True beauty comes from within.

Dontcha think?



:)

Ida Know

the cynicism! :wow:

It leaks out from time to time

x(

I think not. :)

trying to reach you all day

And in europe it comes in bottles...somtimes wrapped in wax paper

That statement always smacks of "If a tree fell down in a forest, does it make a sound?" or whatever the question is. :silly:

Plus, it's an easy way to say everyone's beautiful, which is causing me a lot of angst since I learned not everyone is special.

Are they?

I don't know anything anymore! :scared:

...but ugly on the inside. And ultimately, that ugliness trumps whatever physical beauty they may be perceived to have.

But beauty is in actions and kindness. Generosity. Compassion. A sympathetic ear.

I don't think that this is a tree falling in a forest at all. :shrug:

I just think each kind of beauty must be valued independently. Would I find Mariah Carey physically beautiful? Yes. Would all signs point to her having a beautiful personality? No.

There is also intelectual beauty, and then there are some women who posess all three (Jeanene Garafalo.)

And of course there are those who posess none.

i prolly phrased that wrong.

:hi:

I have a friend from college who only is interested in physical beauty. That might be strange to us, but he's completely at ease with it.

He got married to a barbie-doll type wife, and despite the fact the two have nothing in common except the pursuit of physical perfection, strangely enough they don't fight a lot. They have a kid now, and the two are now in their mid thirties. They both spend about 3 hours in the gym per day, and eat stragically. You and I would look at them and not see the point, but they're happy with it.

Strangely, neither is really that much of an a**hole, theyre just both incredibly vain. Strange folks.

to figure out what keeps people together, and he stops a couple on the street to ask them what brought them together:

Alvy: You look like a very happy couple...How do you account for it?

Young Woman: I'm very shallow and empty and I have no ideas and nothing interesting to say.

Boyfriend: And I'm exactly the same way.

I do notice as I get older, It's not so easy to separate physical beauty from inner beauty - I know a lot of people who are "technically" gorgeous, but the more you get to know them the less appealing they become.

Then there are people that probably wouldn't turn your head on the street, but the more you get to know them the more attractive they become.

A lot of people can have that inner beauty but go on with their lives being unnoticed by those around them. Many are too busy within their own worlds to see someone who is truly beautiful inside but doesn't project it for others to see.

blood is just so messy.

:*

I am hideously ugly inside. :cry:

i've seen pictures


;)

:cry:

(but i didn't actually mean it)

:(

:scared:

:evilgrin:

doctor take a picture so you could look at him from inside as well?

:D

Cute, but no hunk.

I'd hope people would see other things about me than just looks.

. . . if you had been around me the other night after I consumed those baked beans.

B-)

:rofl:

you've got some inner beauty going on there. you always make me laugh.

but whatever turns ya on...

:spank:

......It Sure Is Nice If Some of It Spills Over To the Outside

check your e-mail, btw. sent those pics finally.

:hug:

:)

how's your day going?

and not the good kind x(

I've been pitching everyone I know on your place, by the way.
Maybe my lack of success has something to do with the way I am pronouncing the name of the town. ;)

;)

different days, different moods... riding the rollercoaster of life... it's a blast :7

self-centered that they're ugly. I went out with the president of a frat when I was in college who was pretty much the best-looking guy on campus. He couldn't carry on a conversation without it coming back to him. Example:

Me: "It's a beautiful day."

Him: "I wonder what XYZ sorority will do if I walk into their house in my jogging shorts"

It got really boring after a while, and the sex was less than exciting because it was all about him. He was the classic narcissist. he surrounded himself with buddies who were little more than 'yes' men, who basked in his superiority and uniqueness, which he was always telling everyone about. If you criticized him, a shitstorm would erupt. He had no self-reflection whatsoever.

I was sweet and kind-hearted, but I knew I was being played. Since then, I've been able to spot narcissistic personality disorder, and the manipulative tendencies that accompany it. And I run as quickly as I can in the other direction.

And he was in a fraternity (TKE...same as Ronald Reagan)

Good thing you got out.

BTW...not all of us Frat guys are evil :-D

I did a lot of dating in college. :-) Frat guys were easy! :o

just kidding...

I have run into more men than women with narcissistic personality disorder. I think I was a magnet for them when I was younger, but grew out of it. I have only met three women who were narcissists, and it's sad, scary, and disconcerting. The only way these people ever get a clue is through intervention, but that also feeds their persecution complex ("I'm so unique and wonderful that everyone is jealous/plotting against me/judging me").

I've known a few of these too, men and women. They are so enamored of their own wonderfulness that they have absolutely no insight into their faults. Unlike normal people, who learn and grow, they remain stagnated at some lower level of development. The problem is never them. It is always others, who are, as you said, jealous, judgemental, and out to get them. There's not much you can do about it either, other than to give them a wide berth.

I was thinking of this woman I knew on the punk rock scene many years ago. She was the classic narcissist. Even though she had a boyfriend-who was basically an enabler-she would try to seduce other men right in front of him. She drank and did a lot of drugs too, so it was like watching a train wreck. There was no talking to her, and people began avoiding her like the plague. She died of a drug overdose last year at 39.

they have to pull a stunt to get everyone's attention. of course the stunt usually leads to the humilitaion of their friends and lovers, but it never matters does it? as long as the spolight is where it should be. :shug:

I'm just saying.

Oh....of course not...you said good looking. :evilgrin:

:puke:

He's old enough to be my father! And just "ewwwwww" in general!

:eyes:

and set the boston record for going from 0 to 3 kisses.
here's another.
:*

:crazy:

:* back at ya.

Hey, its a compliment :), I cant even talk with people really well none less be kissed by them but ahh well.

:loveya:

:evilfrown:

Oh well, I :loveya: anyway.


Hey, did you see my post count? Holy fucking fuck! :o

and you're my sis

:loveya:

There, now you're like a rapper or something. :P

DJ Jazz Sis?

:wtf:

DJ Piss.

no thanks. try again.

:rofl:

:hi:

"someone could be physically attractive...but ugly on the inside. And ultimately, that ugliness trumps whatever physical beauty they may be perceived to have."

I, for one, have never been attracted to people purely based on physical appearances. Nice, sure, but many other things are more important to me, and without them, I don't find the person attractive.

The most beautiful moment in my life was trying to get through that second day of labor 4 years ago just so I could hold my baby in my arms. I was 230 pounds, sweaty, and miserable. The greatest moments of my life, the ones involving true love and true strength of character have nothing to do with anything external. Those people I have loved, I have love for their strength of character, their minds, their beings. External stuff is only icing on the cake. There are things that matter far more. However, good icing does not mean necessarily mean bad cake either. Some people take care of all facets of themselves- body, mind, and spirit and there is nothing wrong with that either.

However I do enjoy a nice torte every now and then...

The word beautiful to me is a person who is a good person not just in looks but in personality and etc too.

my father said of her in their life together that she'd only grown more lovely to him over time, that every line in her once flawless face had become like a dear, much beloved friend.

Emerson said, "As we age, beauty steals inward."

That was the moment I fully understood the truth of Emerson's words. My parents, at their advanced age, were luminously beautiful people.

your father obviously loved your mother very much!

Wow. :hug:

but doesn't really hold up to reality.

:-)

I have known many good-looking men in my lifetime, and mostly it had to do more with their personality than superficial definitions of handsomeness.

I usually don't worry about such things. I either dig someone or I don't.

Even though he looks like David Bowie and sounds like HS Thompson and has the passion in him of a thousand Sam Kinnisons and is as articulate and funny as a liberal William F Buckley, and as sharp as a thousand knives and can hold his own whatever the circumstance....

:bounce: :bounce:

It's good to see you. I hope you had some fun today ... at least a little bit.

I'm diggin on Smack

Bok_Tukalo rocks!

that is why I see the beauty in so many people here while reading black text on a white background.

I'm just thankful tonight - happier than I've been in a long time because of a job situation.

If you aren't a good person, who cares about others and is good to people etc., then you really aren't beautiful, no matter how you look. That old cliche, the Golden Rule, really applies here, I think.

:hi:

I think you're a really beautiful person.


That and the pic you posted. of course! :hug:

now I'm embarrassed! I try to be good, and if you ever get to meet me in person, you'll see why I say "try." I can be abrasive and short tempered and even rude in person; I tend to talk without thinking first and this can be awful...In print, I have time to consider what to say and how to say it...

But still, I appreciate your remarks more than I can eloquently express...

You're a beautiful person too, you know, inside and outside!

:blush:


:pals:

it's easier to be nicer when you have time to think before you react. :pals: