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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:52 PM
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Poll question: Do you believe in "The One"
No, not the Matrix or the Jet Li movie!

I mean do you believe that fate/God/etc. has one person in the world whom you are supposed to be with?
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:55 PM
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1. Yes, but I believe there could be more than one "one"
does that make sense?
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:58 PM
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5. heh. We think alike.
Look down-thread.
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Beaverhausen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:59 PM
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6. uh oh. wonder what that means?
yes, I agree with what you said. I feel so sure of the one I'm with that I don't want to look around for someone "better"
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:56 PM
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2. Found him a little over 16 years ago......
I looked for him "forever and a day"

I can't even listen to Kathy Mattea's song with tearing up big time...


http://www.coquet-shack.com/lyrics/Kathy_Mattea/Whereve_You_Been_0648.htm
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intheflow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:24 PM
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26. That song gets me every time!
I'm so glad you found your someone. Although I beleive there are many someones for each of us, I had also just about given up when I found my partner six years ago. Totally Mattea!

Cheers to us for finally finding love! :toast:
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:31 PM
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31. Oh, I know that I probably would have eventually settled for someone
but, luckily, I found "The One" when I was 35. Congratulations on finding your too! :toast:
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:57 PM
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3. Yes, unequivocally.
Mrs. B and I just clicked from the moment we met. We chatted online and on the phone several times before meeting in person, and I had no forethought in having a serious relationship with anybody. Even on our first date, neither of us have the jitters one has when meeting somebody for the first time. It was like getting reacquainted with an old friend. Everything just fell into place from there. I believe we were meant to be with each other.
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 06:57 PM
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4. Yes and no....
I seriously doubt that any person has one other person in the whole world with whom they can live a blissful, connected life. There could be quite a few "the ones" out there for everybody.

That said, I've found someone who I believe is in fact "the one" for me, so I'm not at all inclined to search for any other "the one".

(Did that make sense?)
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:03 PM
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7. I think that's different from there being a fate determined "one"
though. That's saying you've found someone who you're compatible enough with that your SO is "the one" for you, but not really the one ONE.

I'm talking more one person out of 6,000,000,000 that you were meant to be with.

david
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:22 PM
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21. No. I believe you missed my point.
Granted, it was poorly worded.

I'm not saying that I've found someone who is "compatible enough". Not at all. I'd say that we are perfectly compatible (to the extent that that's possible).

My point was that there may be more than just ONE person out there in the big 'ol world who could, if circumstances were different, make me feel as happy, fulfilled, and alive in a relationship as my current partner does.

I plan on being with her for the rest of my life, and I say that with zero reservations.

That's a lot different than feeling like I've done "good enough".

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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:23 PM
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24. Look, Blue-Jay, you get what you settle for...
KIDDING!!!

No, it was my response that was poorly worded. Yours was spot on!

Sorry about that!

:)

david
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:29 PM
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30. Hahaha!
Damn, before I scrolled down, I was getting ready to get a post deleted by the mods.

Well done. Damn well done!

heh heh heh.
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 10:39 PM
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44. Didn't mean to scare you...
:)

david
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:31 PM
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32. I think I highly resent that remark
;-)
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:10 PM
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10. You better NOT be looking
for any other "the ones" (or at least post about it on a board that I read). :P
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:23 PM
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23. See post #21.
muah.

(P.S. Aren't you supposed to be at work?) :P
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 11:23 AM
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48. That's why I'm glad my wife doesn't read this board
Edited on Fri Apr-22-05 11:26 AM by 4_Legs_Good
:)

david

Edit: Kidding!!!!

(just in case she's watching)...
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:18 PM
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16. I hope your couch is comfy.
:evilgrin:
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Blue-Jay Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:24 PM
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25. Why? You need a place to flop tonight?
She knows what I meant.
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warrens Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:08 PM
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8. What a depressing prospect that would be
Wreckless Eric had a song called Whole Wide World about that. While he was looking in France for her, she was in a South Seas island looking for him. Then vice versa.

We all have a fairly narrow set of criteria, but in a world of billions of people, that adds up to millions of matches.

Me, I don't even have a real type. I think women tend to be much more specific in what they are looking for, as a rule. Just my observation. My exes range all over the map.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:10 PM
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9. Yes. I've been through two of them already.
Right now, I'm just waiting to see if there is going to be a third.
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RC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:14 PM
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11. No. there are several 'Ones'
If any of those 'Ones' would PM me... Who knows I could be your Prince Charming.:hi: :hug: :loveya:
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:18 PM
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17. LOL
Great response!

david
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tavalon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:16 PM
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12. Heavens no!
I'm polyamorous so that would be in direct conflict with what I know to be true for me. I have two partners. They are quite different but I wouldn't pick one over the other. I also know there may be others out there for me or for my partners (both of them have at least one other significant other). Maybe for others there is only one but not for me.
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radwriter0555 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:16 PM
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13. No. Humans are genetically programmed to have multiple partners.
I've been in love several times, and if need be, will be in love again.

It's a very enjoyable emotion. Why restrict it to one other human on the planet?

I have PLENTY of love to go around!!!!!!!
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:16 PM
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14. No.
I CHOSE the person I am with and they CHOSE me
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:19 PM
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18. Eenie, Meenie, Minie, Mo...
Catch NSMA by her toe... :D
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:20 PM
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19. Heh heh heh
I don't want to bias anything, but that's my exact feeling. I think it's *WAY* more romantic to choose to make each other "the one" than it is to have some dumbass fate dictate it for you and have you running around the world looking for it.

Anyway, just my feelings.

david
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:51 PM
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36. Exactly...thanks
are you feeling a bit better? I know you were a bit distraught over the events in Rome.
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:03 PM
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37. Yeah, a bit
between all the apologetics going around saying "things *might* be okay" and his early comments, who knows, who knows.

I'll survive one way or another.

:)

david
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Fenris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:17 PM
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15. No.
I find that scenario to be impossible.
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:22 PM
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22. Loki told me you'd say that.
;)
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Fenris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:25 PM
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27. No offense, but I find the idea silly.
However, I do think you can find someone who is a perfect match. :)
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:26 PM
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28. I was not offended in the least.
:)
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Fenris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:27 PM
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29. Good to know.
:)
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intheflow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:20 PM
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20. God tends toward diversity.
I could no more believe there is only one life partner for me out there than I could believe there is only one kind of tree, one kind of "true" religion, one kind of way to be sexual, or one human skin pigment.
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belladonna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:32 PM
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33. Three months ago, I would have said no
But I hadn't met the ONE then... now I have and I'm firmly convinced he's the one I've been waiting for all my life :loveya:
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4_Legs_Good Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:35 PM
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34. :) My wife said the opposite
She *DID* believe in "The One" until she met me.

Too funny.

david
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HeeBGBz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 07:37 PM
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35. Yes but
I believe my One is probably in a tribe on the other side of the planet. Chances are slim that our paths will cross.
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two gun sid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:05 PM
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38. Only one person? What a cruel God.
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Magrittes Pipe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:06 PM
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39. I didn't until I found her.
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:06 PM
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40. Yes
I'm sitting next to her right now; it took awhile, but I found my soulmate:)
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last_texas_dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:56 PM
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41. No
Or maybe, but if there is just one "one" and he/she could be anywhere in the whole world, you will probably never find them.

That's my optimistic thought of the day. :-)
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 09:59 PM
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42. I think there are many potential "Ones" out their for everyone.
I do not believe there is only ONE Mr. or Ms. Right for anyone.
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 10:07 PM
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43. No.
With what 290 million people in this country alone there's got to be more than one good match for everyone. A lot more. Trick is meeting enough people to find one of those "the ones."
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Amaya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 10:41 PM
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45. Yes
nt
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 10:41 PM
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46. Yes...no...maybe...I dunno
Part of me thinks it would be nice for there to be SOMEONE out there who was meant for me. Another part knows that there are likely many people out there I could be happy with. And of course, the times I think I've met "the one"...something always gets in the way. *sigh*
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tjdee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-21-05 10:42 PM
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47. I met him...but now I'm banking on Adrien Brody.
Edited on Thu Apr-21-05 10:43 PM by tjdee
I mean, that's about as realistic.

I do strongly believe I met 'the one'...but we aren't together anyway.

Sigh. So I'm hoping there's another one. I doubt it, but I'm being optimistic today.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 11:25 AM
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49. I have no idea.
At this point I'm starting to doubt the existence of the ANY.
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Huckebein the Raven Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 11:29 AM
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50. Not a chance
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CO Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 11:30 AM
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51. Yes
Edited on Fri Apr-22-05 11:31 AM by CO Liberal
And we celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary back in February.

:loveya:
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 11:47 AM
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52. No. Do the numbers
If there were literally only one of 6 billion meant for you, that's a serious needle-in-a-haystack problem. You couldn't sort through that many people in a lifetime. Even taking into account that "the one" is likely to be close to home, that's a tall order.

The fact that there are as many contented couples in the world as there are, I think, shows that there are a number of possibilities for each person.

Also, the existence of someone who has found "the one" twice is a valid counterexample.
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