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dolo amber Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:04 AM
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*sigh*...I get so tired of being a mom sometimes
The 4 yr old is sick. I'm supposed to be at work today. My male counterpart has a job that *actually* supports the family, not a piddly part-time office job that could not possibly support us. Thus, when the kids are sick (which they have been moreso in the last few weeks than in the last few years, if ever), it only makes sense that I stay home with them.

So I call into work, explain the situation...I can practically HEAR them rolling their eyes. I get the long pause, the "Umm-hmmm...ok, if you have to, I guess there's nothing we can do about it" and then *CLICK*.

:(
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Dookus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:09 AM
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1. awww
I'm sorry. That's gotta suck.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:10 AM
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2. Awwww, Sweetie...
Don't you love being reminded how deep family values really run for most people?

:pals:

You're doing what's right... fuck 'em.

Give the little one a kiss for me. :)
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dolo amber Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:59 AM
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24. I ain't kissin' her!
She's all germy! x(

;)
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ewagner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:12 AM
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3. I understand what you're talking about
Edited on Fri Apr-08-05 11:21 AM by ewagner
during our "child raising" years, my wife worked for an accounting firm which had very, very strict attendence rules for tax season. On the other hand, my time was more flexible (OTR sales) so when sicknesses or DR appointments happened during tax season, I filled in. It worked pretty well but the down side was for the discretionary events like school plays, sporting events, etc., Whne my wife couldn't be there to enjoy them, I was....

We were actually pretty lucky I suppose......
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XNASA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:13 AM
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4. Oh, don't be sad. In a few years, your kids won't be so sick all the time.
When they get older, they're not as prone to illness.

And then, when they're teens, you only have to call in late to work because you'll be down at the Police Station bailing them out.

Life is so rich, when you have teenagers.
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Karenina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 12:13 PM
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25. BWHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
:spank:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:13 AM
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5. I'm sorry, sweetie.
I trust she has stopped puking at least.

And yes, I've had that response a time or two myself. Mostly from bosses who have nannies taking care of their kids. :(
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Spacemom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:14 AM
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6. I have one of the 4 year old varieties myself
We've luckily avoid most of the "ickies" this year.

Sorry to hear your little one isn't feeling well.

Kids have to come first, anyone that doesn't understand that is a fuckhead.

:hug:
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:15 AM
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7. I'm sorry, sweetie.
That's got to be tough.

I hope the kids feel better soon.

:hug:

T
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:16 AM
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8. um dolo
those of us who cannot have children would tell you to COUNT YOUR FREAKING BLESSINGS
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:18 AM
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11. Kids dying of easily treatable waterborne illnesses in 3rd world countries
would tell you to count yours.

:wtf:
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dolo amber Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:19 AM
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12. ...
:( :hug:

Seems we always want the opposite of what we have sometimes. :)
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:21 AM
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13. REDQUEEN (still cannot reply to your posts)
I ALREADY DO COUNT MY BLESSINGS
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:22 AM
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14. STILL?! That is SO weird...
Edited on Fri Apr-08-05 11:33 AM by redqueen
That post just completely confused me... glad you do see we all have things to be glad for, just as we all have reasons to bitch...

:hi:

on edit... duh... wording of the subject line - now I get it.
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gollygee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:16 AM
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9. That sucks
when you're a mom, you've got to do what you've got to do. Sucks that the people you work with aren't more understanding.

I hope your wee one feels better soon.
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DebinTx Donating Member (389 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:17 AM
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10. I know how you feel
although I work full time, when my kids were small, only mom could tend them when they're sick and I hated calling into work for it. I work in a male dominated field, so it was much harder to get them to sympathize but they do get over it.

Just think of it this way, that's extra time that you get to spend with your child just one-on-one, soothing and comforting them when they are feeling their absolute worst. Your child will remember that for forever. The job is just a job. You can get another job, not another kid.

Hope your child gets better soon!
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:23 AM
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15. OH FUCK THEM
I know exactly what you mean. Because you're not available to work the eighty hours of their choosing, you're not a team player.

I have a five year old and this shit just enrages me.
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:36 AM
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16. those corporations the family-values repukes love so much
sure hate families
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:44 AM
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17. My 5 year old has been sick too
She has walking pneumonia. I am a single mom and have had to work half days all week, while her dad has been doing the same. I have to say that he has been extremely cooperative and helpful during this VERY trying week. The fevers spike in the middle of the night. On Wednesday, I found her in the bathroom at 4am with 103 fever, crying for no reason. She said she just wanted to hang out with me but didn't want to wake me. Poor thing. My job has been quite understanding, but I do hear the grumbles from the coworkers who have had to pick up the slack. Screw them! They have dogs instead kids, their choice.
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HEyHEY Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:46 AM
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18. I'll give you top dollar for your kids - I'm low on staff in my sweatshop
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dolo amber Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:54 AM
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22. That's a sweet offer, J...
But they're *my* kids...in other words, you ain't gonna get much work outta them. :D
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miss_kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:47 AM
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19. I never had kids, but I feel for ya.
It's really important that kids get attention and care and special treatment sometimes.

I'm glad you have a partner who assists you guys monetarily. This signals that he's got your back all the way darlin.' Fuck work. Your 4 year old getting Mom's Special Care and feeling better is more important than a stupid job.

:hug: (OK. There's something wrong with me. I just used the 'hug' smilie for the first time)
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dolo amber Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:59 AM
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23. Yay!
Now I feel all special. :D :hug:
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ChavezSpeakstheTruth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:50 AM
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20. That blows. I hate jobs - the are the lamest
:hug:
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 11:53 AM
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21. I know EXACTLY what you're talking about.
sigh.
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purr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 12:21 PM
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26. Office soaps..
Argh.. I hate them. Offices are nothing but a load of drama with paperwork thrown in.

Hope your 4 yr old gets better soon.. My soon to be 2 year old daughter had the rotavirus last month and boy that was fun... Hospital for 2 days, and before that it was puking for 24 hours straight.

Take time with your baby...
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-08-05 12:33 PM
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27. I know.
It absolutely sucks! Been there so many times. One good thing now though about my ex is that he's the boss where he works (makes his own hours, salaried, etc.), can do some of his work at home. Plus, he used to work where I work now and understands their very strict policies on missing work, so there's no excuse anymore. It's always him now. :7
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