So I've been fighting back tears at work today.

I apologize if this isn't loungey -meaning upbeat- enough.

Stress from my relationship with Hubby is getting to me. At one point a friend came over and asked what was wrong and I couldn't talk or else I'd cry so she gave me a kiss on the cheek and told me she was there for me. When I was alone again I started to cry and went to the bathroom to get my shit together. That's when the weirdest thing happened.

All of my life I've heard someone say in person or on TV to "splash your face with cold water," when you cry or when you are trying to get that puffy face, red eyes thing to go away. I never tried it before because it made no sense to me but today I did and it was like magic! Whoosh! No more red eyes and I looked normal. Has anyone else tried this? Is this some old wives tale that happens to be true? I'm just so amazed that I wanted to share.

i hope things get better for you :hug:

Knowing I have the power to wash the weepies away actually has cheered me up. Ironic huh?

the dog climbed up on my bed after she was crawling through some poison oak,which i got all over my face.so i've been puffy since monday,it's only now just getting back to normal.

I'm glad that it's better. I had a moment but you had a whole week! That really sucks.

I hope the stress gets resolved. I know that feeling and it sucks to be crying at work.

:hug:

I've used it many times myself.

I'm sorry for what you're going through. :hug:

Is there any sort of support group you can turn to?

Walks are good when you can fit them in too.

Hope things take a turn for the better for you.

I'm not really a group person though. I'm thinking of starting therapy again though. Thanks everybody for the well wishes and hugs.

:hug: a safe place to get your head straighter.

"Hey! You're you and other people like you whether you're having a bad time with Hubby or not! This too shall pass...so...get back out there and...feel better!" (Really, cold water can talk.)

But more importantly, I'll echo what others here have said: Do you have someone you can talk to? You should...

hugs,
-Technowitch

Marriages have their ups and downs, and sometimes it's just incredibly stressful forcing their expectations on you. I don't know if that's at all what's happening, of course. But it's so often the case that maybe it's a lucky guess.

These are stressful times and when our "significant others" are seeming more like "the stressful Other" it's hard to take. But give it time, and try to concentrate on breathing and little rituals to relax..maybe a cup of tea or 5 minutes of stretching exercises or something...and getting a fresh perspective. Hang in there.

Here's a hug from someone who went through it just last week.

And yes, the cold water splash helps.

I'm glad the cold water worked :hug:

it does help a lot.

Cold water is great; also cold wet teabags

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. I've been through some rough times with my spouse and I know how it hurts. If you can get some professional counseling it will help put it all in perspective. :hug:


Yes, the cold water trick is great! I've used it before (I cry, I admit it) and it's like, BOOM, instant fine.

Warning... Don't use this trick if you are wearing mascara! :)