Wedding help!

A couple I know are FINALLY getting married. The thing is, they've been together forever and already have everything they want (I think). I really want to get them something for their wedding cause it'll be extra special, but I've NO idea what to get for the couple with everything.

Help?

you and I are thinking the same thing:

a panda that walks on it's hind legs would solve all their problems

and see what sort of panda laws we have

:rofl:

they like. if they have all the material things they need try for something non-non material like the suggestions i mentioned..

Excellent.

anniversary!

to all the stuff they like, and don't go out to dinner much (cause they don't like to)

Its HARD

But thanks for the suggestion :)

If they like staying in and cooking?

suggested cookbooks, which might not be a bad idea :)

http://www.allclad.com

They are used by all the top chefs,pricey though.

assuming they drink wine.

i'd have to find out

I've given that to a few people for whom I had no idea what to buy and it went over very well. People can always use a pretty frame and who knows - they might use it for a wedding photo.

anything for their home. They're interior designers.

:shrug:

I like the restaurant idea too. Or maybe a gift certificate to Amazon or Barnes and Noble.
Duckie

Too tacky for this IMO, it's pretty special

It's not tacky that you want to make sure they get exactly what they want.
Duckie

this is different from most weddings for me. They're a gay couple who've been together for 20 years, and are finally getting the chance to marry. I want to do/get something special. But in general, yeah, cash is okay.

:shrug:

In my family, though, giving money is considered kind of a tacky thing to do. We DO it, but we always feel weird about it. And lots of people do it.

Again.

I didn't call you tacky.

just askin...:P

but.... not exactly...you know.... ;)

probably not a good thought but we were running out of options..

A nice donation to DU in their honor would be suitable, no?

Or some favorite local charity of theirs - a homeless shelter, kids' after-school programs, a tree planted in a park?

as they've never heard of DU, might not work so well. Might be able to find out if they have a charity that's close to their hearts.

for a divorce lawyer.

Just in case, you understand.

I'm pretty sure that won't be necessary.

don't have significantly higher success rates than others.

Longevity might be a plus but it's no guarantee by any means.

And one might ask why they chose to get married after all this time - and change a presumably quite satisfactory arrangement. Perhaps trying to save a relationship in stasis or decline ? (Of course, making things more legally secure as we age and encounter life's risks isn't a bad idea either.)

There's really no need for marriage, from a legal standpoint.

But, now that they're doing it, I say Hooray. Any excuse for a good party.

So, thanks for that gloomy statistic and morbid speculation. I hope you get to go to the party. That might improve your mood.

Somebody needs a cookie.

Or some pudding.

Or to get laid.

and it's now legal for them to get married.

So, J proposed, very romantic.

I'd guarantee their success, personally.

I was just Best OldLeftieLawyer for two old friends who flew back to Boston from their home in Tuscany to get married - for tax and estate reasons (lots of $$$ there). They've been together 30 years, and it was simply the loveliest marriage I've ever had the privilege to witness.

I wish your friends the absolute best, and you could really honor them by contributing to the campaign of the politician in their area most closely aligned with the legalization of gay marriages.

nt

We need to put a lot of work (read: money) into our house. We just want cash.

Wait, I'm invited? :P

If so, yes.

What is this 'scratch' you speak of?

American dollars, not Canadian.

Actually, if you could spare some Euro....

I need to up my slang-hipness factor.

And I'm not coming to a wedding I'm only invited to for my wads of cash :cry:

:shrug:

Closer, but not quite there yet.

Keep tryin'

...without which no amount of cash or cleavage would suffice?

though, I fear it may be too little too late ;)

Usually, women say "too little, too early." :cry:

future wife need to have a conversation :P

hmmm.. I know a few of those and one thing they can never get enough of is gourmet recipe books.

Actually read them like novels.

Good suggestion

Maybe a topiary rose bush or a bonsai. Something that is an indoor, potted plant, but lives.

If all else fails, you could ask them. Put politely, you might let them know that they should put together a list for those who want to buy them things to mark their marriage.

Just ask. They'll be flattered you want to give them a gift, and while they may hedge and demur, persist. Get others involved, too - they'll eventually realize that people want to give them gifts they'll like to help commemorate the day.

of talking to a couple of people to find out what they're doing. But I'd rather not ask them for a list. :)

or something that they might go.." that's too expensive"
For example, instead of 4 towels that cost $10.00 get one $40.00 towel.

My suggestion would be gourmet coffee ( like Kona from Hawaii)
a selection of expensive teas, imported balsamic vinegar, or even some fancy imported olive oil.

If they do, that would solve your problem!

blender as a wedding gift. :toast: But I realize I am a bit odd. So, how about a few of their friends chipping to to send them to a romantic B&B or actually go to their home and cook for them, serve the meal as if they were at a restaurant, and clean up afterward.

that they can enjoy. Our favorite gift (20 years ago) was a kaleidoscope! We got such a kick out of it, that we now have a small collection. We've given kaleidoscopes to others that were exceptionally well received.

a spa package, or a bottle of champagne/wine for their room, or something special that's an "extra" at the resort. It will be really nice surprise when they arrive and my guess it will make a great impression as being especially thoughtful.

My siblings provided my husband and me with a "honeymoon kit" to take along with us: a bottle of champagne, two champagne flutes, chocolates, massage oil, a back massager, stress relief lotion, and candles.

Put together massage oils, candles, and other stuff for a romantic evening.

when I got married, I got a lot of "keepsake" items. Engraved items, embroidered, etc.. all that had to do with our wedding date etc.

and frame their invitation.

some good friends got married, unfortunately they weren't going to be able to have a honeymoon. Time and $$$$. So for a gift, a group of us got together and rented them a NICE hotel room (complete w/jacuzzi) and we made them a basket. We got blankets b/c the room had a "fireplace", a bottle of champagne, 2 glasses and snacks.

They were so touched that a group of their friends got together and "set the stage" for their wedding night. I know that they stood together and cried for about the first 20 minutes they were in the room.

Plus if others pitch in, you can really go all out without breaking the bank.

I don't have any, My daughter just got married

Make a theme out of it. You could do a night in basket w/ maybe some cavier, a bottle of wine, a couple of glasses, a romantic cd (especially some old jazz-ask progmom for some great suggestions), massage oil (not anything kinky,but a clean scent) and place it all in something that they can reuse. It can be anything that can hold the items.
Do they garden? You could get some seeds, gloves, shovels, a nice plant, etc and put them in a large planters pot w/ a cheery note about how you hope that as these plants grow their love will too.

Go for something simple but from the heart. Ideas like this show that you took the time to gather everything together and really thought about them while you did this. Anyone would like it since you can gear it towards their interests.

glass..

For most of my really close friends, I make them a special piece of artwork that I can ensure no one else will ever have.....people usually love it and end up hanging it in a prominent place, so I know that they like it and they aren't just being polite (usually if people don't, it gets put in some obligitory yet obscure place like the guest room or something)....anyhoo, my point is that most people love individualized, creative stuff over materialistic stuff any day (well, assuming that the most wanted stuff on their registery gets taken care of by someone else-ha!).