I AM happy .. I think! I'm gonna be a grandma... sadness too though..

My son and his girlfriend are expecting my first grandchild in late March or early April. They are young, 23 and 21 years old. They haven't been the most responsible in past years and I have helped them out as best I can as has his father. Her family is struggling with dire medical situations, her father is dying, has given up kidney dialysis and the dr's don't expect he'll live but a few weeks now. . . so much stress for these young people. Bittersweet for her Dad in that he won't live to see his first grandchild.

I'm old fashioned in that I WISH they were married, and that in a perfect world their marriage would never have a problem.

I hope and pray for a healthy grandchild, I also hope and pray for a speedy less painful transition for her father. He wants to pass and wishes for shorter days.

so sad really.

Here is an exerpt from an article in the local paper about him.

"Usually stoic, he's angry death isn't coming faster.

"I spend my time just lying here," he says as the family's Christmas tree twinkles nearby. "I hope every day will be shorter."

It's been 14 weeks since Cote decided to discontinue kidney dialysis treatment. At that time he was told by staff at Grand River Hospital that he would probably live less than four weeks.

He hasn't eaten anything in five weeks because he can't keep food down. He's existing on a bottle of water a day, but even much of that comes back up.

Since August, Cote's lost more than 60 pounds and now weighs less than 100 pounds. His body is withered by a catalogue of illnesses: diabetes, fibromyalgia, rheumatoid arthritis, stroke, depression, seizures and heart disease."

well if you read this far, thanks! I just really needed to vent a bit and hope for some good thoughts for all concerned. I've smiled, laughed and cried, but I DO welcome this new life to be with open arms. I'm gonna be a grandma! how cool is that?

I don't think you can read this paper without registering .. but I'll try the link here.

http://www.therecord.com/NASApp/cs/ContentServer?pagename=record/Layout/Article_Type1&c=Article&cid=1133566822310&call_pageid=1024322085509&col=1024322199564

It's hard to believe he's outlived the estimate by 10 weeks now! Words escape me.

Congratulations on becoming a grandma! I know you'll spoil that child rotten.

I'm so up and down emotionally right now, not for me, but for them.

Life is hard enough without all of the crap that gets thrown in the mix.

I wish I could post the whole story here, but with copyright I can't and the local paper is register to read :(

aA.

Best of luck; but I think we're all beyond recrimination at this point.

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for me to judge. I too pray for a decent world for them. For us all.

thanks for the :hug:

What a sad way to have to go through the end of life. Send some :hug: from me, please.

As for your son and his girlfriend, all the best to them with raising their kiddo! My husband and I were 22 and 21 when our daughter was born, but we're doing a damned good job, in my humble opinion ;) I hope that they surprise you and turn out to be wonderful and responsible parents! Congrats!

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I hope you're right.

As a now retired nurse, I saw many patients live beyond their desire to do so.....

My god, we treat our pets better! If he were in Oregon, he could have a much quicker and less painful outcome.....

I hope the end comes quickly and easily for him......

And biggo congratulations on the coming grandchild!

I hear you about their situation.....Wish the child were coming into a more responsible family....

Grandchildren are a wonderful gift .....I know you'll love being a grandma!

Good luck to all!


:loveya: :hug:

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I am excited about the baby. I just worry so much about the stress on baby's mommy. She's helping to nurse her father and it has to be taking it's toll.
I know it's been very hard on her, they didn't even find out she was pregnant till just this week! The Dr's told her she was 'just stressed' over her father's impending death, and things would 'even' out once she could ease up on her workload :(

Along with congratulations for your upcoming grandchild.

I can't imagine the agony Cote is going through, and can understand his desire to have it end as quickly as possible. I can only hope that his medical team can make his last days as comfortable as possible.

Hugs to you and your loved ones. :grouphug:

the :hug: is always welcome. I too pray that he will be comfortable in the last days, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

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Now your a gonna be a hot grandma...

The saddness, the heartache and new life all coming at you full blast....

The whole human drama playing out for you...

the new life will bring much happiness. Sadly the losing of a life brings the heartache.

hot grandma eh? :rofl:


no, now I'm just OLD.

father. It sounds like a very sad situation for all concerned and I pray your girlfriend's father will find the peace and comfort that he is searching for in whatever way it works out.

I also hope your son and his girlfriend work out their financial difficulties. But congratulations on becoming a grandmother and may you enjoy a wonderful and blessed relationship with your new grandchild when he or she comes into this world:toast:

I AM so looking forward to this new life!
I will try hard to be as supportive as one life ends and another begins.

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aA

Congratulations to you on being a grandmother and everything. I wish safety and health to the future mother and her child. I hope her father's pain is eased and everything works out for the best.

for her. I'm sure she's excited about the baby and sad about her Dad. Thank you for your kind wishes.

aA
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it's possible that being parents will lessen the pain of her father's passing. There will be more stress, but they will have a strong motivation to live and make positive choices in the future. Plus, being a grandma is one of the best things ever.

I'm hoping this will be a real turning point for them.

thank you

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and your son is already proving more responsible than my kid's father was. He's planning to stick around!

Things will work out.

I'm sorry to hear about her father--maybe the baby will give him something to look forward too as well.

:hug: for everyone!

I'm sure they'll be fine in the long run. I know for sure that the baby will be LOVED :)

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:hug: I really appreciate ALL of the support here.

I go up and down emotionally about it all.

It'll work out.

aA

I'm sure I would too. Just think of how cute your little grandbaby will be a year from now as we approach the holidays. Many hugs to you. :hug:

and his family. I hope he is released from his confines soon. What a tragedy he has to endure so much.:-(

Congrats on becoming a grandma! I wish your son's girlfriend a trouble free pregnancy and birth. :hug: What an exciting time for you.

It is so terribly sad. He just wants to make the transition yanno? ..It's hard for their whole family, they are really struggling emotionally and not to mention, financially too. They have medical insurance living in Ontario, but that doesn't cover scripts etc ..

I too hope Ashley (that's her name) has a trouble free pregnancy. She is beautiful and my son is handsome, they're gonna have a gorgeous baby!

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thanks!

bassackwards.

It will work out.

:)

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thanks for that!

for our gorgeous boy. Uncut cream corduroy.

I sewed the shirts. It was lovely and loving. Assbackwards and okay.

You lucky woman.

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precious memories. You too are very lucky!

All best to you, my dear, and to all your loved ones. My heart to yours.

Beth

Your family's situation brings up a tune from many years ago that Laura Nyro (I think) wrote and BST recorded--snip of the lyrics:

"And when I die, and when I'm gone
there'll be, one child born, in this world
to carry on, to carry on"

About 2.5 years ago, a colleague died of brain cancer. She was only around 50. A month later, one of my employees' wife had a healthy baby girl--the first in my Division in many years.

Be well...and I hope the girlfriend's dad will go in peace..but have a healthy child as well.

Thanks for sharing.

Girlfriend has a healthy baby. Sorry!:blush:

that was very sweet!

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his/her grandfather. He sounds like a very strong man.

I, too, became pregnant with my daughter at a very young age (19). I was pretty irresponsible with no aim for the future. I had messed up my dreams of college, and career. On March 1, 1990, my incomparable daughter was born. Through scrapes, and laughter, and tears; arguments, hugs,and heart to hearts...I grew up alongside her. Today, she is a beautiful, accomplished, straight A student. A participant in the National Spelling Bee, Civil Air Patrol Staff Sargeant (:cry:) and so many more things...and I, am a content and pretty successful grown up. Hugs to you on this happy/sad day. :hug:


~ Laura

I'm sure my tears will stop soon and I can start to feel happy about it all.

:hug: and congrats on raising a wonderful young lady.

I hope for a peaceful passing.

Regardless of the circumstances, I'm always overjoyed at news of a new baby. Congrats on your grandchild.

one life ending another beginning .. new babies are wonderful blessings.

thank you :)

Enjoy your grandbaby!
I understand your wish for your son and his girlfriend to be married; but it's best that they be sure rather than making their child the reason for their marriage.

As for the baby's grandfather, maybe they could talk with him about wanting their baby to know him even if he isn't around. Ask him if there's anything he'd like his grandchild to know, and token he'd like the child to have when s/he's older. Maybe it'll help him come around...

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I'll mention your thoughts to Ashley, what a neat idea, maybe she could write some things down, or even tape a conversation with him if he's strong enough.

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thank you

I have a lot of respect for you.

:)

to say Floogeldy! :hug:

thank you!

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