Why the hell would you put a 3 YEAR OLD in a belly shirt and shrug!?

We were at the mall, where we were watching the kids and Santa. It was fun and we were laughing until this family walks up. They had a three year old dressed in a tight red belly shirt, black shrug, and black pants. Her older sister, probably 7 or 8, was dressed the exact same way. Since when is it ok to dress your children as miniature hookers? Especially for family pictures?
Duckie

Why do manufacturers make and stores sell hooker clothing for children? Because it sells. The world is full of non-thinking idiots.

Happily, the 5-year-old triplet girl is not given clothing of that kind from immediate family. If her cousins give it to her, it quickly disappears (returned).

For her birthday in late October, I gave her a T-shirt that said "Sweet". That stayed.

A cousin gave her one that said "Princess". That got returned. My niece does not want to convey that sort of message...either to her daughter or to the public.

And I agree...why would anyone buy it and put their kid in it?

in the kids dept? They're made for like 3-5 yr olds. BRAS. Not undershirts...straps, sad little 'cups', designs, the works. BRAS!

I can't even work up the energy to be appalled because the entire concept is just too baffling. :crazy:

...but when the only place in town to shop for kids is Walmart, the grocery store or the Holala Kiddie Boutique (home of the $80 sleeper), your choices are limited.

And while the olsens may be misguided, they are good choice for little girls because their stuff isn't trashy. At least the stuff I've seen.
Duckie

And you can be certain I will never buy one for the girl triplet!

I have a five year old who wants a pair because one of her classmates has them.
The answer was a resounding no.

that is just gross. Shades of Jon Bennet Ramsey.

And had to show it to my 3-year-old!!!!! Luckily she didn't seem to care :)

I don't understand this crap at all. I am so happy to have a girl who likes some girl things, but also likes Thomas the Tank Engine, any kind of train, cars, buses, trucks, etc. She loooves her jeans and wants to wear a pair every day. Balance is the key for sure.

:hi:

I want to buy some undershirts for my kindergartener. Regular girls' undershirts like we had when I was a kid - tank top style, maybe a pretty bow at the top. The intention is to keep her warm under her shirts and sweaters and jammies.

She is not quite six. She quite obviously has no use for a bra. There's nothing to support. The little "bra" won't keep her warm like an undershirt.

But I can't find any freaking undershirts! It's all mini lingerie! She's a little girl, for crying out loud. I want little girl undergarments for her.

good quality clothing (but rather expensive)

They sell undershirts like you are looking for.

I've also had luck with Hanes at Target

She'll be six in March. She's definitely interested in fashion, make-up, girly stuff. I know that has been the case for millions of little girls for decades, but I was a tomboy kid so I don't have experience being a girly girl. I'm struggling with how much I should worry about her thinking too muhc about appearance, and what I can do about it. I'm trying to send the message that girls are much more than "pretty" but I don't want to make the girly stuff forbidden fruits that makes her more obsessed.

but I've seen Disney Princess softballs and soccer balls. They're pink and girly-looking, with pictures of the various Disney Princesses on them (and they might even come with matching hair scrunchies), but they're definitely sports equipment. Maybe something like that would make you both happy. :shrug:

I was a tomboy, too. I didn't play with girly stuff very much, especially anything makeup or fashion-related.

as recently as last year. I think they are still available. Good luck!

how's that for starting them off all wrong?!

called "Teeze." Not very subtle.

most of the clothes from that clothing company aren't slutty... a lot of them cover up everything

...who saw a girl, couldn't have been more than five, wearing a shirt with 'Porn Star' written on it.

Another time she was walking with her son (they're Orthodox Jews, so my friend is always dressed exceedingly modestly) when they see a girl in low slung jeans and a belly shirt. The boy asks his mom if they can give the girl some money. When my friend asked why, he answered:

"She's so poor, she can't afford to buy clothes that fit."

THAT's GREAT. :evilgrin:
Duckie

Did you ever see that commercial, I think for toilet bowl cleaner, with the little girl, maybe 4, with the skirt hanging off her pubic bone, and the t-shirt doesn't quite reach her belly button? Who would put a 4 year old in fuckme clothing?

buy this for their kid to play with...

"I'm still on the bottle, but ready to get laid"? Good Lord.

:rofl:

does it come with a sign " WILL FUCK FOR SIMILAC"?

:spray:

:P

What the fuck is this, a My Lil Ho doll?

She's got one of those adorable little baby bellies where shirts tend to roll up and waist bands down and she LIKES it that way, dang it!

It's not fuckme clothing, it's just small child anatomy. (But then again, I haven't see the commercial in reference.)

or talk loudly about skank clothing on little kids if you want to be subtle about it. Bratz dolls=skank in my opinion also. But then, I am uppity and feeling better.

who buy that shit.

if people would not buy it, it would disappear off the market.

:hi:

She had two daughters. She tried her damnedest to make them as hooker-like as possible. The four year old had high heels and a bright red dazzling pocketbook, not to mention the miniskirt. It was horrendous. I was appalled, but then again, I am appalled by a lot of what goes on here in my hometown.

complaining that their daughter dresses "too sexy" and won't listen to them.

The hair dresser had several professional style snapshots of her daughter, who looked to be around 6 or 7. The girl was wearing a tank top and miniskirt. In one pic she was lying back on her arms with her legs kicked up in the air, and looking at the camera with a cutesy little grin. In another she was kneeling and wearing a feather boa. Essentially the whole thing looked like a Jr. Playboy shoot. I sat there wondering what kind of mother would have her little girl pose like that for photos. :scared:

nt

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it is child abuse. It is sexual abuse.

It makes me sick....

"Prositots"

I was a bit put off when I had bought a sweatshirt for my daughter (very loose fitting 4T size, as my daughter is very tall for her age)... I had thought it was cute because it was yellow with an animal & flowers on it. However, the lettering (which I saw only after I had washed it) said "Foxy Girl" on it. Granted, it was an oversized sweatshirt and the animal was a fox. But, still.

My 3-year-old (she will be 4 in Feb.) has just graduated to small girls clothing for the same reason. Be prepared to wade further into this kind of crap. I have mainly stuck with jeans and plain sweatshirts and long sleeved shirts. I am able to find some with appropriate messages, but it isn't easy. Good luck in the clothes shopping dept.!

:hi:

I'm always curious about people's feelings about women's clothing. I mean, women wear bikinis, but they're not going to walk around in their underwear.

My daughter wears two piece bathing suits, because they're easier to get on/off and to use the restroom. But when I went to the local store to buy a bathing suit, they only had string bikinis and midriff baring two pieces--for little girls. I do think there is a problem with what they are *manufacturing* for little girls--sometimes it's hard to find something that's not tricked out, as in the bathing suit case.

I eventually found one that covered up, but she's got a bit of a tummy so sometimes her stomach stuck out. I'd hate to think other people were calling my kid a "prosti-tot", etc.

...my daughter has a tankini. It just shows her belly button, that's it.

I'd never buy her a string bikini, they just aren't practical for a 6 year old who likes to jump around and splash in the pool. If Scotia ever lost her top, she'd be mortified.

I seriously question parents who buy these things for their girls. Are they thinking that looking sexy at the age of 5 is a good thing, or are they simply confusing sexy with cute? :shrug:

The one I had at 3 had little plastic rings instead of strings, and one I had at 9 really was a string bikini. The one I had at three my parents bought for me, the one at 9 i picked out myself. I loved two pieces because I stayed in the water until I really had to go to the bathroom, and I didn't want to struggle with a one piece. I wouldn't have cared if I had lost my top at age 3 (by age 9 I had breasts and some concept of adult modesty and shame), and quite frankly nobody else would have cared if I had).
I don't think anybody thought I looked "sexy" at age 5, becaue I was a five year old, plain and simple. I had an early love for lacy and silky things, which grew into my adult love of lingerie, but I don't feel that I was sexualized because I had these things. The adults around me really did just think I looked cute.

They have a lot of tankinis that cover pretty well. It's more expensive than much of what you will find in department stores, but is good quality and lasts through the season. Sometimes if you hit their Overstocks page or the Sears end of season clearance racks you can get some good prices.

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"I Was a 2-Year Old Prostitot" by Fudge Stripe Cookays

the way that suit is hanging off you, you're asking for it missy.

Sadly, this was back in my cheesecake days.

NOTHING hangs off me anymore.

:blush:

Mystery solved: now we know who started the trend.

I blame Fudgey.

:woohoo:

MAN do I feel like an out of touch ditz but I don't know what that is.....

it primarily covers the shoulders, and upper part of the body.
This is why it's called a shrug--it covers the part of your body that
would 'shrug'--your shoulders, upper arms.

It's like an abbreviated sweater in a sense.You've probably seen them
and just wondered why the sweater was so short.

:hi:

That's just sick to put one of those on a baby! REALLY sick!


My friends and I have seen girls here in Northern MN with those stupid things on.... my best friend calls those girls "snow skanks" - you KNOW they are freezing to death cause it's 3 below but they gotta show off their belly!

It never ceases to amaze me how some girls and women will
put a priority on fashion over form/function/comfort/warmth.
I don't know what to do when I'm out and it's freakin' COLD and
I see some girl with an itty, bitty short sleeved thing on
and her belly is out.

:wtf:

I personally believe you can be warm and still look good.

Don't get me started on these asshole men in fashion that tell
women they should do whatever they must to LOOK GOOD. There's a
special place in hell for them, as far as I'm concerned.

:hi:

Those are really silly.

I had to Google what a shrug was! I had no idea what it was either! So don't feel bad, I'm out of touch too! :)

youth through their daughters and don't think about the consequences
of doing so. They (sadly) think it is cute...

The kind of women you will find allowing their little girls to dress
like this, are the same you may find getting them into those awful
pageants before they are old enough to even know what is going on.

Again, reliving their youth, or trying to capture something they missed
and desperately wanted through their daughters...

(at least that's my theory...;) )

Not all moms of course. Just enough of them to buy the crap and make it popular
enough for the retailers to continue making and selling it.

Is that the women who do this have been taught to believe that a woman cannot function without a man in their lives to support them, tell them what to do, be the leader of the household, et al. The corollary is that a woman without a man is nothing. Thus, they see one of their primary roles as a mother as teaching their daughters how to attract and keep male attention: never going out of the house (or, out of the bedroom) without your "face" (i.e., makeup caked on an inch thick) on, wearing shoes that make your legs good as opposed to being comfortable, always being solicitous and never talking too much about yourself, and dressing with some skin showing.

These woman have an incredibly skewed idea of what male-female relationships should be.

that is exactly what is going on

thank you for sharing it! I find it very interesting--there's probably a lot of truth in your theory.

:hi:

Unfortunately, I grew up in the sort of area where tarting your six-year-old up for a pageant, "glamour phots," or even so they could perform in a gospel show was fairly standard.

I've seen ever documentary on these nutballs and even run into John Ramsey on vacation once (euwww)so my interest/obsession with this runs deep. I cannot for the life of me understand why they spend brazillions to tart up their daughters but can't get themselves a decent cut & color (or outfit).

(FYI i have two young daughters, neither of whom would wear a dress, even in private, for cash money)

that she wears over normal size t shirts. The tight shirts and belly shirts are not allowed.

Glad to see there are still parents that set limits with their
kids!

I've actually heard moms lamenting based on what 'everyone else'
is wearing.

Hello?! Peer pressure isn't new...

Other than this :shrug: of course

What in the hell is a "shrug"?

The poster explains it quite well.
Duckie

:shrug:

How I love it!

I'm sure we'll be supporting that little girl and her filthy brood with our tax money someday, whether from Welfare or prison.

Material Girl wore a LOT of bibs when she was little. I loved them because her shirt didn't ride up and her pants didn't fall down--thus you never saw that bare tummy that always hangs out on little kids.

Now that she's older (Almost 9!) I'm having a horrible time finding clothing that doesn't scream "rent a date." We had a VERY long talk just recently about the fact that hip hugger jeans are NOT to be worn with shirts that might show a belly button.

I seriously object to finding clothing in any kids' size that is backless, spaghetti strap or "peek--boo" style.

There is one girl in my daughter's class that does wear stuff like that and it just breaks my heart to see it. The Mom is oblivious to it all--that little kid was wearing a "bra" (that she did not need) in first grade. The mom told her that she needed to "get used to it..."

At 9 we are working up to a bra on Material Girl. We do a lot of camisoles and tanks under her shirts these days. No WAY I'm buying that kid a thong to match her training bra. It just ain't happening. Thongs are made for somebody to see (they sure are not made for comfort as far as i can tell)or to take off.

At 9 she shouldn't even be thinking about sexy.


Laura

PS, in case you are wondering, Material Girl's nickname comes from the fact that my kid is a collector of everything. She is a pack rat beyond compare...

29/32 Levis. Thank you Jeebus.

"child abuse"

Most people aren't sexually attracted to 3 year olds no matter what they're wearing. A three year old should be able to walk around naked without being viewed as a sex object.

that adult women wear in order to look sexy or attractive, it may send an inappropriate message.

I agree that when the clothes have writing on them like "porn star" that the child doesn't even understand are inappropriate, but I don't think something as innocuous as an exposed belly button is cause for alarm. There's no reason a small child should have to think of her body as something shameful to be covered up lest other people get "the wrong idea" about her.

I think children especially should be immune from such judgments

It's the people who dress the children.

I agree that a belly button in itself is not a problem - my own little girls wore two-piece swimming suits. But when the shirt worn is just a smaller version of an adult top intended to be sexually provocative, one has to question the sense of the person who put it on the child.

and I can sew. I would never have worn most of that stuff as a kid and even with my not-half-bad adult figure I still wouldn't.

...Is what I've named them.
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A truly silly piece of clothing.

a lot of shirts are sleeveless and I appreciate the extra piece of fabric. They're just dance gear that was designed to be worn over leotards to keep warm but without too much bulky fabric to restrict movement or hide the body. They're this season's leg warmers.

You know how many times I refer to the kid as "lil girl" only to find out that long hair was on a boy.

I have nothing against long hair on men but geez, let the kid develop some before the long hair.

black vinyl thigh high boots, with 6 inch spike heels too?

I'll bet they both had cell phones too.
Ick

and wondered why any parent would want their 12 year old daughter to be thought of as "foxy".

without 12- and 13-year friends who smoked pot and shoplifted (I did neither at time, but my friends did).

I would have wanted a "foxy" shirt at that age, and might have stashed it in my locker (as I did with jeans, which I wasn't allowed to wear to school)

It's easy to condemn children - 8-9-10 year olds who wear "sexy" clothes. But middle school -- the 12-13-14 years-- are tough. the girls that age are just exploring their sexuality, some with the bodies but all without the maturity to do so.

and the girl was with a woman I assume was her mother.

I'm sorry, but if we put people in jail for having sex with 12 year-olds, maybe we shouldn't let 12 year-olds dress in a manner that portrays them as sexual objects.

Frankly, I'm in my 40s and wouldn't wear a shirt that announces myself as a sexual object.

I agree, it is pathetic how we treat kids like sex objects - I blame commercialism and marketing.

I will not have my girl walking around with words on her butt. There is no reason whatsoever for that.

Most people are lemmings.

I agree with the other posters who have lamented Bratz, pants/shorts with words on the butt, "foxy" shirts, and all that other shit they use to teach little girls early what their true value is based on.

Fuckers.