drop me a PM sometime! Nice talking to ya!

...but I'd be happy to reply!! I've got to go myself... to the library.

That's why I know I'll never be gay


:argh:

I'm an older guy who's gone through the same thing when I was younger, and I can report from hindsight Red Green is right: "If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy!".
When you're out with a woman, try saying, "Yes, my queen" at least once, and notice the response. LISTEN to what she says rather than oogling how she looks. Keep the blood in your brain rather than elsewhere.
Find a woman who's a friend and who you feel comfortable with, rather than one who is flashy(maybe you feel comfortable with flashy women, who knows?).
Remember the Man's Motto:
"I am a man
But I can change
If I have to
I guess"
Good luck
:hi:

Bruce

That's a great post!

And this is from an older single lady: any man who tried that approach with me would definitely be considered a keeper. :)

My wife says if she ever dies before me I won't be single long, and I know she's right.
I'm well trained enough she puts up with my stinky socks, LOL.
Oh, and I can keep the cars working and the toilet functioning...
I've got it made.
:hi:

Bruce

got a twin brother?! lol

and his profile comment says, 'be nice to women.' great idea! spread it around!!!

I know which side my bread's buttered on!
I could cook if I had to, part of the training process you know, but with a good cook I don't have to much, luckily.
Oh YEAH!
Give the woman LOTS of chocolate, turns a PMS frown to a smile every time!
;-)
Sorry, princes and gentle men are hard to find, as all the women know.
:hi:

Bruce

I'm a little surprised he hasn't been snapped up but I don't think women not finding Longgrain good-looking can possibly be the issue.

Forgive me for commenting on visual appearance but since he did post the photo quite a bit, I'll gingerly assume he was hoping to get appreciation for more than his (excellent) photography skills.

The conservation movement is a breeding ground of communists
and other subversives. We intend to clean them out,
even if it means rounding up every birdwatcher in the country.
--John Mitchell, US Attorney General 1969-72

:7

stop trying to.

its real hard, I know.


I found that when I was single, I tried to meet women, attract them, impress them..yadda yadda... here's the deal: just like bees can smell fear, women can smell desperation. They want a man who is self-confident, and that means, someone who is not chasing after women.

how can I say this? here's how...

When I was trying to find a woman, no dice.

then, I met who was to become my wife, but was only dating. I was unattached, but NOT LOOKING. and you know what?

women came out the woodwork...I kid you not. I would even tell them, sorry not looking to hook up with anyone...and they actively chased ME! I even had a woman move from canada to the us, to my company, hoping to hook up with me.

The less interested I was, the more interested they became!

bizarre, but true.

to attracting women was to become gay...

Now I'm really confussed...:shrug:

A gay man is not interested in sleeping with a woman and if you come across as if you're not interested in sleeping with her, she's going to think, "what's wrong with this guy? why doesn't he find me attractive?"
As I said, women love a challenge. I wonder if any will admit that on this thread.

but it was too challenging.... i wised up.

It's not always like that though. For example,I wouldn't go so far as to say it's because I wondered why he didn't find me attractive. I actually do go for the guys that aren't so blatantly obvious that they need to get laid, cool and sensible approaches always work over hey baby wanna take a ride lines, so to speak....

A challenge got old when I was no longer 18 and seeking "the perfect guy". As I said though somewhere around here in this thread, a bit of mystery and intrigue also go a long way. Don't pour out everything in the first week and surprise yourself and others sometimes(not shock and awe style). The Biggest thing is to have fun and be yourself. Relax and let things happen as they are. If people don't seem to like you for who you are, well you know the saying....fuck it. Somebody else always will.

What Lerk commented on is very true in a sense. There are very few women I know (unless we are speaking of manipulators) who are attracted to a man who comes off as either
a)desperate
b)too needy
c)too clingy

I am not and will not speak for all women, just the ones I know, including myself. As for the "manipulative" comment, I try not to use that too broadly, just hate to see people get used by others. And that can go both ways for both sexes.

Long I think that given some time all things will fall into their place. I have been alone totally by choice for over 5 years myself and loving every minute of it. I don't miss the emotional rollercoasters and stress levels much myself. But again that's just me. I doubt I'm helping much here other then adding a random ramble, but I do hope you find your niche of happiness somehow. Best thing to remember is be yourself but never over do it either.
Women like a bit of mystery and intrigue, but not dishonesty. Also, have you thought of going to a class or something of your interest where you can meet like-mided people outside of DU? Art class, etc..??

women always love a challenge

will either start something for you, not start something for you, or if they are DUers, GET YOUR FUCKING CREEPY SEXIST ASS KICKED!!!

Enjoy!

apparently, If you even look at a DU woman, you get a face full of mace...:D

As long as you don't say something which means "I want to have sex with you" within the first five minutes, I'm sure you'll be fine. That's all we're saying.

... but then you say you want someone honest. What's a fella to do?

...that they are appreciated for more than their bodies. showing us that it's sex you want first will turn most of us off! mental and spiritual attractions are more important to us and for a decent, long-lasting relationship. you can be honest without being physically pushy. cultivate every other part of a friendship, and if the rest is meant to be, then let it be. sex is an extension of an otherwise intimate relationship, not the start of one.

Now here's a little something about most of us boys (especially those of us on a progressive website)... we can't get it up for a woman who takes the ridiculous seriously. Ok, that's a lie, we can get it up, but we can't fall in love. ;-)

For many years, I couldn't get a woman to look at me even if I paid her. Then, voila, at age 28, something happened. All of sudden I became this magnet. I could do some bragging here, but nope. My face used to look like the dark side of the moon, so I developed my brain and my personality and my soul. It WILL happen for you, my friend.

Most of the women I meet my age are usually going through that "totally fed up with men for the rest of my life" stage women seem to go through...It's kind of discouraging.

someone there, guaranteed.

So I can have the privilege of turning them that way

i had to read that several times before i got it! hahaha very funny....

i don't believe a word of it.

I guess that's why when people finally find someone, they hold on for dear life.

It's hard for everyone, and it's harder as you get older.

Try bleeding for five days out of every 28 for *40 years*, along with all the pain and discomfort. Then, the only time you get a reprieve from THAT, you are pregnant for 9 months, with its morning sickness, back pains, phantom contractions, limited mobility, etc, culminating in several hours or in some cases DAYS of excrutiating pain trying to push out something the size of a watermelon from an opening the size of a lemon.

Really Longgrain, there is just NO comparison.

Peace,
Bella, whose childbearing days are behind her, thank the gods of your choice.

on the other hand have been out back splitting wood all morning..

Especially since social norms usually require the man to ask a woman out, not the other way around. It's rather hard for those of us who are shy or fear rejection.

Part of my problem as well is not being from a very populated area, so it's more difficult to make a connection.

I live in a town of 600, no women my age, and the nearest big city is 300 miles away. (I have to fly there)

So, I can empathize.

I can pay that town like a video game

2-3% of women are lesbians, 10-12% of all men are gay.

Halle Berry, Angelina Jolie, Sharon Stone, Teri Hatcher, Drew Barrymore,Sandra Bullock, and Salma Hayak are just a few of the millions of women in America who can't find love, so I don't want to hear it! At least men don't have to worry about beaten senseless (or worse) by a blind date...

Hint for getting a date; be honestly interested in HER. Most men make it all about themselves, and work so hard to "impress' the girl that they never get to know her (and she is VERY aware of that fact). All human beings are the same; they want their opinions to be heard and they want to be valued for who they are.

Attracting people doesn't even assume that you can connect with a lot of people. It seems a number of men find me attractive on some sort of physical level, but when it comes to the deeper stuff, it's much harder for me to connect. Maybe I'm a bit quirky myself, but my ex says that I'm just too demanding of a person (he has his own issues when it comes to me though).

After I came to a decision to end my marriage, a man who had been interested in me before came forward to express his interest again. I thought we were in a similar place and understood one another, but apparently he can't handle anything with anyone and doesn't even have the courtesy to tell me at this point. It's very hard when most men seem to look at me like a piece of ass and the ones I have actually cared for and cared for me, let my guard down with, just completely physically or emotionally abandon me at times when I've been most vulnerable.

I mean, women have needs too and often feel a similar physical pain. Hell, at this point, just a date would be nice. I thought I'd soon be meeting the man that was in my life, but apparently, in his eyes, I'm worth no more than being fictional or fantasy person and I'm not actually a real person with feelings or emotions or needs. I'm probably just a thing for him to think about and feel sorry for himself or something as another woman who got away when it didn't have to be like this. Until I get over my trust apparently being yet again betrayed in life, I don't know how I'd be much good to any man for any major relationship. :(

The last woman I was seriously attracted to wasn't even all that attractive. I liked her because of her intelligence, creativity and personality (as odd as that sounds, but it was true).

Likewise, I've been told that I'm attractive, yet I can't attract anyone.

What I'm saying is being a man who is sensitive, creative, and mostly intelligent is sometimes a turn off for many women...I don't get it, go figure.

I'll tell you this: every half-decent-or-better relationship I've ever been in (including my guy now, almost 5 years and counting...) was with a guy I had hung out with as a friend for months or even years before we ever, y'know, hooked up.

So based on my experience I'd say the more female friends and friends-of-friends you have based on common interests or whatever, the better your odds are.