Do You Believe In Love At First Sight?

Yes - I've fallen head-over-heels for someone after seeing them from across the room and knew they were the one for me.

No - I think you have to get to know someone for a long time before you can know whether you're in love with them or not.

Hell no - Nobody loves me and I'm a grumpy gus. I don't belive in love, let alone love at first sight.

but there are other ways of falling in love without seeing the person...

Then again, slinkerwink. Half the guys here are probably in love with you and have never seen you (at least in person). So you may have a point.

with me, haha. :toast:

Love comes later.

You wrote exactly what I was going to write.

FWIW, I voted "Hell No". :-)

of meeting my partner that he was the one. 15 years later, he still is. First and only time I've ever been in love.

I mean my last two or three girlfriends were all "the one" until we broke up.

...the last one really is "the one" :)

Seriously, I'm on my third marriage. This one (marriage) is so completely different and better than the other two, I for once have no doubts about it.

you are so lucky to have found him. Something is so sweet about ones first love.

... yes I'm certain that it happens all the time

When me and mine met about 14 years ago, we didn't really meet at all. I was working in a store and he was in the backseat of a car of some mutual friends that pulled into the lot. I asked my friend who the cute guy was in the backseat and when my friend got back into the car my soon to be lifepartner asked who the cute guy was in the store.

There was some kind of connection there from the start.

We (Marie and I fell) in love the minute we saw each other.

I hope lightning strikes twice, but I'm preparing myself for a life alone.

You will have that special dinner and lightning will strike twice.

We've been together for 7 years and married for 3 1/2 months. The first time I ever saw him was one of the weirdest things I've ever experienced. It was like he was glowing and casting a glare over everyone's face around him so his was the only face I could see. I went over and started talking to him and it was like we were picking up on a conversation that had been evolving since the day I was born. I brought him home that night, and we've been together ever since.

I certainly don't think that you need to know someone a long time to know that they are for you. My husband and I were close right away and gave each other rings for Christmas three months after meeting. I have become close friends with people in short periods of time also. The problem that I have had is that if you are subject to these intense immediate emotional attatchments is that sometimes you can be wrong and will get hurt badly. I need to talk to someone first for at least an hour as well. Appearences can be deceiving.

Very funny, long and true story.

Fortunately, we were both guys and gay so it had a happening ending!

Not so happy an ending for me however :(

lightnening through the heart at first sight. most painful fucking experience of my life in the end (scared the crap out of him) still got a sore spot there 25 years later.

That which we call "love at first site" is simply lust.
Duckie

The guy I ended up with was someone who really "wasn't my type" as it were and my friends thought I had lost my mind at the time. There was definitely something between us from the moment we met.

I posted about the same thing, the same time as you.

...are like that. A kind of off the wall feeling of connection that doesn't fall into our normal patterns of attraction.

Just from my own experience, when I first saw my husband I loved him and felt profoundly bonded with him, but he was not my "type" and what I felt from across the room really wasn't lust.

It's true, I slept with him right away. I'd gotten a fortune cookie earlier that day that told me that I was about to find something I've been looking for for a long time, but it won't look the way I expect it to look, so I should be careful not to pass up any opportunities based on my false ideas about what I want should look like.

My husband IS actually very handsome. Lust has a nice place in our lives, for sure.

But lust really didn't have anything to do my love-at-first-sight experience.

Official policy of Democratic Underground. You may be off to the gulags if you don't cool it rbnyc.

...but I feel like I've just got to give skinner a break.

I do not have a problem with mature discussions of topics relating to human sexuality. But when you are engaging in detailed discussion of specific sex acts, or asking for others to email you details of kinky sexual experiences, then we have gone too far.

I think he'd be fine with this.

;-)

I feel you can get an impression, an intuition, a gut-feeling about someone from a single meeting. But I believe it's more than just 'sight.' I think it's the total package that contributes to the impression.

Certainly I've met a few really knock-out guys who turned me off the minute they opened their mouths and some oily, insincere 'line' came out.

While I admit that I think it's possible, I also believe quite vehemently that it's rare. And much, much more rare than people tend to think or presume about their own relationships.

I think only once did I ever have an experience of this initial "wow" type of feeling (more than just a physical attraction) from an initial meeting with someone that turned into a real thing for awhile. With so many people who meet online these days, I wonder how that plays out? Love at first post, first e-mail, first exchange of digitally enhanced nude photos?

Even when I met my husband, I can't really say anything hit me right away at first other than my initial impression he was weird. I guess he grew on me though (like a fungus) :crazy: . Or maybe a barnacle? Tapeworm?

it's absurd. If it turns into love, that's luck.

Skittles, DU's resident optimist, chimes in. :D

I've had cases where I was in love with someone within moments. I've also had cases where we were acquaintances or friends for a long time before even considering a romantic relationship.

From my experience, the first can be a lot more intense, but the last are more likely to endure.

Maybe the first time it didn't go so well, but i'm hopeful still! :)

or is it lust?
Sting

It's kinda sad in a way. She was pretty screwed up mentally. Had a lot of problems, but I loved her in spite of (or maybe because of) it all, and I keep waiting for another experience like it. Eventually it all ended up tearing the relationship apart, but I still think about her each and every day and hope I can find that same feeling with someone else some day.

Too bad it hasn't repeated it's self in the last 4 years, but I guess that's kind of the point.

Love, lust, everything else, all at once.

But I haven't a clue how that happened.

Five years later (three years of that married), I still get googly eyes for him.

It happened to me once. My wife and I have been married almost 25 yrs. now. We age but we are closer than ever.

20 years apart. Both times, the moment I met the woman, I knew she was the one for me.

It shouldn't happen that way. People are too complex for simplistic lifetime mating to occur on the spur of the moment.

Yet they do, and we are living proof. I knew I had met my other half, almost immediately. He knew too, though it was several weeks before we verbalized our committment. I'm just glad we found each other.

I used to. Then I fell in love with a girl when I was in college. We got engaged a very short time after we met, but we later found out we both very different people from who we thought we were. In the end it crashed and burned and I got my heart broken. I'm skeptical at best now. In real life fairy tales don't always have happy endings

I met the Loved One through an ad I wrote. We talked on the phone for six hours, and I knew he was it. When I met him the next day, well, that was lust at first sight. After 12 years, neither has worn off.

and fall out of love with them the second they talk to you.