Why is my ex calling me again?

Long story short, my girlfriend dumped me ~3 months ago. No explanation, no face-to-face, just a message on my answering machine telling me not to call her anymore. I still don't know what I did wrong, and frankly don't care anymore. I know I'm a good person, I know I never did anything to warrant that treatment, and it's her loss to have left me. I've started dating again and haven't seen her for 2 months. From mutual friends of mine, I've heard she's dating an asshole of a guy that didnt even remember her birthday, she's unemployed, and dropped out of college. Fast-forward to a week ago, my birthday. There's a message on my machine from her, caller ID says it was at 5 AM?!? Telling me she's just calling me back like I asked her to (I asked her to do that 3 months ago right after she left me!) and giving me this number to call her back at. I thought about it for a week but get this feeling she's just playing mind games with me again, so Sunday I come home and delete the message, phone number and all without ever calling back. It turns out I was right to delete it, because my mutual friends told me yesterday that it was a crank number to a "Reject Hotline." WTF?

Question: is this girl whacked out of her mind or something? I haven't tried to call her or get back in touch with her, I'm going out on dates again, I even did the rebound chick thing over Halloween. I've been over her for the past month at least. Why is she calling me and giving me a bogus number at 5 AM? I just feel sorry for her, that she has nothing better to do with her life than to make prank calls to an ex in the early morning. It really does seem rather pathetic. What does she get out of trying to play mind games with me?

Have a copy of Excel? A calculator?

Calculate the number of years you have been eligible to date, say age 16. Then calculate the estimated remaining years in your life. Which is bigger? By how much?

There is a reason the image in the rearview mirror is smaller than the actual objects and the windshield is the biggest window...

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If she was unfair in the first place, it shows a very discouraging sign. That she really has no respect for you. Not telling your for three months why she did what she did was very uncouth of her.

She's probably using you. I would leave her in the dust instead of playing her games.

don't even look back. She is attempting to get some kind of reaction from you...negative or positive, it doesn't matter...as long as you give her some attention.

Delete and look forward. What is behind you sounds like a nightmare...be glad you are away from it.

Call her back, call her some choice names, and tell her not to ever call you again or you gonna start telling everyone about the kinky stuff she likes in the bedroom. True or not.

Dude,

She's just trying to boost her own ego at your expense. Oldest trick there is.

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Dude, she is an ego tripping bitch, and for whatever reason she wants to play you. There are billions of girls....forget about her.

Then stand her up. She'll get the hint that she's wasting your time.

Didnt think of that...

I would totally do that.

was to call up a few months later, tell her you were screwing around and caught something while still dating her, and that you think she probably needs to get a shot for a curable venereal disease.

It's a not-so-subtle "f*** you!" back to her.

that's awesome.

Let it go.

And did it as a prank.

:shrug:

the fact that she wouldn't break up with you in person, when possible, is a bad sign. I have no idea how old you all are, or how long you had been dating (and I'm assuming everything you write is true here) but I'm willing to bet that you aren't supposed to be over her, you're supposed to be pining and chasing her, so she can feel better about the decision to break it off. Frankly, it sounds like she's got a light on one side that doesn't light up quite right, so if you ever are unfortunate enough to run into her, be exceedingly polite, take the high road, it almost always pays off in the long run (and it's much more cruel to deny her the satisfaction of a reward for acting out) ignore the phone calls, inquire about her health, her mother, whatever's appropriate, but otherwises ignore her. you'll be much the better man.

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