advice... I'm having a problem with a friend

basically he has been one of my best friends since I was five... and we're not best friends by any stretch of the imagination anymore... we have still been good friends.

This year, upon returning to school, he no longer really talked to me but for occasional "hellos," and I was asked to give way to his girlfriend's sister in the rides to school.

Today, out of the blue (we haven't talked in maybe 2 weeks,) he blocks me on AIM (we hadn't been talking.)
And no, it wasn't a mistake, I verified it with others.

What should I do, considering I wish to continue what has been a very solid friendship for 11 odd years?

(for reference sake, yes, he COULD beat the shite out of me, so remove that option.) :D

maybe it's just time to move on......

Things change. Especially in high school. Let it go for now.
Things could always change back and you could be friends again but I wouldn't push it.

Sorry about this situation but as someone who is older than you---

Friends come and go. You may lose a friend but I'm sure you'll gain another friend soon enough.

Good luck.:hi:

hasn't told you why, you deserve to why and he should have talked to you first.

Ask him what is up. At least you will know then.
Unfortunately, a lot of strange things can happen in high school. Has he been acting different besides not being a good friend? Are there other new people who he hangs around besides his girl friend? Has he joined different clubs or sports teams? Has he been having emotional problems?Is he drinking or using drugs?
Regardless, confront him about it if it bothers you.

As much a fan of the Internet as I am, it can lead to its own kinds of misunderstandings. Someone using his account has blocked you. You should ask him to be sure it was intentional on his part, and use the occasional to gety some sort of explanation or closure it it's what he really wanted.

I'll add that while you may not like the answer you get about why he's been treating you the way he has--relationships come with responsibilities. If he's any kind of a decent human being, he'll have the stones to explain why he cut you off, if that is, in fact, what happened. And you're entitled to be hurt by that. Give yourself the time and space to deal with the loss.

The worst thing that could happen is that he says something like: "I decided your a di*k." At least you would know.

summer... now we are apparently no longer friends.

He may change in ways you don't like, too. Just hang out with your new friends, ignore him for a while. He'll come back or he won't. I might be something silly, like his new girlfriend's sister doesn't like the shirt you wear. It could be something serious, like he thinks he wants to hang out with a different crowd, and you'd drag him down. Or it could be a misundertanding on something.

He'll break up with the girlfriend, and maybe figure out who he wants to be, and then maybe he'll want you around again. Or maybe not. Tenth grade is around the time some of my old friendships drifted away, too, and some of the new friends I made are still friends at 40. Just move forward, not backwards, and maybe you'll intersect later. Moving backwards only holds you back, and if he doesn't want to be your friend, you really shouldn't want to be his. Not out of revenge, but just because he doesn't respect you enough.

Just my two cents. I'm always wrong, though, so don't take it (or anyone else's) too seriously. We don't really know you well enough, and certainly don't know your friend, so we're all just guessing. It could be a situation where you need to fight for him. We don't really know, trust your instincts.

of yours seems to be very good advice.......

And, BTW, you are NOT always wrong, my dear!

In fact, I can't remember ever seeing you say something that I disagree with.......



:loveya: :hug:

Except when you say "fuck"... :-)

Now I can't say it!

****! So there....asterisks cover a multitude of sins, my dear jobycom......

And thank you for your very kind remarks......I do have a snarky side, as you obviously know...

I don't think you do, though....at least not here.........



:loveya:

But ask him anyway. Could be he has a possesive GF, and he's giving in to that for whatever reason (teen hormones often need no reason....just happens.)

Good Luck!

sometimes leaves stinky gobs of seaweed on shore.

I think you have to talk to him and find out why he blocked you and what's going on. It might just be some stupid understanding. Of course if his response is negative you might want to recosider so you don't get your ass kicked. :D

Good luck man, a friendship that lasted this long can't just be passed up.

p.s. you should let me know how this goes if you decide to take my advise.

except it was not a long friendship and I am older and we are opposite sex. Basically we started as an IM friendship, initiated by me. We had a couple of good talks and I registered her as a 'friend'. Then I IMed her a couple of times and she basically blew me off. So I let it sit for about six weeks, never starting a conversation with her, and she never started a conversation with me. So I dropped her from my 'friend' list.
Anyway, if you are not talking, that says to me that you have not tried to talk to him. Presumably friends have things that they talk about - the classes you have, the teachers that you hate, the movies and TV shows you have seen, the books you have read, etc., etc. So blocking you on AIM seems to me that it could be his way of finalizing things. He's maybe thinking 'Dude does not want to talk to me, we are not friends any more.'
PS - in my experience, my same sex friends usually did not survive when he got a girlfriend. She took all of his time, and I was a fifth wheel, but these were not long relationships either.