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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:11 PM
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help.
...i just got into the biggest fight with my best friend ever, and i fear it's the end...

the thing is, i don't have any other close friends, period...and i'm one of those super-dependent personalities...

the whole thing's hard to explain, but...suffice to say i really think it's over.

i don't know. i don't know what to do.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:12 PM
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1. What did you fight about?
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:17 PM
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2. it's really, really hard to explain...
but see...she...has this thing about proving me wrong all the time...making me admit to things i've done wrong...i usually give in and admit because 999 times out of 1000 she's right.

but this time she was wrong. and i said so.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:18 PM
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4. Yikes!
And you call her a friend?
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:22 PM
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6. *actually crying, how pathetic is this*
i know...i KNOW she's abusive.....i don't have anyone else...

now i really don't have anybody...

maybe it's better that way, i always end up hurting them anyway...
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:22 PM
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5. That's what I was thinking..
You wanted Taco Bell and they wanted Burger King. That is easy to repair. Hey, I got drunk and slept with your ****friend. That might really destroy things.

I would suggest getting some sleep before dealing with it. That usually helps for me when I have fight with someone.

Good luck..
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:23 PM
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7. sounds like a good idea....
thanks...:hug:
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philosophie_en_rose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:17 PM
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3. Is it too late to mend fences?
A true friend is a treasure - as the greeting cards say. It's sad to lose a friendship over a fight, in most cases. You could tell your friend that you recognize that you need some time apart, but that you value your friendship and that you'll call in a few days or weeks.

If you have a superdependent personality, you might want to give your friend some space.
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:24 PM
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8. Maybe it is me...
I really don't know anymore...this has been building up a while..

thanks for your time and suggestion.
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philosophie_en_rose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:51 PM
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15. It can't all be you.
It takes two people to fight. There are plenty of people in the world that would want to be friends with you, so don't invest your self-worth in a friendship that isn't meant to be. If it isn't meant to be.
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:27 PM
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9. Need more facts.
Do tell?

:)
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:29 PM
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10. don't know if i can explain it properly...
i really don't think i can...it was dumb to put this on anyway...stupid pity-whoring angst-bucket that I am....

I can say she was trying to make me admit that something wasn't true, and that I'd been lying to her about it...and I refused to budge. it happened about 50 minutes ago and I think I'm in shock or something....

God, I'm an idiot, I'm so sorry for wasting everyone's time with this. >_<
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:41 PM
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11. You're not wasting anyone's time.
But it might be a good idea to sleep on it ... if you can.

:hug:
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:44 PM
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12. Thanks so much.
Edited on Tue Sep-27-05 09:45 PM by Splatter Phoenix
I guess I just...needed to vent or something... :hug: x_X without DU I might...I dunno, kill myself or something retarded like that...
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:47 PM
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13. Oh, cover us up with vague and meaningless bullshit again.
Such a joy. :)
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 10:59 AM
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16. ...myeep....
definitely a bad idea to post this here.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-27-05 09:49 PM
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14. Post in the morning and tell us how you're doing.
Don't do the retarded thing.

:hug:
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Splatter Phoenix Donating Member (626 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 11:00 AM
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17. Though it would have been easier.
I now heavily, heavily sympathize with the abused in spouse relationships. it is hard as fuck to break away, and i can't do it.
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AirmensMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-28-05 04:00 PM
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18. One thing's for sure ...
abusive relationships are no fun. I hope you can do what's right for you on this one.
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