Who else things the key to a lasting relationship is

JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 09:56 PM
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Who else things the key to a lasting relationship is

being silly????

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Langis

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Sat Jul-16-05 09:57 PM
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1. Me!

Glad to hear I'm not alone =P

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Maddy McCall

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Sat Jul-16-05 09:57 PM
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2. I think it's being comfortable enough around each other that...

you can be silly, angry, express whatever emotions you feel.

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JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:00 PM
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3. Yeah, best friends......I love mine so much.....she is

leaving for 5 weeks to join the navy soon....scard shitless...

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Maddy McCall

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:02 PM
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4. Awwww.....I'm sorry.

You two will be able to maintain. Distance can't destroy a good relationship.

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JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:07 PM
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6. Fiercly loyal only way to be, that is my future wife for

F sake!!!

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SarahB

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:07 PM
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5. Two things.

1. Open communication, respect, etc.
2. Sexual compatibility.

There's a lot of things, but without these two factors, it makes it damn hard to sustain. :)

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JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:09 PM
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7. the former is true

But I love the latter!

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Deja Q

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Sun Jul-17-05 07:48 AM
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19. How does one define 'sexual compatibility'?

Mutual interests?

Mutual desire to experiment?

"I like your good bits and you like mine"?

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SarahB

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Sun Jul-17-05 08:10 AM
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21. I would say...

frequency, level of experimentation, and level of monogamy (or non-monogamy in some cases). I'm not one to set some sort of arbitrary "rules" about what I think is "right" or "wrong". I just know what's right for me.

For some people, it's not very important (or you have different likes and needs). That's fine and good as long as you're with someone who feels the same way. I suppose no two people are 100% compatible 100% of the time, but as long as you can have an open dialog and are in relatively the same ballpark, it's pretty good. :D

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Qanisqineq

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:28 PM
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8. I'd have to say honesty

If he can't be honest then he can go fuck himself.

Oops! Did I let that slip? I wasn't talking about anyone in particular. :sarcasm:

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JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:32 PM
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9. I knew her for a month an a half

2 years later my only gamble, ever, won out.

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Qanisqineq

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:35 PM
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10. just ignore me, I'm a little bit bitter tonight

I'm apt to say something offensive or something I'll regret. :P
ok, more than a little bitter.

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BlueIris

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Sun Jul-17-05 06:18 AM
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17. I feel your bitter. Being in the bitter place myself I can tell you:

embrace the bitter! I know I am. It's the only way I can think of to survive.

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Lilyhoney

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Sat Jul-16-05 10:57 PM
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11. Quit fucking around, I'm trying to be serious!

If you hear this alot it is probally not good for the relationship.

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all.of.me

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Sat Jul-16-05 11:05 PM
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12. it is one key

"Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly." Rose Franken

like someone already said, it's being comfortable enough to be silly (or angry, or nervous, or whatever - any emotion - just to be yourself). i also need honest communication. i think once a safe space is established with trust and intimacy, then sex becomes another form of communication, speaking without words.

but silly is great!!

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JohnnyBoots

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Sat Jul-16-05 11:23 PM
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14. Jimmy Olsen you get it1, fuck ti she is a sllep I am throwing in a dip!

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SarahB

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Sun Jul-17-05 06:12 AM
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15. With the best sex in the world...

you go back and forth between total orgasmic pleasure, openness, and insanely silly laughter. The best sex isn't serious and solemn. It's that pure feeling of relaxation where your nerves are on edge and you can break out into giggle fits together. :loveya:

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all.of.me

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Sun Jul-17-05 07:38 AM
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18. hehe

i love to giggle. it takes that edge off how much importance people put on sex.

you know how kids cut loose when they are tickled? sex is like that (or should be) for adults - just cut loose, with no fear, feeling safe and able to be yourself.

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A-Schwarzenegger

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Sat Jul-16-05 11:07 PM
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13. I think it's that space

between the "being silly" and the "//".

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BlueIris

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Sun Jul-17-05 06:16 AM
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16. Well, I think you at least have to agree on what constitutes "silly."

Why am I posting about my ex again? I don't know. Okay, we had a lot of issues and I'm still not over the pain of that situation, but: there was one thing we (almost) always agreed on and that was what constituted good humor. Sometimes, when there was something silly I wanted to say and there was no one else around who thought it was funny, I would call him and he would get it. That made me think we had something. I was wrong, of course, but that doesn't make your point of contention in the original post invalid.

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In_The_Wind

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Sun Jul-17-05 07:49 AM
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20. it helps

but it's not everything

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