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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:00 PM
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Goddamit. A friend of mine just died this afternoon.
She'd been sick for a while, real painful yucky sick, and we were all pretty sure she was gonna go soon, but we weren't thinking, you know, today.

Nice person, too. Real trooper, real people person, filled with compassion and patience and always ready to help. She will be missed by me and by many others.

Sigh....

At least she is in a place with no dialysis, no heart problems, and no more suffering, a place of perfect joy and happiness.

Fare thee well my friend! I shall see you in 40 years or so.
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Az Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:01 PM
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1. Sorry to hear that
We are here if you need to talk. :hug:
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:01 PM
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2. I'm sorry.
A hug and a martini for you (not necessarily in that order).

That's rough.
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:02 PM
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3. Sorry for the loss of your friend.
We're celebrating All Saints' tomorrow. I suspect lots of tears will be shed. I'll be thinking of you. :hug:
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:04 PM
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4. Thanks!
We're celebrating All Saint's, too, so extra prayers for her from me as well.

Thanks Rev!
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no name no slogan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:04 PM
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5. Sorry for your loss.
:hug:
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yvr girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:13 PM
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6. I'm so sorry
Even when you know, it is better for a loved one to stop suffering it is so hard to let them go, and to say goodbye. :hug:
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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:15 PM
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7. So sorry Rabrrrrrr
:hug:
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:16 PM
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8. I'm sorry
Even with months or years of warning it's still a shock, isn't it?

My thoughts are with you and your friend's family.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:16 PM
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9. I hope your memories come back to warm you
when you're missing your friend. My condolences Rabrrrrrr.

:hug:
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Auntie Bush Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:18 PM
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10. May she rest in eternal peace.
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:20 PM
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11. my condolences
May she RIP.
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arwalden Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:23 PM
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12. Sorry To Hear The News About Your Friend...
... it seldom matters if the death is expected or not, it's always difficult to say goodbye to someone we love. You have my condolences.

~Allen
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Metta Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:24 PM
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13. Tough loss. You can "ride along" with her on her journey if you want.
Edited on Sat Nov-05-05 11:21 PM by Metta
Just think of her and when you get a ball of light, that'd be her. You and she can chat and after some time, a day or two, the light will fade and she'll land wherever it is she does. I've done this with many people and have always come away uplifted after sharing my feelings and conversing with them.
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flvegan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:26 PM
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14. Damn, I'm sorry Rabrrrrrr...
I hope her family is well, considering...
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Crazy Guggenheim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:27 PM
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15. Sorry for your loss.
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PowerToThePeople Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:28 PM
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16. Sorry for your loss. I hope her family isn't hurting too much. n/t
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just a girl Donating Member (173 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:35 PM
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17. Sorry for your loss
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alphafemale Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:39 PM
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18. So sorry.
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:46 PM
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19. Be glad you knew her and try to keep her with you.....
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JI7 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:48 PM
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20. sorry for your loss
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:49 PM
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21. I am sorry *hugs*
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 10:50 PM
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22. So sorry for you.
Just like you said--no more suffering. Remember the good times you too shared. :hug:
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:20 PM
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23. Thanks everyone!
Good to have the good wishes of the DU community.

:yourock:
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southlandshari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:21 PM
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24. Rabrrrrrr....
:hug:
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:30 PM
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25. You seem to be handling it well.
God Bless you.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 03:12 AM
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41. Well, sure - It's just the death of the fleshly, temporal vessel.
Death of the body is but another transition in the journey of the soul, leaving behind an empty shell and moving toward something else. Death is to be celebrated and perhaps even be somewhat jealous about, than to cry and be sad about.

She has made the great journey that someday all of us will make. In some ways I envy her. But, my time is not yet. Someday, though!
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jane_pippin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:31 PM
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26. I'm sorry for your loss.
May your friend rest in peace. :hug:
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:32 PM
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27. Sorry to hear that but
as you say she is comfortable now.
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:36 PM
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28. As you said so eloquently, my dear Rabrrrrrr......
She is in a better place, and painfree......

My deepest condolences, my friend.....

Death is always hardest on those left behind, in my experience....

:grouphug:
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:41 PM
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29. I'm so sorry to hear that
:hug: I'm glad that the physical pain is gone, but it's never easy to lose a good person from this place. :hug: to you and everyone who was friends with her.
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:43 PM
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30. I'm so sorry.
My deepest sympathies to you.
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The Flaming Red Head Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:46 PM
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31. My best friend died May 13th
same day as my only other best friend's birthday. I dream about him all the time. In the dream he says, he was kidding, that he's still alive, and we all have good laugh and have lunch together and then I wake up and I know he's dead.
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:52 PM
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32. What is Remembered, Lives.
Peace be with you and all the loved ones she left behind.

:hug:
Shine
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soleft Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-05-05 11:56 PM
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33. sorry for your loss
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 12:19 AM
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34. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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GrpCaptMandrake Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 12:57 AM
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35. That well and truly sucks
for you, for your friend's family, for your friend, herself.

Sympathy.
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 01:08 AM
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36. Rabrrrrr, you said it the best. "fare thee well my friend!"
Says it all. For you, left behind, my deepest sorrow and prayers.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 01:09 AM
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37. I'm sorry, Rabrrrrr
I, too, have lost friends, and it's so damned sad.

:hug:
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Coloradan4Truth Donating Member (360 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 01:22 AM
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38. I'm sorry for your loss -
it sounds like she is in a much better place.

peace,
c4t
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fishwax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 01:34 AM
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39. my condolences
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Spirochete Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 02:28 AM
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40. I'm sorry for your loss
No matter how long you expect and anticipate it, it still hits hard when it finally happens.
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Tsiyu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 05:15 AM
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42. Sorry to hear, Rabrrrrrr
I'm still in denial that certain people are dead. If I was unable to attend the funeral, I sort of just act like they are still around.

Works for me.

Here's wishing you and all those who loved your friend have peace and the fellowship of one another to keep you each hopeful.

:hug:
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newyawker99 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 06:11 AM
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43. I am sorry to hear this, Rab.
May she rest in peace.


:hug:
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Bzzzz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 06:57 AM
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44. Sorry to hear about your friend...
Celebrate her life! I've always liked the following:
In your memory I live on.
Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death,
But celebrate my life.
:hug:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 06:58 AM
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45. Peaceful passage for your friend, Rabrrrrrr,
and guidance and protection for you.
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TallahasseeGrannie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 09:41 AM
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46. love never dies.
just our useless flesh
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lavenderdiva Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 12:28 PM
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47. I am so sorry to hear this Rabrrrrrr...
you and your friend's family will be in my prayers... :pals: :cry: :pals:

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Pithlet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 01:16 PM
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48. I'm so sorry, Rabrrrrrr
:hug:
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 02:22 PM
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49. Aww Rabrrrrrr.


It's so hard to lose a friend, even if we know that their suffering is eased in the arms of a loving god.

We'll drink a special toast to all the joy and inspiration derived from your departed friend.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 02:28 PM
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50. I'm sorry Rabrrrrrr
My condolences :hug:

May you and all who love your friend find comfort and peace. :hug:
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grannylib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 02:30 PM
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51. I am sorry to hear of your loss, and the loss for those who loved her...
but happy for her release from pain and disease...
Thinking of you.
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Sugar Smack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Nov-06-05 02:31 PM
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52. I'm sorry, my friend.
I'm sorry for the shock and the pain of your loss.

:hug:
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