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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 04:44 PM
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Nephew turning 21. Unconventional young man. Gift ideas?
He has Asperger's - a pretty, um, strong case of it. He just started his first job several weeks ago - at the deli counter in a grocery store - and he loves it and does very well.

Turning 21 but he doesn't drink. I thought I might get him a frequent flyer's card at Bev'Mo, but I'm not sure he'd get/appreciate the joke.

He has hair down to his butt that he refuses to cut until he finds a buyer. He won't donate it.

He plays video games and is obsessed with D&D and engrish.com, and with wolves (unhealthily, IMO). I would like to get him something a little more mature, but who knows what that would be and whether he'd enjoy it.

Ideas?

Thank you very much!
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 04:47 PM
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1. How much you looking to spend?
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 04:53 PM
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2. About $80
That's what I spent on his cousin, who just turned 18.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:04 PM
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6. Scale replica lightsabers:
http://masterreplicas.com/customer/starwars/starwars_product_list.php?cid=10

Assuming that if he's a D&D fan, he's a Star Wars fan as well.
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:24 PM
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8. he's not, but you've given me another idea
thanks, Rabrrrrrrr!
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 04:54 PM
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3. He likes D&D and wolves?
How 'bout this? I haven't played the new edition, but the other versions are fun.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1588463249/qid=1134510774/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-7976734-9865558?n=507846&s=books&v=glance
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 04:56 PM
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4. I have to plead ignorance -- it's a game somewhat like D&D?
:dunce:

Looks promising.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:00 PM
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5. Yes, it's a tabletop role playing game like D&D
I'd tell you more but they changed a lot from the Revised edition and I haven't played the new version.
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:24 PM
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7. Hmmm... a definite possibility
Thanks, LM
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:28 PM
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9. No problem
I'm always willing to liaise with the non-geek community for the betterment of my socially awkward peers. :D
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:29 PM
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10. "liaise" - oh, lord, you ARE a geek
;)
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:33 PM
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12. Who me?
I'm not a geek! :runs about apartment hiding swords, ren fair clothes and all the Star Trek stuff:
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 08:08 PM
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18. LOL
:hug:
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rqstnnlitnmnt Donating Member (245 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:29 PM
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11. is he into multiplayer role playing games?
i just got World of Warcraft and it's freaking awesome. you don't have to be super social to play it (even though it's filled with other people, you don't really have to interact with them if you don't want to). it's for PC or mac only, and you need a decently good one to play it.

i work exclusively with kids with autism, so your post really caught my eye. i'm glad to know he has a job he loves where he can interact with so many different people!

best of luck to you :)
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 08:10 PM
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19. thanks, request-enlightenment
(did i get your name right? :hi:)
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rqstnnlitnmnt Donating Member (245 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-14-05 10:32 PM
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21. OMG
YOU WIN!!!!!! (YAY!)

it's actually requesting enlightenment. ever heard "dancing nancies" by dave matthews band?
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 09:38 AM
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22. I haven't heard it...
...i'm a heathen. Don't pay too much attention to current music. :dunce:
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ncrainbowgrrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 03:59 PM
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32. World of Warcraft is fun!
:hi:

I'm not much of a diehard gamer-type, but I really enjoy playing WOW!
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victim Donating Member (55 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:40 PM
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13. To take the idea someone else gave you
and run with it, if hes into D&D and (were)wolves, a good one to look into might be RAGE: The Apocalypse. I was never into RPGs but I use to play the collectible card game and there is a lot of visceral imagery all related to werewolfs in that game for sure

Lots of gore and sexual innuendo too, so it fits one definition of mature (ie too hot for kids) but maybe not your definition of mature lol

There are probably others to ask who are alot more familiar with it than I...
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:45 PM
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14. It appears it's currently out of print, but new sets are coming out
next year. Too bad, it's a fun game.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 05:48 PM
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15. You could get him some D&D minis to paint up, too
or a gift card to the local gaming store. (Oh, if you get him the W:TF book, he'll probably need some 10 sided dice, D&D doesn't use them much but the World of Darkness games use them exculsively.)
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China_cat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 06:37 PM
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16. A pewter dragon.
They are beautiful and collectible.
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-13-05 06:39 PM
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17. a gift certificate to----
http://www.mcphee.com/
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UncleSepp Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-14-05 01:27 AM
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20. How about some semiprecious stone dice?
And hey, don't dig on the D&D not being mature. I'm 33, and I still play roleplaying games. Some of my gamer friends are as young as 19 or as old as 45. It's fun, creative, and social.
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 09:45 AM
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24. No offense meant. I didn't mean to imply that D&D players are immature --
Edited on Thu Dec-15-05 10:04 AM by bertha katzenengel
I meant only to state that my nephew is socially immature for his age.

This is a GREAT idea. Thank you!!

edit: what kind of dice? "dwarven?" I am SO clueless... Help!
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ChairmanAgnostic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 09:42 AM
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23. A box of condoms, a great book on sex
no joke
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 12:02 PM
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25. I would agree normally - and I'll probably get those for my other nephew
when the time comes. But Chris is special.

Well, christ. Why not? He's got the body and hormones of an adult male. And the reasoning of a 14-year-old. Yeah, he needs condoms.

I'm just thinking... he is so socially awkward, how would he meet a girl who'd be interested?

I'm just glad I'm not the kid's mom. :scared:
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ChairmanAgnostic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 12:54 PM
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26. treating him as an adult will be the best gift he will get.
and providing him with the means to be responsible will give him the internal expectation of acting responsibly.
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bertha katzenengel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 01:07 PM
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27. excellent points!
thank you!
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maveric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 01:13 PM
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28. How about a conga or tribal drum.
I have a friend with aspergers and she beats on her drums to show self expression that she normally wouldnt.
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ChairmanAgnostic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 01:13 PM
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29. another great idea. Aspergers is tough on family. But drums do work well.
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maveric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 01:23 PM
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30. In fact,I'm going to SF to pick up a couple for my girlfriend.
Who has a bit of an attention deficit disorder.
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-15-05 02:25 PM
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31. gift
A blonde virgin?
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