One of my exfriends died

I read it in the paper this morning. Even though he wasn't 40 yet, I still wasn't completely shocked from his death. He was an alcoholic and a frequent user, if not addict, of several different drugs. He already had a heart attack a few years ago.
We stopped seeing him because of his untrustfullness and moodiness.
Still, I am shocked and saddened.
We were planning to leave the area today and be gone all week so we won't make it to the funeral or visitation. In a way, I feel bad about this, but I don't know if going would really be beneficial to anyone. I didn't know his family or most of his friends.
We do have a friend who was a closer friend to him than us. I don't know if this friend has heard about his death or not. This friend does not have a phone and lives a distance away, the opposite direction that we are traveling. I don't know how he will take it. He has been expecting him to die and had distanced him as a result after some incidents, including resuming his drug habits after his heart attack.

alcohol sux.

May his soul find Peace....

Addiction is a hard road to travel.

:hug:
Shine

:-(

the final straw for me was walking in on him right after he'd shot drugs into his arm. i believed he was dying and called 911. in the hospital he yelled at me, admonishing my interference with his "high". he explained to me that it was like dying only you wake up.
your post makes me miss the person he was. it is indeed really sad to see.

May he rest in peace.

If you have the extra time, try to contact your other friend about what has happened.

Losing a good friend is always traumatic whether you anticipate it or not. Your friend is finally at peace, and I hope you too can find peace in the coming days, weeks and months. :hug:

Nikia, I'm so sorry for your loss. You do what you feel is the right thing to do. With these types of losses nothing ever seems like the right thing anyway. Take it from me, I've walked around the last 5 years telling myself that I didn't love my father in law enough. :hug:

Take care

Wishes for strength going your way and to others who care for him.

I just got back from visiting my family out of state. I was able to contact my other friend at work. Neither my husband nor I went to the funeral or visitation. In some ways, I regret this. On the other hand, I decided that his death has taught me that it is best to spend time with people when you can when they are alive. I don't know if I could have done anything more for my friend while he was alive other than what I had done because he did seem to have chosen his path. I think that I did do some good by visiting my grandparents though and shouldn't have missed that. Even though I wasn't at the funeral or visitation, I have still observed his memory in my thoughts.