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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:30 PM
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My best friend's husband has inoperable cancer .... just found out
please, if you pray, meditate, believe in karma .. send some thoughts their way. Just a few years ago their 17 year old daughter was murdered. My friend said "for the record, I don't think I can handle this one" ...

:cry:

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Padraig18 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:31 PM
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1. God, that's awful!
I'll remember them both in my prayers.
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Arkana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:32 PM
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2. Oh, God, that's so awful.
I'm so sorry for your friend.
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:32 PM
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3. wow, dude
Huge hugs and lots of good vibes and strength to them, and to you. :hug:
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ScooterTramp Donating Member (253 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:33 PM
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4. This. world. sucks. sometimes.
I'm so sorry! :(
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SCRUBDASHRUB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:34 PM
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5. I am so sorry. Sending prayers your way.
:grouphug:
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CottonBear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:34 PM
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6. I'm sending good thoughts to your friend and her husband.
That is so awful. They are really going to need a good friend like you during this difficult time.
:hug:
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Mrs_Beastman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:35 PM
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7. That's awful
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Maat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:36 PM
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8. The family is in my prayers.
Take care yourself!
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:37 PM
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9. Holy Mary Mother of God,
comfort us.

I'm sure you'll be a good friend to your best friend. She'll be needing you.

Redstone
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:37 PM
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10. I'm very sorry to hear this
Your poor friend. :cry:
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:39 PM
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11. I'm so sorry...
my husband's uncle just got a similar diagnosis. It really sucks. I'll be praying for your friend as well.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:40 PM
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12. Oh, I'm so sorry.
:hug:
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Tom Kitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:41 PM
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13. I am sorry
you all will be in my prayers.
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sandnsea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:47 PM
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14. oh dear lord
It is unbelievable what some people go through on this planet. Praying for peace and comfort for her. And strength for you to help her through this. Cannot imagine it.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:54 PM
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15. thank you all ..
for the kind words,
They are only in their late 40's ...
and SO scared.
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surfermaw Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:54 PM
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16. I will pray
I lost my daughter to cancer, she was told the day she went in for female surgery, when they looked at her lungs, they couldn't operate. She lived from June 6, to August 24,2005.

I know how the lady feels, it is hard , some days will be ok,and just when you think it is getting better, the thoughts will come again.

I will pray for the husband and the wife.And thanks for all the prayers sent up from this board for my daughter.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 08:58 PM
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17. my deepest condolences to you and your family
in your loss. Cancer is so awfully devastating. Lost my mother to colon cancer a few years ago. The pain diminishes in time, but the emptiness never goes away. These two are so close and have come through so much together. I don't know how she'll make it through this should it not be treatable.

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hue Donating Member (571 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:08 PM
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18. So sorry to hear that aA!
So sorry! It does seem like some of the best people go through more than most!
May I ask what kind of cancer he has?
My prayers are with your friend and you! It's best to just take one day at a time now!
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:19 PM
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22. It sounds like it might have started
as lung cancer (?) and has moved to lymphs and is now showing on / near his windpipe.
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from her letter ..

needs to confirm what particular kind to know what chemo and radiation to give as it is inoperable! It started from a tiny spot on his lung which didn't grow but jumped over to I think he said a lymph node beside his windpipe. Right now after about 5 weeks Grant has gone from 1 morphine twice a day to 3 twice a day for the pain in his legs and so he can still walk a bit.

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I will be calling her tomorrow , I would be of no comfort to her tonight. I am just too upset for them. I did email her and told her I'd talk with her in the morning.


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valis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:14 PM
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19. Terrible.... What pisses me off is the state of health care in the US
Edited on Wed Apr-27-05 09:14 PM by valis
It is so difficult to see a doctor that people wait until it is too late. And there is almost nothing for preventive care...
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HeeBGBz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:17 PM
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20. I'm sorry.
Sending prayers
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:18 PM
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21. sweet jesus
nothing i can say
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 10:31 PM
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25. I know ...
same reason I couldn't phone her tonight ...

:cry:

life is just not kind to some people.

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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:21 PM
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23. I'm so very sorry.
I'm sorry. :hug: to your friend, her family and to you.
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MissB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-27-05 09:24 PM
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24. I'm so sorry
It is so unfair that people that have already lost so much have to face even more loss.
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