I think bisexual people are the luckiest people in the world.

Bisexual people see an attractive woman and think "mmmmmm." They see an attractive man and think "mmmmmmm."

To quote Napoleon Dynamite: LUCKY!!!

Tee hee. :-)

(Everyone please note I am not saying they are attracted to EVERYONE. That is a horrible myth. Just like straight people aren't attracted to everyone of the opposite gender, and gay people aren't attracted to everyone of the same gender, bisexual people aren't attracted to...everyone!)

But the potential pool is larger. THAT'S why I think they're lucky.

Gay people thinks bi's "want it all" as much as straits are biphobic...
Dating other bi's are alright i guess :shrug:

You know, going into orgys and that they'll catch a disease from us blah blah blah.....but thats not what being bi means.

i have never really known which one it is....depends on the day i guess....

I'm speaking in terms as a woman because I'm a woman, as is the original poster. First, if you're more strait than bi. Like, let's say you prefer a relationship with a opposite gender but do have a physical attraction to the same gender, well, where does that leave the other person? Most gay women wouldn't want that. Then it leads to other bi women. Often that ends up being about being with her male partner as well. Sometimes those women might not even want to be with another woman (or she might), but it's more of a situation where he talked her into fulfilling a fantasy. Nothing necessarily wrong with a threesome in theory (as long as everyone wants really wants it), but they're the ones in the primary relationship and so you're sort of this weird third wheel. And what if you have a male partner? Can you handle your man and your girlfriend gettin' it on? When you bring more than one person in the mix, I can see where it could get kind of emotionally complicated.

Maybe if there's two strait couples where everyone is bi it's easier. :shrug: Maybe two bi women in relationships with men who keep their girlfriends separate (but are honest with their partners of course). :shrug: Who the heck knows?

edit: noticed spelling errors in the aftermath of my post

could be heterosexual, homophobic conjoined twins

:silly:

it's always been terrific.

not any different than dating gay men.
except the the sex may seem more exciting to them.

ok -- here's my disclosure -- though i identify as gay -- i have had long and short term relationships with women.
so i may have a point of reference.

and then there's "bisexual". An incredible number of gay men identify themselves as "bisexual" as a means of transition: "I'm not a fag! I'm bisexual!". In the right crowd that, "I'll hump anything that has a pulse" posture has more acceptability than "I suck dick". And, it's something of a given that most bisexual men are tops, so it's not any serious blow (snickering allowed) to their masculinity. On the other hand, it can also be a coward's means to an end, which, I'm ashamed to admit, was what it was for me. I was sexually active in my mid teens (yes - 14) and it was the least stressful way to deal with my straight friends. This, needless to say, resulted in many relationships with women that should simply have never happened. I won't bore you with gory details...

I have known genuinely bisexual men and women. I've dated the men, and that's all it could ever be, dating. A serious relationship was impossible for me, since I was insisting on monogamy at a rather early age, and true bisexuals are usually thinking in terms of "the more the merrier". I was in the center of the 70's sexual revolution and was always the odd man out because I became very relationship oriented, and made no bones (snickering NOT allowed) about it. I almost resented that my self inflicted moral code (unusual for the era) made me something of a tourist in what everyone else perceived as fun. The "moral code" I mentioned had nothing to do with morality as it's usually interpreted, but an inferiority complex that resulted from a highly dysfunctional family. I overcompensated for the inferiorty complex by being overtly social and with a brutally savage sense of humor that everyone (except, perhaps, the victim) usually thought was hilarious. Fortunately, that's all sorted out now but it leaves me with a sense of radar when I hear people, usually of the christian right wing persuasion, yammering on about "morality"; some might call it a Bullshit Detector.

Having said all that, my reluctant posture on promiscuality had little to nothing to do with my not having caught AIDS. I was directly exposed, as I later discovered, to the HIV virus and simply didn't catch it. Later I was involved in a medical protocol for a long period of time that revealed that I may be one of those rare people who are actually immune thanks to a genetic defect. My current SO of 14 years has the same "defect"; that's how we met. His lover of 23 years died of AIDS and he (my SO) is completely free of the virus. He also did the "bisexual" transition into his own sexuality while still dating his high school sweetheart of 7 years, who, as fate would have it, was relieved to pursue her own interests - another woman. They're still extremely close friends.

What a journey, huh?

Makes my love life from adolescence on look positively boring! I'm glad to hear you found a great SO and are happy!!

Yes they have a bigger pool of potential dates.

But they have to deal with prejudices--and from both sides of the fence.

Straight homophobes group them in with the fags, but consider them worse in some respects because they will "hump anything".

Many gays/lesbians hate bi's because they consider them traitors for screwing the opposite sex.

Really the bi's are caught in the middle. ;(