I need a hug/advice!

Just moved countried etc. and am away from home for Christmas, working through the holidays as I'm a temp and won't get paid otherwise, everyone else at work gets time off.
And to top it off, I'm getting a near certain break-up for Christmas.

EWWWW

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Keep your head up...:hug:

Things will get better!

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does that help a bit?

I hate this.
Fighting tears at my desk at work. The SO has a job where he is alone in his car and doesn't understand I can't discuss our disasterous situation in an open plan office cos I choke up and have to pretend I am fine!

Here's a :hug: for you.

As to advice. . . . I really have none, I'm spending Christmas alone, as usual, will hole up in my apartment, sleep in, watch movies and throw a steak (or maybe some chicken breast) on my Foreman grill and . . . well, that's about it.

So I'm not a good source for advice :)

sincerest way possible.... :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
as for advice...well I wish I had some my love life is of the sucky nature too....maybe we could sit down and have a good cry together? :cry::cry::cry::cry::cry:
Now enough of that....we will pull through this together you will see

I remember when I moved 3000 miles away from home, it was tough. But I had a great SO, who came with me and is now my wife. I could not imagine doing it alone. Being away from home for christmas is difficult, but telephones and e-mails help. Call everyone and ask if people can give you phone cards as stocking stuffers so you can pay for the calls.

Working on the holiday sucks too. I had to tend bar and wait tables on christmas a few times when I was younger, so I can feel your pain. As for the break up, these things happen for a reason. Just do whatever you need to get through it. Talk, cry, yell, play backetball, run, watch sappy lifetime movies or read a book. Do whatever helps you through difficult times, and use some more of those calling cards to get through it.

Good luck to you. I know this year won't be as happy a christmas as you liked, but being on your own in a far off place is a great adventure and the benefits will come back to you ten fold. Try to enjoy whereever you are and good luck with the relationship.

I've been in other countries (away from family) for Christmas, and worked right through, but it was at a bar where other people were working too, not the only one in the office!
That's not even the issue really though, the SO was there through all that and we had a wonderful time together. This time he is the one making it all so hard. I am thinking of moving out on christmas eve or boxing day (only for a week into someones house while they're away, then to another friends house while they're away...yet to ask friends but sure it will be fine) then going from there. I just need to grow some major balls real fast.

but I can provide a hug :hug:

Just got a 'I don't love you anymore' text!
How's a girl supposed to get any freakin work done!
Looks like I'm doing the ring around/move out at Christmas plan.
Yay me.

Nothing like a dear emmajean text message. What a load of crap. I wish you luck and know that you can lean on your DU friends at any time.

Wish it could be different for you now but it will be in the future. Hang in there and look past this year to the future.

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Sending you positive good karma rays.

Make sure and take care of yourself: go to the gym or do yoga, eat some organic fruits and veggies, get enough sleep, take your vitamins, and above all EAT CHOCOLATE! it's good for you. especially the dark kind. Ya gotta learn to handle your stress 'cause otherwise it'll handle you. :hug:

kicking & screaming as well. So's one of my work buddies.

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Losta hugs for you.

:hug: You poor thing! The holidays can blow so immensely sometimes; it feels like a cruel joke.

Remember that Christmas does not have to be celebrated on Dec. 25. My family and I are getting together the following week, because my brother and I both have to work (for obvious reasons).

Welcome to DU, and have a hug: :hug:

I was 16, and in Japan for a year.

Though my host parents had a little tree, and they'd thrown me an awesome birthday party 4 days before, it was a definite letdown. I remember being on my way home from our teacher's house (we'd done an early-morning church service--in Japanese), then going to see "Young Doctors In Love" and sitting through it twice, because really, what else did I have to do?

My advice re: the relationship--have a candid talk in the next day or so, preferably ASAP. And be as forthright as possible without asking your SO to pull the trigger: "Listen...I know things aren't A+ with us right now. But the holidays are coming, and I'd really like to spend them with you and enjoy them with all our hearts, so we can always remember that, no matter what. After January 1st, we can sit down and have a Heavy, Deep and Real discussion, but let's make the next 12 days as wonderful and special as possible, OK?" That at least will get one major monkey off your back. Then, seriously, DO IT. Celebrate as if there were no tomorrow, as if you had terminal illness and this was going to be your last one. (See: "The Family Stone.") Don't hold back because you're afraid of getting hurt; you're probably going to get hurt eventually someday, so you might as well live with as open and trusting a heart as possible--at least you can look back on it someday and know that you loved wholeheartedly.

As for the work thing: that sucks. (I've worked on major holidays before too, and my mom usually worked Christmas morning or afternoon/evening as an RN.) All you can do is block out the chunk of evening/morning/whenever that you AREN'T working, and make them as self-involved as you want. You wanna watch your favorite Christmas specials or movie for 3+ hours straight? Go for it. You want to cook the most self-indulgent meal of your absolute favorite foods ever? Do it. You want to call or see your best friends in the entire world? Call 'em. Light candles, tons of them. Keep the spirits coming. Put on the happiest music you can think of. Try to find a mix between the things you love the most--the things that make you feel "you"--and doing something so out-there, so ridiculous, so unusual, it'll cause a paradigm shift. (When was the last time you wrapped your entire front door in wrapping paper?) Check the local paper for free or cheap concerts and peformances--they're all over the place this time of year. Take a long walk and look at Christmas lights--and if you have an Ipod with festive music to share, do it with someone special.

Hang in there, kiddo, and update us in 2006 on how you're doing and how it all turned out.