Is it better to love and lose than never to love at all?

at least you get some good memories out of it.

And commerce is, of course, what it's all about, my little heartbreakers, losers, and weepers.

:wtf:

Not to mention the Valentine's Day industry, the handgun industry; the black clothing and black apparel industry, sales of Nine Inch Nails records and for the quality of art all around.

just sayin...

Of course, that doesn't mean that it sucks, because it does...But still...to NEVER know the thrill of belonging to someone, being kissed by someone special, or anything else...To miss all that makes for a very sad life indeed, IMHO.

Recently, I read a quote by some anonymous person who said: "Don't weep because it's over...Be happy that it happened." I agree with that wholeheartedly.

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"Wasted Time" by the Eagles. I love so many songs but this is fricking gem.

Well baby, there you stand
With your little head, down in your hand
Oh, my God, you can't believe it's happening
again
Your baby's gone, and you're all alone
and it looks like the end.

And you're back out on the street.
And you're tryin' to remember.
How will you start it over?
You don't know what became.
You don't care much for a stranger's touch,
But you can't hold your man.

You never thought you'd be alone this far
down the line
And I know what's been on your mind
You're afraid it's all been wasted time

The autumn leaves have got you thinking
about the first time that you fell
You didn't love the boy too much, no, no
you just loved the boy to well, Farewell
So you live from day to day, and you dream
about tomorrow, oh.
And the hours go by like minutes
and the shadows come to stay
So you take a little something to
make them go away
And I could have done so many things, baby
If I could only stop my mind from wondrin' what
I left behind and from worrying 'bout this wasted time

Ooh, another love has come and gone
Ooh, and the years keep rushing on
I remember what you told me before you went out on your own:
"Sometimes to keep it together, we got to leave it alone."
So you can get on with your search, baby, and I can
get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find , that it wasn't really
wasted time
Mm,hm
Oh hoo, ooh, ohh,
Ooh,ooh, mm

Once you truly love someone and lose them, it is so hard to find someone else to live up to that person's greatness - you'll forever be empty missing that person.

I can't miss what I've never known.

The rest was heartache. :(

Check your PM...

For that matter, neither do those who have loved and lost.

So, "How the fuck should I know?" is my answer. Feel free to add that as an option, as well as "Lilith Velkor is a silly creature," it's all good, yo.

a kind of 'grass is always greener' thing. :thumbsup:

But I'm sure I'd answer differently right after a loss, it seems like nothing is worth the pain. Of course if it wasn't worth it we wouldn't keep doing it. :loveya:

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You love her
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can't win
And so it goes
Till the day you die
This thing they call love
It's gonna make you cry
I've had the blues
The reds and the pinks
One thing for sure

(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah

Two by two and side by side
Love's gonna find you yes it is
You just can't hide
You'll hear it call
Your heart will fall
Then love will fly
It's gonna soar
I don't care for any casanova thing
All I can say is
Love stinks

(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah

Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah
(Love stinks)
Love stinks yeah yeah

I've been through diamonds
I've been through minks
I've been through it all
Love stinks

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The real question should be, "Can you feel completely whole and satisfied by yourself, on your own merits?" 'Cause if you can, (and no, I don't all the time...not some big superwinner here) then when you do find someone special...man, it's gravy.

You ask your questions, and I won't attempt to rewrite them for you.

Thought I was on a public discussion board. :wtf:

Yes, you are on a public discussion board. You are also on the planet earth. So what?

In the way that it is a direct response to your "poll." Sorry if you think I "highjacked" your thread. Just making my comment. Done now...flame on.:toast:

something else.

Thought I was on a public discussion board. is a direct response to Is it better to love and lose than never to love at all? really? maybe you can explain that.

I thought it was meant to be an attempt to be a responese to You ask your questions, and I won't attempt to rewrite them for you., since that was the message that it replied to... but I just don't see the connection. maybe you can explain that.

To repeat my original point, you are welcome to pose your own question, and I promise to refrain from telling you what it REALLY should be.

BTW, why do you put quotes around words when you aren't quoting anyone?

Even more awkward than vomiting on a person. Perhaps less awkward than accidentally killing someone.

my answer would have been very different.

IMO at least...

included a choice for unrequited love... I was lumping that with 'loved and lost'

Every once in a while I'll think of Peggy, my first love, and within a couple of days, we'll bump into each other.

one time I saw her at the hospital I worked at. She told me her son had died in a horribe accident at home.

We held each other briefly in the intimate way of true friends, tightly for strength and comfort.
I've seen her since. we can call each other our old pet names we had with a comfort that surprises me still.

Yes, it is so much better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all.

If you're talking about romantic love. I learned the true meaning of love raising my kids, and from my sisters, when my mother was dying, and we took care of her.

It isn't always better to go through that loss, depending on how fucked up and brutal it is, then to have had the love in the first place. I look at my relationships and how screwed up those losses were at the end--NO. MY LIFE IS NOT BETTER BECAUSE OF HAVING MISTAKENLY LOVED THOSE ASSHOLES. I really wish I had gone ahead with my plan to live a relationship-free life, like I had resolved to do at age 17. I WOULD BE SO MUCH HAPPIER, SUCCESSFUL, and HEALTHY TODAY.

My personal motto and kids, this is the one that has stood the test of time: Fuck love. All you need is a great pair of shoes.

You learn so much about yourself when your heart is breaking.