Is this a tad rude or inconsiderate?

My mother is having her office Christmas party now, so she asks me last week if I will come pick her up tonight. She then says she will pay me 20 bucks.

She figures it will be around 11 or so, but she keeps fucking changing her mind.

Earlier, she calls and asks if I can go to her house, pick up her car to pick her and 5 of her friends up.

Then she calls back, and says it will just be her and another friend.

Well, about 1030 I didn't hear anything, so I call her cell, she doesn't answer.

Then, she calls back with music blaring in the background, yelling that a friend might drive her halfway, but she isn't sure, she will call me back in a fucking half an hour.

I don't want my mom to get in a wreck driving drunk, but this sort of pisses me off.

Now, she just calls and says to meet her at a gas station, at night in a quasi-hoody area.

Am I alone in thinking that I am doing my mother a favor, and this is a bit inconsiderate??

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I don't think it's right that I am sort of kept hostage waiting for her to call, when I could have done something tonight.

Yeah, that's pretty inconsiderate, but I guess since she's paying you, she feels like you're a cab, not her daughter.

My God...my brain would explode if my mom acted like that. :D

I don't want her to get in a wreck or get arrested. She is in a place she doesn't go very often, and she has no sense of direction, so I was concerned.

Thing is, once people drink, there goes the judgement. She keeps changing her mind, wanting to re-invent the wheel.

Stick with the plan!!

I'm mostly incredulous because I would NEVER, EVER, EVER have this type of discussion with my mom. NEVER! :D

I think it does sound kind of inconsiderate. But it also sounds like it lacks common sense. Why would any woman want to be alone at a gas station at night in a sketchy neighborhood? Maybe something got screwed up in her plan though, like someone ditching her or something, so I'd reserve any annoyed comments until I knew more of the story.

It would have been fine for her to just say, ok, pick me up at 1130, and 4 friends will be coming.

She was in N.O. gambling 3 days before Katrina hit, and she was doing the same kind of shit. Don't worry about gambling, get out of there.
She kept calling, "Can you find out about busses, trains, airfare, rental cars." Then, when I would find out one, she would say, wait what did you say about the trains. In the meantime, I am worried about my mother who is in the path of what was a cat 5 storm.

Argh.

Joy.

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Whether she's paying you or not, jerking you around like that is impolite. You are not a taxi service, you are her child.

Off I go.

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you are a saint...

And she will keep asking why I am grumpy.

Hey, your Broncos look pretty good this year.

I'm sure you will make the correct decision.

Best of luck.

Floogeldy, you always bring a giggle when I am pissy.

I don't mind picking her up. Must be the Army in me that I believe if a plan sounds simple, just go with it.

I am sincere!

She is lucky to have you.

I just got home. She was looking a tad green around the gils. I just told her that it was the ever changing plans that sort of got on my nerves.

She didn't talk much on the ride home. She had the "oh no" look on her face.

There were a lot of drunk idiots on the road, that is for sure.

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Sorry your mom is putting you in this position.

Do the roles sound kinda reversed here, or what???

You're the one who's supposed to be out there getting in trouble while she stays home worrying about you and cooking you eggs the next morning!

Hope she appreciates what a great kid she has!

Good luck, and do something nice for yourself tomorrow. You deserve it!

There will be no waking me up!

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You deserve them, and more!

I hope your mom appreciates what a great kid you are!

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Mom is ok. I was grumpy. I get grumpy, sometimes. Everyone is safe, and that is a good thing!!

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The rudeness and inconsideration started when your mother PAID you. What's that about?

Sure her behaviour isn't very admirable. But yours isn't either - charging your mom? Not nice.

Khash,

She offered to pay me. I would have picked her up anyway.

I told her I didn't need the money.

in the original post 'she offered to pay you' you did not charge her, to me at least.

Glad you are home safe and got your mother home safe as well! Sorry she was inconsiderate--btw, yes I do think she was. :hi:

I am glad I don't drink sometimes.


I was just venting. Really, she just starts to drink and loses focus, I think. I didn't have to drive as far to get her, but I was concerned for her being in a semi-hoody parking lot waiting for me, when I could have picked her up from the restaurant. And, when she's been drinking, she doesn't think of these things. I am glad she didn't drive like that, though.

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but I'm glad based on memories of feeling as your mom probably did tonight! LOL!

Or I'll have a night out with my husband and we'll encounter very obviously drunk people--and he'll look at me and say the best thing he ever did was give up drinking. The look on his face--the look of disgust of their behaviour, always cracks me up!

I'm glad you didn't have to go to the sketchy neighborhood--I would have felt as you did, and been concerned. You sound like a good daughter.

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Have a good night!