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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:21 AM
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For what it's worth: I hold don't hold grudges against people.
I have found that being angry and hateful only hurts the person who is angry and hateful. The other party is probably going about their business with no clue about how I feel about them. So, it's best to just let that kind of stuff go.

I don't mean to sound preachy, but I'm speaking from the heart. When you forgive someone, it benefits you just as much, if not more than the person you are forgiving. And that's true even moreso if they didn't ask to be forgiven.

End of speech Go in Peace. :D
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:21 AM
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1. hey.
:hug:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:23 AM
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2. really?
thanks. :)
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:25 AM
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5. really.
:pals:
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:33 AM
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20. You are a superior human being.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:40 AM
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31. did I mention the disclaimer?
:P
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:24 AM
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3. I am unable to hold grudges
sometimes I have tried by making a "shit-list" but while I am quick to anger, I'm simply incapable of staying angry unless it is something very, very egregious. For example, I am still angry about the theft of democracy in 2000.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:25 AM
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6. Grudges will eat your insides out.
and they require way too much energy to sustain.

So, I'm with you.

As an aside: Did you survive Philadelphia? It was hot and humid, wasn't it?
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:29 AM
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14. OMG JJ
I LOVED PHILLY - the town and the people and good LORD that GREASY FOOD - BUT THE WEATHER - I mean, we were RUNNING AROUND in that sh** - walked from City Hall to Penn's Landing - in a couple weeks I'm going to Chicago and my brother tells me it is hitting 100 there - AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA no break from the Texas weather!
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:34 AM
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23. Philadelphia is definitely the junk food capital of the world!
Why do you think I spend so much time at the gym :o
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:46 AM
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38. I hit the treadmill all days except two for an hour
and STILL managed to gain 3 pounds! I kept hitting a place called READING MARKET - OMG the hoagies and cheesesteaks and chocolate stores and stuff - OH I just loved it :thumbsup:
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:26 AM
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8. ...and we're going to kick their asses! :-)
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:28 AM
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11. gawd neocons piss me off
INDEED
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:33 AM
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21. being angry and channeling that energy toward change is different
than carrying the burden of a grudge, but you know that - you just wanna kick some ass :D
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:34 AM
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22. LIVING IN TEXAS
I AM IN CONSTANT ASS-KICKING MODE :o
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:35 AM
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24. AGAIN - ASS KICKING MODE IS DIFFERENT FROM GRUDGE
Edited on Sat Jul-23-05 01:38 AM by JimmyJazz
CARRYING MODE :D
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:45 AM
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33. oh yes it is different
very different INDEED!
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:36 AM
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26. I'm with you, Lady! They're the one people I'm intolerant of.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:38 AM
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28. That's not the same as holding a personal grudge ---
hell, what you are talking about is quoted in my sig line :D
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 02:05 AM
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47. Yes'm, I've noticed that.
:)
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:25 AM
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4. I can forgive most anyone except republican conservatives.
;)
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:27 AM
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10. Forgive them Father for they know not what they do?
:shrug:
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:40 AM
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30. Thank you, Sweety. I could use lots of influence with the Almighty.
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Bossy Monkey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 02:05 AM
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46. I think that's "for they know not their asses from a hole in the ground,"
but maybe I'm just bitter.:)
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swag Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:26 AM
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7. I vouch for you,
and I really need to follow your example.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:31 AM
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17. It's not really MY example....
I got it from God, but go ahead and copy it - :P

Seriously - whether you believe or not, it's still a good example.
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:26 AM
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9. I second that.
I forgave something a few years ago I really could have justifiably beat the everlivin' shit out of someone for; and it definately benifeted me. Strangely, I never even wanted revenge; It was so sad that person had to stoop to that level that I couldm't do anything but feel sorry for them.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:29 AM
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13. I hear ya. I've been there. Justifiable hatred is the worst.
I'm glad that you were able to pity someone rather than hate them - that shows compassion and maturity on your part.
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:45 AM
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36. Even stranger...
The girl who did this and I are now friends. Not REALLY close, but we understand each other well. Strange; huh?
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:47 AM
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39.  I'm really good friends with a guy who left me at the altar.
It took a long time to get to that place, but we are very good friends. So, I understand where you are coming from.
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lildreamer316 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:54 AM
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43. Wow.
That's really something! But I guess you guys had to have some really good things in common to get that far, huh?
Sorry; very talkative tonight; don't mind me.
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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:28 AM
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12. so you're saying
Harry should forgive Snape....

I see....
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:30 AM
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15. shaddup. I will NEVER forgive you for this post.
:silly:
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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:53 AM
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42. Bwa ha ha ha ha!!!!!!
:D
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Cathyclysmic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:30 AM
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16. so true
nothing worse then being bitter...congrats!:applause:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:32 AM
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18. Why are you here? Shouldn't you be testing #35 by now?
:crazy: Oh, and I think some personal training is in order for number 36 - at least that's what I've heard :D

And, thanks. :hi: You Rawk!
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Cathyclysmic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:37 AM
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27. Thanks!
it was alot of fun, but it tuckered mr b out, he is sleeping :boring:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:39 AM
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29. so, what you are saying is that there was no bongo butt playing
:( that sux for you.
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Cathyclysmic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:45 AM
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34. nope
I came home from work, we had dinner, I took a unintentional nap, and woke up when he came to bed. :nopity:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:46 AM
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37. ouch.
married people - those in the monastary - who can tell the difference :silly:
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Cathyclysmic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:56 AM
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44. oh, we have better music then the monastery
makes all the differance...and besides, it is some sort of rule that you have to marry your opposite..mr b is a night person(usually), I'm a morning person. He likes the house cool, I'm always under five blankets etc, etc.

I'm going to go floss and go to bed now...have a good night!
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WhollyHeretic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:33 AM
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19. Well said. It takes a lot of energy to stay angry with someone
Holding a grudge is just a supreme waste of time and energy. I'd agree it hurts the person with the grudge much more than the target of the anger.
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:36 AM
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25. Thank you.
:hi:
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Zomby Woof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:42 AM
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32. Wisdom
Thank you for sharing yours. :-) :hug:
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:45 AM
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35. life is so much easier when you leave some of your luggage at the airport.
:)

Okay, that was totally stupid, but you get my point :crazy:
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Zomby Woof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:48 AM
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40. As long as I don't have to fend off Moonies!
Is the white zone for loading and unloading?

(There, that was stupider! :P )
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JimmyJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:52 AM
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41. Hare Krishna! Hare Krishna!
Okay - I win for stupidest post of the night :D
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Zomby Woof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 01:57 AM
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45. Stop it!
There is NOTHING stupid about a post with humor in a thread with depth.

You get an award for NOT posting a "Nice women love nice men who eat pork on Sundays in their bathrobes!" thread, or whatever the latest trend is. :crazy:

This looks like a good place for a :yoiks:
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jul-23-05 02:11 AM
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48. Oscar Clip
:cry: :cry: :applause: :applause: :woohoo: :woohoo:

No, honest, I feel ya. :)
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