Kitty Update (kind of long, but with kitty pictures!)

Sorry if this goes on, but this is an update on a previous thread about my two cats, Edgar and Leo.

A little background: on May 12, my ex- announced to me and my new therapist that our marriage of nine years was over, and that she was leaving. I was already having major depression issues, and this announcement hit me out of left field. I immediately checked myself into the psych ward and stayed for a week so I could get my mental health back on the right track.

After that, I moved in with my mother, who lives 90 miles away, and commute 3x/week to my job and telecommute the other two days. My ex- stayed in the house and took care of our cats, while I've continued to pay my share of the house bills. The only thing I asked for in the divorce is custody of the cats-- which she immediately agreed to. I also told her I couldn't have them at mom's, and I'd have to get an apartment to handle them.

So she leaves me this nasty-ass voicemail yesterday and says come pick up the cats now or I'm taking them to a shelter :wtf: ?!?!?!?! She knew she could get at me emotionally by doing this, but I wouldn't play her game. I reiterated my situation to her and TOLD HER that I couldn't take them until Monday at the earliest, and could she check on the cats in the meantime?

She's staying with a friend now, and our old house is ON THE WAY to the friends' house, so it's no major inconvenience for her, while I work 20 miles away in the opposite direction.

So anyway, I finally went to the house yesterday to check on the boys, and their food and water were both full-- EVEN THOUGH the ex said she hadn't been there since Saturday, and nobody else has been taking care of the house.

It's obvious that she's playing on me emotions by threatening to put the cats in a shelter. How dare she, especially after all the crap I've lived through in the past ten weeks. I'm finally getting my life together again, and she tries to bring me down like that. What an evil, evil person she's turning out to be. I am VERY GLAD to be rid of her.

And as promised, here's another picture of the boys from last winter. Unfortunately my digital camera was on the fritz yesterday so I didn't get any recent ones :(.

Edgar (l) and Leo (r), goofing off




Only four more days and they come home with me!!! :woohoo:

BTW you're not the only DUer ever to have checked himself in. :hi: Two months, 1986-87. I'm mildly tempted to start a thread to see if we're alone, but it's just a little too much info to ask for.

:hug:

...and in a way this was the best thing that could have happened to me. Now I'm out of that relationship, and can start feeling good about myself again for a change. thanks so much for your encouragement!!!

:yourock: :pals:

We wind up saying that about a lot of SHIT don't we? But it turns out to be true: I have a lot of "best things." Best thing I ever did for myself, for example, was to check myself in.

:pals: Be well.

you too! :hug:

if i hadn't checked in, i'd be dead. i know that for a fact. and i've got way too much living to do before that happens. :D

You'd god damn well better believe it! So do I. :bounce:

all evil and was checking on your babies.

you can go from thinking somebody can do no wrong to knowing that she's possibly even crazier than you are (and I've got medical records to PROVE my craziness!). She's playing to "win" now, and she won't quit until she thinks she has.

My family did so much for us, and gave us everything-- even the $$$ for the down-payment on the house. My ex- even asked for my mom to pay for her grad studies-- thankfully my mom didn't, although she did carry us many times when we were too broke to make house payments.

I am really glad to be rid of her. I can't wait to sign the papers and be done. I've never wanted something so much in my life.

together.

:hi:

Only four more days!!!

you and the boys will be ok. :hug:

she no longer has the power to make me miserable. i can see through her 'charm' and manipulation, and know that i'm worth it-- i don't exist just to make her happy.

thanks so much for the support. i really do appreciate it! :hug:

Damn, you should be relieved to be getting rid of such a nasty bitch.

I too think she is only playing your emotions here, but PLEASE watch this looney toon. She may someday dump them in a shelter to really get you rialed up - she doesn't seem like the kind of person you could put that past.

Your fur babies are ADORABLE! They're lucky to have you - and cheer up, my friend. I've found animals are much better company than most people anyway :) PM me if you ever need to just talk or anything, ok?

By the way, your Edgar looks exactly like a kitty who wandered into my yard tonight (same little goatee and everything!)

i should have probably figured it out when i was in the hospital, though. the only time she called my mother the whole time was on the day i went in. she called to find out what hospital i was in, and to ask my mom how to get a divorce. apparently my mom is an 'expert' because she's been divorced before.

i'm really glad she'll be out of my life soon. i'm moving across town so i don't stand a chance of running into her again. i have nothing to say to her that can't be said through an attorney. after all, any amount of $$$ is worth keeping my sanity.