My friend really annoyed me tonight - Democratic Underground

yvr girl

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:20 AM
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My friend really annoyed me tonight

I was at a Thanksgiving dinner party. I usually give my friend a ride home from parties at this location - she's on the way. Tonight she started giving me hints about going home about 8:00 or 8:30 because she was tired. When I didn't take the hints she started to whine about walking home because it was raining.

I have no problem giving her a ride, but I'm not a car service. You go when I go. It's a $5 cab ride, so I figure she could have made a call if she was that desperate to get home.

Am I a terrible friend?

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bridgit

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:24 AM
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1. i don't think you're a terrible friend, i think your friend should have...

been at least willing to split any difference time-wise without a huffy-fit but that's just me

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democracyindanger

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:25 AM
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2. Nope

I wouldn't overthink it.

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LSdemocrat

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:25 AM
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3. I'd brush it off

People have bad days and get annoying sometimes (meaning your friend was annoying). Unless she brings it up later, I wouldn't worry about it.

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Kenneth ken

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:26 AM
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4. prolly not

As it was a dinner party, I'm guessing you hadn't been there all that long before she started hinting to leave.

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Whoa_Nelly

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:29 AM
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5. You are correct

If she was to leave, she should have. If there was no acknowledged agreement that you would leave when she was ready to go, or vice versa, then she was incorrect to pit your friendship against her need/expectation.

Did you tell her she could get a cab if she was ready to go? Or, perhaps in a lesser degree of being rude, did you simply say you were not ready to leave, setting up the inference that she could figure it out by her big girl self?

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yvr girl

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:34 AM
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8. I told her I wasn't ready to leave yet.

She ended up waiting for me. We left when the majority of the people left.

At one point I did accuse her of nattering at me (in a half-joking way.)

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Crazy Guggenheim

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:29 AM
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6. No you did the right thing.

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BelleCarolinaPeridot

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Mon Oct-10-05 01:30 AM
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7. Not at all .

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