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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:37 PM
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I've given up on marriage.
I just want to be someone's MILF now.
Is that such a bad thing?
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:37 PM
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1. Aw, we all want to be MILFs
:P Seriously though? Don't give up.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:40 PM
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4. I meet mostly jerks.
I like-nevermind. I think you can figure out what I like. Why not go for it? 3/4 of all American women have been married at least once before they turn 30. I have a better chance of being happy if I go the MILF route.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:38 PM
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2. *snort*
Sure, I've given up, too.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:41 PM
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5. I think I'd prefer serving my baser needs to marriage.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:43 PM
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9. Good luck with that.
I'm just a little more jaded.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:44 PM
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12. Use 'em and throw 'em away.
Sounds like a good plan to me.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:46 PM
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15. Me or the ex?
That's quite an assumption.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:47 PM
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16. No-that will be my new philosophy.
I've been thrown away quite a few times and will not let it happen again.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:48 PM
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18. Good.
You are not disposable. Recyclable? Well, technically...
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:49 PM
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20. Technically, we are all recyclable.
I'm just in a strange mood today. My younger brother got married over the weekend and it's making me think.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:53 PM
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25. I think I get it.
I'm the oldest of my siblings, the last to marry and have kids. I was viewed "suspiciously." There was always the question, "When are you going to settle down?" Now, 20 years later, seperated. Again, the last to do so. Am I unsettled, now?
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:56 PM
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28. You don't seem unsettled to me.
But why ask me? I'm also the oldest and the one that they have all given up on. One of those days.
Nothing sets you off faster than seeing wedding pics.
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evlbstrd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:00 PM
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31. And they can't wait to shove them in your face.
There should also be divorce pictures, just to balance the unfounded giddiness.
Nothing settles your ass like years of disagreement over fundamental issues, like child-rearing. I'm enjoying the quiet.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:05 PM
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36. They've been shoved in my face all day long.
And the whole"We've given up on you ever getting married" business has been aired ever since Sat.
I don't need marriage to fulfill me but damn I wish they'd quit making me sound like a crone! I was informed this weekend by some well-meaning relatives that maybe if I didn't read so much and didn't speak my mind someone would find me attractive.
I have a fucked up family. I didn't realize that this was the 18th century.
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Taverner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:38 PM
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3. Not bad at all
Marriage is overrated anyway...
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:42 PM
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7. Most of my friends have been divorced at least twice now.
At least I wouldn't get married for the wrong reason.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:44 PM
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10. No, don't get married for the sake of getting married!!
Only get married if you really and I mean really love the guy (or gal)!
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:45 PM
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13. True.
That's why I prefer to work on becoming a MILF for the time being. I have a kid so I'm halfway there already.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:47 PM
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17. Maybe you are there and you don't realize it!!
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:48 PM
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19. Not quite, IMO.
Give me a year and I will definitely be there.
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:42 PM
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6. can I join the club?
:evilgrin:
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:43 PM
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8. Gotta have a kid first.
Once you pop one out you can sign up.
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:44 PM
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11. darn
then I can't join :cry:
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:45 PM
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14. Maybe someday.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:52 PM
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24. You can be a GILF!!
Edited on Thu Oct-06-05 02:53 PM by Shell Beau
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chaska Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:51 PM
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21. So long as we're being crass, post some pics o' ya'll's ass...
Faces will do, I'm sure.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:51 PM
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22. LOL!
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:53 PM
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26. Nothing new.
Everything I have is of me looking like a soccer mom w/ a large group of kids in the background. That's why I'm working on becoming a MILF. I need a new look.
When I find my new look, I'll post a pic.(Being 30 is getting to me today. Sorry)
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chaska Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:58 PM
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30. What, you got iron poor blood...?
30 is nothin'.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:00 PM
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32. Actually, I am anemic.
And my family is making 30 and unmarried sound terrible. So I'm now in a funk.
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:00 PM
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33. You're only 30?!
I'm not sure that's old enough to be considered a MILF....;-)

You are simply a beautiful, wise woman ready to have an uncomplicated relationship with someone who can appreciate you completely.

Perhaps once you experience that freedom, you will feel strong enough to open your heart again....:hug:
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:02 PM
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34. If you have a kid and are in your 30's you can be called
a MILF.
Any mom past their 20's can qualify.
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:04 PM
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35. Oh.......
I kinda thought you had to be substantially older than the guy to be considered a MILF....that was always my take.

Thanks for educating me....B-)
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:08 PM
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38. No problem.
The guys around my area seem to think that anything over 22 is an old maid so there has to be a definition now. Not all of us need to be locked up in the attic and pitied.
Actually, I think my face looks prettier now than it ever did in my teens and my 20's. It looks more mature, more womanly than it used to. It's just a couple of body parts that I would like to steal back from my 20's.
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tallahasseedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:52 PM
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23. Nope.
I see by your user name that you are about the same age as I am. Nothing like the ripe ol age of 30 to start freaking you out.
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:54 PM
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27. And a younger brother's wedding last weekend.
He married a single mom of two a year younger than me.
30 has not been very fun.
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OneGrassRoot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 02:56 PM
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29. Newly-minted MILF here......
:woohoo:

:smoke:

Didn't think I could "go there".....but the guys mid-30s and up are confused and complicated (probably for good reason), while I know exactly what I want (at 42) and know who I am. The younger guys match what I want at this point in my life. Since they are the ones constantly hitting on me, I finally opened up to it....;-)

Hell, it's extremely liberating. I say go for it, if only for a short while....:toast:
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:10 PM
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39. I've decided to start looking at younger men now too.
They are appealling to me more every single day. Why not?

My mom freaks out when I say that but she'll get over it.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:06 PM
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37. so have i
but i dont think its permanent
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xmas74 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:12 PM
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40. It's not permanent for me either.
But I'm not going to act like I did in my twenties. My twenties seemed to be about finding a life partner w/o knowing what I really wanted for myself. I've decided that my thirties will be about myself.
And sex will not be something dirty that I have to hide from everyone. If I enjoy it so what! And I'm realizing that it doesn't have to lead to a permanent relationship (which is what I wanted every single time in my twenties).
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BigMcLargehuge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-06-05 03:18 PM
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41. Locked
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