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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 12:34 AM
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I'm going to be a Best Woman!!!!!
My good friend (best male friend) is getting remarried this coming September (if you read the cooking and baking group you may remember that I'm doing the wedding cake.) It's going to be a small ceremony (35 people) at a local B&B.

He asked me tonight if I would be his Best Woman (in lieu of having a Best Man.) I'm so flattered and thrilled - I've been a bridesmaid 5 dreary times but this is really cool.

I get to do the toast and everything. And he said I don't have to wear a tux but I think this is an excuse, uh reason to buy a killer dress, yes?
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 01:01 AM
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1. Super cool!
That really sounds like fun - you get to do the toast!

My best friend is a man -- if I ever get married he'll be Gentleman of Honor, I guess. And he won't have to wear a foofy pastel dress. :D
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 01:10 AM
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2. Good for you! That sounds great
It makes me abso-fucking-lutley nuts when people say that men and women can't be just friends. And when I say - "Yes they can - I know - I am!" And then they have the gall to tell me that I'm either mistaken or lying. What narrow little worlds some people live in!
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 01:23 AM
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3. Me too!
I've always had a lot of guy friends - and yes, they were "just" friends (that always seems kind of vaguely insulting to the intensity friendship can have, when you say "just friends").

One male friend of mine got married a few years ago and had a little freakout when he was putting together his bachelor party list, because he really wanted just his very closest friends there -- and except for him, the party turned out to be 100% women!
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:38 AM
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9. I bet he made a great husband
I think men who can be friends with women, especially close friends, have a more mature view of woman and tend to have better relationships.

When I met my husband I was wondering how I was going to explain my very close male friends (at that time there were two) and before I got a chance he asked me to meet his very best friend - a woman! I knew then it was fate.
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Nicole Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 01:47 AM
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4. You will love it!
I was best woman at my best friend's wedding.

I wore a strapless dress with a short tux jacket over it. I wore the same bow tie as the other guys but it looked like a choker with the strapless dress.

The jacket & tie made the pics look better because I matched the groom's men. I took the jacket off for the reception.
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:23 AM
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6. That's a great idea - thanks!
I have a sleeveless black silk sheath that I think will work. Since it's a second wedding he's not sure whether he'll be wearing a tux or not but I think I'll wear my black dress and a jacket for the ceremony.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 01:48 AM
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5. That's really cool..
and you've got a great friend. Good luck, and enjoy yourself!
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:25 AM
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7. Thanks!
I plan to - I'm so excited about the cake and I can work on my toast now, in my head, while I bake. :7
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ElectroPrincess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:26 AM
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8. Too cool. And novel news to me. Best Wishes!
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 07:07 PM
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22. Thanks for the good wishes! nt
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dr.strangelove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 10:19 AM
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10. I had a Best Woman
My dear friend Lisa was my "Best Woman." She wore a black tux/dress thing that she found somewhere. She made a tear jerking speech and performed the job beautifully (other than a ring juggle when she passed the rings over to me during the ceremony).
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 08:17 PM
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11. That's great - you guys must have a special friendship
I'll have to practice that ring pass ;-)
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Longgrain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 08:20 PM
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12. When one of my cousins got married she had her brother stand in
as the "man-of-honor" as opposed to the maid. So I guess wedding traditions are flexible these days...
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 01:18 PM
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17. They are flexible
I think it's good thing. Friendships do not fall so rigidly along gender lines; why force the "roles' that way?
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lumberingbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 08:33 PM
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13. I've been a "Best Man" 6 times
I'm a gay man and I've been a "Best Man" for five straight guys and one of them twice! (Six weddings total)
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 01:15 PM
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16. Wow! You either give great toasts, look great in a tux or
you're a great friend - or all of the above!

I'm guessing all - am I right?
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lumberingbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 08:26 PM
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23. They say I'm a great friend.
I try!
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 10:28 PM
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24. Sounds like you succeed! nt
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:25 PM
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14. Our best man was a Best Woman, too. She wore a dress just like
the one my sister (my matron of honor) wore. They decided when it was time to walk back down the aisle after the ceremony that they would not link arms!!!

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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-18-05 09:31 PM
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15. At first, I thought you meant this!
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 01:19 PM
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18. Wow those are some successful crossdressers
They must have a lot of practice ;-)
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 06:53 PM
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19. They're the undercover squad
They've got to be the best.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 06:53 PM
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20. That's great!
WOOHOO!:bounce:
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Hans Delbrook Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-19-05 07:07 PM
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21. Thanks! nt
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