The best place to meet that special someone

Another grab from compuserve:


The best place to meet that special someone:

1. Introduced by friends: 40 percent
2. Chance or luck: 17 percent
3. Introduced by family: 11 percent
4. Sports or social clubs: 7 percent
5. Work: 3 percent
6. Bars: 2 percent
7. Internet: 1 percent
8. Newspaper classifieds: 1 percent


Let's give a queer eye at this statistical eye:

1. How many friends do you have? If you have no friends, being introduced becomes impossible.

2. Chance or luck. Oh the flying fickle finger of fate...

3. Hah! Most of my family avoids the concept and everything related to it like the plague. How my parents even got together is a miracle in of itself!

4. No sports. No social clubs. All the local sci-fi clubs worship star trek but nothing else. :eyes:

5. You don't find your honey at the place where you make your money.

6. These are great for one-nighers or other disease-prone encounters.

7. You only meet whackos on the internet. That's why you can find my personal ad on no less than 12 sites. :D

8. Newspaper classifieds? Hey, I may be a whacko, but I am no luddite!

I've been married twice...and I met them both in airports. My sister met her ex-husband,and her current SO at the same airport(Heathrow). My daughter met her current BF at Logan Airport. My neighbors met at Miami International,and they just celebrated their 10th anniversary. My ex-boss and his wife met at JFK. My uncle met his second wife at Shannon. These are just a few examples...I have more. So...if I decide I ever need to meet someone again,guess where I'm going to go?:)

Well, I met my honey on a MUD, so I guess it's a combo of #1, #4 and #7. I've always been a socially awkward introvert, so bars and the like were never an option for me.

In my experience, I find that it's much easier to find that "someone" when you're not looking. When I met Mr. Choxevani, I was on the rebound from a particularly bad relationship and had no interest in getting involved with anyone. We've been together now for about 5 years. I hate using the "S" word, so I won't, but we really are two of a kind, and I can honestly say that without the game there would have been no way in hell we ever would have met--he's an Aussie and I'm a New Yorker. Even if we had, he's a total babe and there's no way I could have ever worked up the nerve to talk to him irl. I know lots of people who've hooked up on MUDs--hell, I know of at least a dozen babies that wouldn't exist were it not for the game I currently play. If you're a nerd it's like an optimal place to find someone, since it's a relaxed atmosphere (not explicitly a "place to hook up" like a chat room or personals board), most people there share the same interests (we're nerds, after all), and it's easy to make friends.

--C.

Employment and enrollment have always been kind to me. These situations allow you to get to know a person over a longer period of time, and you can break the ice with minimal pressure.

I met my first wife through friends, and that lasted 3 years. Met my second wife at work, and we've been together 10 years!

:toast:

I have no friends, and those I used to have were not interested in seeing me hook up. In fact, several of them undercut me on many, many occasions.

Actually, I do have a couple of friends. One of them actively works to sabotage my dating life, so there's been a noticeable increase in distance there. The other two are married and have been nesting, so they aren't exactly the best talent scouts.

Chance or luck? Should I laugh at you or throw dinnerware?

My family? Well, both my brothers were fixed up several times by family members. I should have asked why they thought I wasn't worth mentioning.

Sports or social clubs? Can't say that I have.

Work? I'm unemployed right now, and I've been through one of those "done-even-think-about-it" lectures in nearly every workplace I've been in.

Bars? Four "hits", no diseases, all of them nice women, all of them left the area to go to school.

Internet? My youngest brother met his wife on the internet. I tried mightily for several years before giving up after a "fat-hairy-loser" lecture from a 25-year-old Mary Kay girl.

Newspaper classifieds? I tried these before the Internet came about. More expensive, fewer contacts.

FWIW, I'm straight, and I'm still hopeful I'll meet someone it works out with. However, I will no longer bust a gut to get laid. It just isn't worth it.

--bkl

When it happens, it happens and I have no idea where to improve the odds or to go about doing it.

In the meantime, I plod along and hope that Karma catches up with me sometime.

I can't imagine any woman who is both (a) tolerant enough to put up with my idiosynchracies (sp?) on a long-term basis, and (b) not a self-loathing wacko.

It's like Groucho Marx said: "I'd never join a club that would have me for a member."

I can honestly say I have about 60 friends in my town (I'm one of those guys that never throws away a number, and will actually call you to keep up the friendship), as in people I actively hang out with. So, whenever I go out with them, they bring their friends...yada yada. I have met so many people through people it not even funny. Lots times if I had any balls I could have hooked up with a nice lady. SO yeah friends all the way

And that's something that really bugs me. I've always figured that was the best way to meet someone compatible, yet nobody ever helped me out in that way. I've been in situations where I was so desperate to meet someone, had a friend with a boyfriend who had lots of friends, but did she introduce me to anyone? Noooooooooo! There was one guy she said she wanted me to meet, but she never followed through. Which was probably ok in that case, because she later told me he had just gotten out of jail!

Now that I'm in my forties, it's even tougher to meet someone, and friends I've met in recent years haven't introduced me to anyone either.

online. Whether a one night type of situation or a much more permanent union. (As is the case with myself and the lovely Mrs. DarkNemus) - from the age of 13 on. The first girl I dated, I met in a chatroom.. and its just been my 'method of choice' from there on out.

(For those curious, I'm 28 now)

-darknemus