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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:22 PM
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I saw a full-on temper tantrum today
I was in the grocery store. They were giving out samples and this kid wanted some, but her mother said no. She dropped to the ground and started yelling, screaming and kicking. There was no preamble, just instant madness. My mother would have killed me if I'd done anything like that.
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KG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:24 PM
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1. i had a nephew who did that
couldn't believe how fast he hit the ground w/o hurting himself. almost comical.
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Quetzal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:25 PM
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2. I work in a supermarket
and I see it at least once or twice a week.

How did the mother respond to the child?
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:26 PM
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5. Picked her up, scolder her
and dumped her in the cart (gently.) The kid didn't get what she wanted.
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Quetzal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:32 PM
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10. Smart move on the part of the mother
that way the girl is trapped and has nowhere to run.
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SharonAnn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:38 PM
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15. Some children with brain or mental disorders do that. Good
strategy on the part of the mother regardless of the cause.
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:25 PM
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3. Same here.
No way would I get outa that one.
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Technowitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:25 PM
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4. 'Killed me' no? Abandoned cart of groceries--
--and took me home immediately for punishment, yes.

Anyway, a child does that typically when they know it works sometimes.
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ayeshahaqqiqa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:27 PM
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7. my mom threw water
on my older brother when he threw his first and only tantrum. Really worked well, because I never threw one, either.
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onager Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:31 PM
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9. This sounds made up...
...but it really happened a couple weeks ago.

I was cutting thru the toy section at Target, and ran into a Dad with 3 little girls who were making life interesting for him.

One had started whining for something, and a second one was chiming in with a Sympathy Whine (in two-part harmony).

Oddly, the youngest, probably about 4 or 5, was the best-behaved. She pointed to a display of toy guns, badges, etc. and said: "Look, Daddy! Handcuffs!"

He said: "Don't tempt me."
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:27 PM
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6. Hi, yvr girl, how ya doin'tonight?
This is one tough scenario for the mom. Some kids are like that; the question is how do you handle it? Give in, and then the kid has a weapon for the future...Don't give in, and everyone thinks the mom is a monster. It's embarrassing, to say the least. What did the mom do, in this case? Kudos to her if she just picked up the child and walked away calmly.

:wtf:

:hi:
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:33 PM
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12. I'm doing well
Trying to motivate myself to cook dinner. The closest thing I've had to a meal in the last week was a sandwich. I should do better tonight.

It was actually funny, because the tantrum came on so fast. The mom handled it perfectly. I have a feeling she wasn't a tantrum virgin.
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:29 PM
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8. My SIL said that my nephew did that once at the mall.
she walked away, and sat down on a wall. After a few seconds she turned to the woman sitting next to her and said "I dont't know that kid. He's been following me around all day."
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:39 PM
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16. That's hysterical
I went for dinner with my friend and her 3 young sons. (What an experience.) On the way back out to the car, her 4-year old stepped in a puddle. He was convinced it was gas and that it was BURNING HIS FOOT! The kid is highly strung, but hysterically funny. It's so hard not to feed his little drama's by laughing.
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 10:13 PM
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24. I love that term "highly strung" because it's so true of some kids.
My daughter was. Unfortunatly the advice I always got was to keep her stimulated and interested. Wrong. What she needed was quiet and routine. By the time I figured that out she was already an adrenaline addict and 13.
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rox63 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:33 PM
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11. A friend's son used to do that sort of thing
It turned out he was autistic and bipolar.
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:51 PM
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23. If he was autistic and bipolar, he was probably behaving this way
at home, at the playground, actually everywhere that introduced strangers and strange things to him. How is he now?
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rox63 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-27-05 06:40 PM
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25. He behaved that way in a lot of other places
He's now 11, and he's doing a lot better. He's on anti-psychotic medication, and receiving special therapy at home and school. When he was younger, before he was properly diagnosed, he was kicked out of every day care facility in his area. He once attacked his school aide badly enough to send her to the hospital. And that was when he was only 6 or 7.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:35 PM
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13. Mine used to do that
"I'm staaarviing." I swear to god, she would screach it at the top of her lungs. Everybody would bust up laughing. I'm not the one that gave her candy, the people who thought it was the funniest thing they'd ever seen did.
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:37 PM
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14. Well then it's a good thing you didn't eh?
And btw, are you absolutely SURE you didn't?

Kids do that all the time, especially super young ones. My daughter did that exactly twice at the age of two. I simply picked her up and left.
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:45 PM
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19. I'm positive. I truly was a golden child.
I 'talked back' to my parents once when I was about 15 and they almost fell over in shock.

I'm still not one for yelling or shouting. I'm much more prone to giving the silent treatment.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:40 PM
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17. We've passed that stage at Maestro's house
Now we just pout, but what do you expect from a 5 and 3 year old.
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Mrs_Beastman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:40 PM
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18. Mr B and I call that "The James Brown"
Did her mother drap a coat over her and escort her out of the store?
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:49 PM
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22. No. Picked her up and dumped her in the cart
The scold seemed to do the trick.
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:47 PM
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20. my daughter used to go "Boneless chicken" or "Stiff board"
instead of a full on hissy. the stiff board won't allow you to get your hands under her arms and boneless chicken is your basic slump to the floor which i used to actually find hilarious. Kids being kids, they grow out of that phase.
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MissB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Mar-26-05 09:48 PM
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21. I like to give pointers
You know, pointers on how to throw a better temper tantrum. It usually works. :shrug:

Laughter ensues, tantrum over, child still doesn't get what he wants.
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Schema Thing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-27-05 07:04 PM
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28. That was my way of dealing with it too
I think one of the biggest mistakes of most parents is to grant their children's level of drama an equivelant level of concern.

Baby cries because it has a messy diaper = serious situation.

Toddler cries because candy is passed by = joke.

I'm sure it's where republicans come from, really.
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Not_Giving_Up Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-27-05 06:47 PM
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26. As the mom of an ADHD/Aspie/ODD son
I've had to deal with more than one tantrum (I prefer 'meltdown') in public. It's thoroughly embarassing, but has to be dealt with immediately, or he thinks he wins. More than once, people have stared at me hauling the child off to the car screaming at the top of his lungs as though I'm abducting him. Congrats to that mom for nipping it in the bud!
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gollygee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-27-05 06:49 PM
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27. LOL I have lived that
It takes a while for them to learn that no means no. The only thing that seems to work is consistantly not giving into the tantrums.
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