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actually this was a response i was writing to nini in another message which is now locked. it figures, one of the rare times i actually feel like saying something and the thread gets locked. :shrug:
that other thread was SOOOOO mean... ;) i mean... only 7 years before i become a lame-o??? i hope not!
so here it is, maybe we can carry on by saying some complimentary things about the over-50 crowd.
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a couple weeks ago we were talking extreme frugalness and now this! but I think the 2 things are related.
You're describing MY mother. She's a genius when it comes to some things, but technology? Yes, she's afraid she's going to break something! -and then it would cost $ to fix or replace which is where the frugalness comes in. My mother WANTED to learn how to use her computer and so she did (with help) and she is really good about USING IT. She emails and uses browsers to learn things, research things, check stocks, etc. And, she cooperates well when she is talked thru something. But, she thinks there are actually humans that send her error messages and stuff. She'll say, "they tell me i need to..." and we say, "who? who tells you?" before we realize she's talking about *the computer people inside her computer* ;) Anyway, she can (sorta) use a scanner and a printer and a remote but can't or won't program a VCR or even use hers. I think part of that is that the first one she had wasn't intuitive or user-friendly so now they intimidate her. By far, the biggest obstacle is what you said, just a fear of breaking something if she does something wrong. She HAS come a long way but recently disappointed me when she just COULDN"T figure out her automatic windows in her new car. "what do you do to make the window go up????" "pull the button up, mom." *what do you do to make the window go down???" "mom, i refuse to tell you... i know you'll figure it out" {that's my tough-love}
but then she couldn't figure out the door locks either and i realized she just couldn't SEE the icon (or any of the small icons) to figure out what the button was for. Once I explained what the icon was, she could remember *that's a key and it locks the doors*.
She's kinda pathetic with her cell phone but at least she can make a call and answer the phone which is good. Basically, it's just for emergencies anyway... but I have to tell her all the time, "you're not going to break it! don't worry!" Now if I could only get her to just leave it on and plug it in at night.... you know, she has to conserve the battery...
Next week, she'll be 81 too, like your mom. Actually, most of the time I'm amazed at the advances she stays up with. She's doing pretty well, and I can't believe she's not still in her 60's. Going strong! Yay mom!
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