Okay....A Question for all you Lounge Lizards...tell me:

Every night my husband and I have dinner together. He nearly always finishes first, and gets up to take his plate into the kitchen.

Then he might go read something, or watch a bit of TV till I'm done with the dishes.....

Either way, he walks past me as I finish eating and like that....

I LOVE it when he leans over me and gives me a lovely kiss.....

It is sooooo romantic.....

Now I rather expect him to do it, but now and then I hear a little exasperated sigh from him......

Like he's tired of doing this for me.......:cry:

Am I being unfair? Am I being too demanding of his attention?

Tell me, my dear friends!

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Could be he is just full and the sigh is cause he has a full stomach. If he ever starts avoiding you, then you might have something but i think this is a non-starter.

BTW...have you told him you love it when he kisses you that way? He might not know how much it means to you.

Just a thought

I do recognize those.....

And yes, he does know how much I love it, having him kiss me like that......

I am nothing if not verbal!

I do appreciate your input, nonetheless.......:hi:

When Mrs E and I eat I always finish first; it's become a running joke between us that I'm done just as she's finishing her first bite of food:) And I kiss her whenever I pass her too, just like your husband does to you. I doubt the sigh means anything than his bones are creaking (like mine are right now) or it's just a rumble of the stomach.

Seriously Peggy; it's nothing to worry about:)

I think you're right.....I'm not really worried......

I just felt like starting a silly thread tonight, and this did just happen......

So there you are....thanks for the input!

:loveya: :hug:

that he takes his plate in, but leaves you to the dishes?

If he cooked, that's fair. If not, well, that's up to y'all.

Any way you slice it, though, the kiss is nice. Most kisses earnestly given are.

I have spoiled him...plus there are things he takes care of that I find too much for me to do......

We have worked it out over the years.......

And I LOVE the kisses....can't hardly get enough of them.....:blush:

And he knows this......

are Yum.

In their best incarnation, kisses are the gateway to what Ponce de Leon searched for and never found.

The years, and the work you've both expended, are the art you've both made.

So let him sigh. It may be the sigh of a man who knows he may never kiss you well enough, no matter how hard he tries. And the kisses received may never be all he meant to convey.

It sounds as though your kisses are the warm snuggles of the soul.

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I agree completely, kisses are the gateway to the fountain of youth, or what you will.....

You may be right about his sigh...that he knows he will NEVER be able to kiss me well enough......Or that they may never be all he meant to convey..

I'd like to think of my kisses as the warm snuggles of my soul...

You never know.....

I appreciate your input a very great deal. You are a thoughtful thinker and writer, IMHO.....

(meaning I eat alone all the time - well, not really, because the cats are there to get what they can from me - )

I'm kind of wondering why he doesn't sit there with you as you finish dinner, and you take your plates into the kitchen together? Or is he running the water in the dishpan when he goes in there?

If I'm sitting across from the man I love, I'd at least expect him to share a full meal time with me... and not get up just when he's done.

Then again, maybe he has to pee. :)

We have never stood much on formality.....

If I finish before he does (it happens) then I get up and start cleaning up the kitchen......

This is fine with both of us, though I understand it might not work for other couples....:shrug:

He does not do any of the clean-up...and this is my choice.....

I do a MUCH better job than he does....I am VERY particular about how my kitchen gets taken care of!

Pee happens!

:hi:

(and my apologies if I did.)

It's just that in my family, we all sat at the table and waited for the last person to finish before we cleaned up. Maybe it's a cultural thing - or maybe it was a way to make sure we kids got our chores done.

We used that time to talk with each other, to fight and argue, to laugh... it was literally "family time."

I know a LOT of families did the way you describe......

We never have......

We talk at other times, to be sure.....


It would be difficult for you to offend me, my dear!


:loveya: :hug: :pals:

And today, you could be more sensitive than normal, so the two moods combined just seem more than they are.

I do offer you a hug :hug: to help you deal with the moment of concern. If it becomes a pattern, you let me know and I'll have a chat with the man. He has a great wife and friend in you. :loveya: :hug:

Very sweet of you to offer your help!

He does know how lucky he is....he often says he does NOT deserve me...

But the litttle sigh does come along more often than I'd like....

More than just tonight.....

We just need to talk some about it one of these days.....

I am more demonstrative than he is, and always have been.....

:loveya: :hug:

There came a point where mom was feelling insecure (it happens to all of us) and she thought dad didn't love her anymore. I found a way to broach the subject with him and ask him if he could be a little more attentive. His response was simple and heart felt, he said "I've been with here all of these years and if she doesn't know I love her by now, I don't know what a kiss will prove."

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I appreciate getting a man's perspective on this.......

:loveya: :hug:

hubby does the same thing. when we hook up at the end of the day i'll say, "i'm coming to hug & kiss my husband so you better just deal with it" he sighs too does this :eyes: and says, "please god just get it over with quick..." we get along just fine ;-) :thumbsup: B-)

I think your husband and mine might have come out of the same mold!

The "man" thing! PERFECT! :rofl:

Thank you.....


:loveya: :hug:

His back hurts.

;)

He HAS mentioned that leaning over that way doesn't feel all that great...

But it's only for a few seconds.....and it makes me so happy.....

Oh well......

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You are too sweet for words.....:loveya:

grab him around the neck and go for it under the table. Never let him know what's coming next.

Hmmmm.....that might hurt both of us! I'm not that limber either....

If I were 30 years younger, and he was too.....I'd do it...

But, now? I dunno.......:scared:

I do appreciate your input, however!

I'd bet 100 dollars on it. I've got the dinner, dishes, and clean up duty in my household, and I frequently finish eating before my wife does. And I always kiss her when I get up to go to the kitchen. She freqently gets pissed at me for leaving early, but then I get just as pissed because I'm cleaning her dinner plate before we go to bed. No matter, I took "dinner duty" as my responsibility.

I sigh a lot, but it's always because I'm leaving a peaceful activity to go do something I don't want to. Or I sigh because I'm worrying about something.

I'd just talk to him about it. He might tell you, he might not. I don't think it is you. He's probably just fearing whatever he has to do next.

I suspect it is about the kiss......what with the timing and all.....

BTW, major props to you for doing all those household chores.......

I'll talk to him about it, for sure......



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The timing is coincidental. I'm always sighing BECAUSE I'm leaving dinner, or going to do something I don't want to do. It's entirely possible your hubby is sighing because whatever he is going to do next is troubling him, or he's sighing because he has to end a perfectly good event to do something else. Either way, it's nothing you've done, and I doubt your hubby is trying to make you feel bad.

And I have household duties because if I left them to my wife, we'd either starve or die of bacterial infections. On the flipside, she mows the lawn and gardens because I really, really don't care how our yard looks. We work out together, and I love that!

to him.......

I'll have to discuss it with him, I suspect.......

at least you're still having your meals together! I know, we've been married almost 33 years now, and he's been away almost 3 weeks. It's hard to share everything together, and we've really been empty nesters for 3 months since we moved away from our kids :cry: Sometimes you feel so lonely even with the one you love and who loves you. Maybe it's a need for space? (We just really downsized, and haven't gotten enough time to spend together to realize what we've done!)

Your situation sounds awful right now......I am so sorry......

It's tough when your spouse has to be away for such a long time.....

Sometimes I do feel lonely with him.....

He needs much less social contact than I do.......

I hope your situation improves very soon.......


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I'm driving north tomorrow (today!) to see my kids for the holidays, and I hope he'll be there in time for the holidays. Btw, your pics are great! You and your husband seem to be a perfect match. Have a happy Thanksgiving!:hug:

she`d have a heart attack...worry about it when he stops...

Well, thank goodness, I don't have nightly heart attacks.....

I'd probably have one though, if he DIDN'T kiss me!

:hi:

I think that's insanely romantic.

Have you ever questioned him about the sigh? Perhaps it's not exasperation at all, but rather a reflective moment?

I can't imagine that he thinks of that gesture as something he has to do just to keep you happy.

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I have questioned him some......

And I believe that the sigh is from exasperation, since he does it before he leans over to kiss me....

I think he does see the gesture at least partly as something he needs to do to keep me happy........

Oh well....that's life........:shrug:

:hug: :loveya:

I think he does see the gesture at least partly as something he needs to do to keep me happy.......

Then perhaps (from personal experience) he's feeling a bit uninvolved. I was at one point, and my wife tried about 30 things I couldn't care less about. But damn did she win by dragging my ass to a nearby golf resort for a one day/night package.

I hadn't played golf in five years, and she'd never played. We rented clubs, promptly played 18 holes of the worst golf in the history of mankind, and spent the afternoon by the pool, even though neither of us has any business wearing a swimsuit.

Not saying you should try golf, but even horse-riding is a good weekend, and it throws most men off their game enough that they will realize and appreciate what their wife is trying to do.

Ten years of marriage has taught me it doesn't matter what happens, it's what you were trying to do in the first place!

We have done some growing apart......

But there are many things we have that we like to do together......

Still, your point may have some validity for us......

I thank you for making it clear to me.......

On both sides, even though your hubby hasn't posted. I went through this with my wife. We both got so used to being our own best friends that we didn't realize the rest of the world was a great place to be.

Here's what we did:

1) Pick a weekend to be apart, but stay near where you live.
2) Get two hotel rooms (if you can afford it) nearest the downtown you live near. Make sure both hotels are close to each other.
3) You get your friends, your husband gets his friends, and you have what would be called a standard "Friday Night" for college kids these days with each of your respective friends.
4) At the end of the night, all you want is to share a bed with your S.O., and all your S.O. wants to do is share a bed with you, and the friends you brought along have to stay in whatever room you two aren't staying in. They are hangers-on anyway.

Trust me, it's a good plan. You get to dance and feel attractive, your husband gets to pretend he's still attractive and on the prowl, and he gets to come home to you and let you know how much he wants you.

Go for it, Peggy!

And I believe that the sigh is from exasperation, since he does it before he leans over to kiss me....


Punch him in the nuts when he does it. Sometimes a surprise works.

I might well want to surprise him, but there are more pleasant ways to accomplish that!

and before he can gather his plate to take into the kitchen, you lean over the table and give him a smooch?

Or you can slide across the table and really plant one on him. :evilgrin:

I have done just that!

He doesn't seem to mind so much when I do it to him! :evilgrin:

If his back hurts for him to lean over, though, you might also try wearing killer stiletto heels to increase your height. There's nothing like surprises to keep the romance going.

My wife and I both love displaying our affection, but sometimes, even a simple peck-kiss is more than either of us is up for. It passes. Then we go all Jackie Collins on each other. :-)

Remember now, you and your wife are MUCH YOUNGER than me and my husband!

We don't do the Jackie Collins bit very often these days!

Ah, the good old days....:evilgrin:

Maybe he's just having an off night? I don't think you're being unfair. We all have our comforting rituals, ya know?

Well, I could think this but it happens more often than not.....

Sometimes I wish I didn't like kissing so damn much.....

Then I could let it go.......*sigh*

It is a comforting ritual for me, that's for sure!

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