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... been assaulted, so to speak. Knocked out with drugs. Cut with knives. Sewn back up.
Something I've had a very hard time conveying to my mother, as she is such a strong believer in mind over matter. She's had a whole slew of serious surgeries in her life, and every time she seems to expect that she should be able to mentally snap right back out of it, no matter what. She is very prone to post-surgical infections, and this also affects her mental state -- I wish I had a buck for every time she's assured me she has finally lost her marbles (her term) and the next stop is the loony bin (her term).
She's an extreme case, but you get the point.
Ten or so years ago I had shoulder surgery (both, a year apart) for severe calcifying tendinitis, and the relief from pain was so dramatic that I could hardly believe it. Sure, I had to go through weeks of PT, but nothing to compare to what I finally recognized had been years of chronic agony. I don't remember any negative emotions, just relief.
Last week Friday I had LASIK on my eyes and I am feeling very, very anxious today. I gave up a sure thing, a known quantity -- a 50-year relationship with heavy eyeglasses, a 35-year relationship with hard contact lenses. Right now I wake up in the morning and can actually see the clock on my nightstand -- but I can't really read a newspaper without a supplemental pair of reading glasses, and then for less than an hour before the tiny print blurs too much to make out. Okay, so I was using supplemental reading glasses before this, but they worked well, not like this. The first few days I felt like my eyes were fighting with each other. It was a patient in the waiting room who told me it would take about a month for my vision to settle down (he had his done in January -- also had a heavy correction like mine). And my doctor told me *after* the surgery that my brain is having to re-learn how to interpret visual data. TV is fine, walking around is fine, I'll try driving tomorrow with my husband. My adult kids were each driving the very next day after they had this procedure.
Ask me in a month how I feel about LASIK. Just at the moment I have to keep reminding myself that this was real surgery, it was scary to live through (there's only mild sedation, though plenty of anesthesia), and right now my eyes are physically fragile but they will heal completely. Millions have had this done, my doctor is one of the two best in town, and recovery is recovery. Positive mantras, but real anxiety, because the change in my vision is absolutely huge. For the better, but huge. My next post-op visit is this Thursday.
I hope your own surgery was a terrific success and enhances your life immeasurably. You don't say what it was for -- can we know? Please just recognize that there's nothing abnormal about an emotional reaction to this physical event. The bodily change is a big deal right down to the cellular level, and it will take awhile for all the rest of you to catch up to it.
Just be aware of the usual caveats: plenty of rest, good nutrition, fluids, avoid reading about Dubya 'cause it'll agitate you ;-) -- the usual. Remember my mom's experience, too, and that thing about infections and other complications: let your doctor know about anything that doesn't seem quite right, and if your low mood/low energy persists, don't let anyone put off your questions or concerns. It's good if you recognize for yourself if something's out of kilter.
Swift and gentle healing, Ladyhawk.
Hekate
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