My M.I.L. died Monday....Then, Saturday, my best friend's 21 yr old son...

was found dead. I'm basically numb.

My guys mom was 86 and in ill health, so it was not unexpected. Still, losing a parent (or an in-law) is always traumatic, and she was dearly loved by an extended family. My partner's ex-wife stood with me at the graveside services-it was a very affirming experience (she and I are good friends).

Mom wasn't particularly a partisan Democrat, but she was very opinionated and HATED most Republicans (esp GWB). We gave her a very nice send-off. She's be proud!

Less than 24 hour after getting home, we got word of my friend's son's death. I learned about the pregnancy the same day his mom found out she was expecting. I watched him grow, evolve and flourish, I baby-sat the little shit. I once tricked him into running around the house over and over until he was exhausted (best use of a stopwatch I ever found).

We went to their home today and I saw a wonderful family that I've celebrated with SOOOO many times, shaken to its foundations. I saw a father and mother that I've loved for 30 years beyond pain, beyond any nightmare I can imagine. Losing a child must be like that. As a friend, I find his death incomprehensible. How much more must the parents and close family hurt?

I just want life to be normal again.

So sorry to hear of both deaths.
My thoughts are with your guys' family and the family of your friend's son.
:hug:

One question though
The mom of the kid that died is pregnant?:shrug:

was pregnant, No, she's definely not pregnant. Thanks, though.

Thanks for clarifying.
Sorry. The question that I asked seemed a bit inconsiderate. Sorry.
:hug:

I know you loved your Mom In Law. I remember you even baking for her--cookies, I believe--I remember when you two moved her in with you. I'm so sorry that you lost her. Express my sympathies to your guy.

I am terribly sorry for the loss of the young man, too. I am certain that he admired and respected you.

:cry: :hug: I hope you can find peace in all that is going on. :hug: :loveya:

He's been very affirmed in the last week, and its really helped him.

and to get the news about your friend's son must have just made it so much worse. My condolences to you and your partner.

My condolences to all of you :(

:hug:

To lose your mother-in-law...who you clearly loved....and then to hear about the son (whom you knew and cared about) of your friend...within a few days...how horrible.

Death...particularly of people you know and love....is so hard. I'm finding it difficult to put into words...

You and your partner have my heartfelt condolences. Yes, life will return to normal. But it's still so hard to deal with and accept.

:hug:

Terry

This is my first time back since Tuesday moring and I'm shellshocked. So much has happened and I had only just started processing the first death, when the second hit.

Redstone

So much sadness. My condolences on your losses. :hug:

I send my condolences to you and your S/O.


May your mother-in-law and your
best friend's son rest in peace.



:hug: :cry: :loveya:

person you loved as well? I am so sorry.

Please remember that the DU bereavement group is available any time you need to get something off your chest. :hug:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=323

at least for us. For my friend and his family, life is forever, fundamentally different.

it always haunts you. :(

My condolences, Rowdyboy. :hug:

My condolences to you all! :hug:

Life is so precious, and often too fleeting. :hug:

My thoughts an prayers for you and yours

I want your life to be normal again too! :hug:

for the loss of one you held so dear, and for the loss of one you knew so completely. It is hardest (I think) to lose a child. I went through a similar situation with my best friend, it was her daughter who was murdered at age 18.

My deepest, heartfelt condolences to you and your friend's family.

:hug:

its nice being able to touch base with reality.

:hug: You have my deepest sympathy.

May memories of happier times together be of some comfort to all of you.

Healing energy coming your way!

:hug: