babies daddies

My girlfriend works as a nurse, and one of her coworkers (while appearing to be exasperated) said to her the last week as she was leaving "don't ever have a baby's daddy." So, did she mean:

don't ever have a baby?

only have a baby if by artificial insemination or some other means wherein the father will assuredly not be present for the upbringing of the child?

or don't ever have a man who will father a child, and then be a "baby's daddy"? if so, please give your definition of "baby's daddy".

discuss...

It happens.

F :thumbsdown:

at all. :shrug:

there is more to it...

though once liontamer and i heard it in spoken in real life...and we were both shocked for a while...

always used to say (in all seriousness) "I have to go see my baby's mama after practice tonight."

"Baby-mama" is weirder.

People really do say it.

to mean a philanderer who has sired many children, but displays no interest in them.

My source for this information is a BBC drama entitled "Babyfather." :)

Flip side of the coin.

People figure it sounds better than, "the father of my bastard child."
:shrug:

So, unless there's something you're not telling her OR us, the girlfriend will heed that advice. :-)

:hi: Hope you had a nice Christmas, STM. :-)

:D hey Terry :hi: i did indeed have a great Christmas, tho, from memory, it was a bit blurry ;) how was yours?

Glad you had a great time. Mine was very nice...Santa was good to me this year. I must have been a good boy. :-)

:hi:

:D

"My baby's daddy" = the father of my child, but relationship otherwise unspecified. i.e. not necessarily committed to you at all.

I get the feeling from this context that this guy may be a player who runs around on his many girlfriends, bringing heartache to all, and satisfaction to none.

a quality gentlemanfriend"?

Get a man who'll marry you and take some responsibility. A baby-daddy is essentially a sperm donor, I believe.

Someone who makes a baby and only shows up to cause grief to the family. He doesn't stay around to raise the child and then bitches when DCS garnishes his wages for child support. He bitches about the way the child is being raised but doesn't want to actually get his own hands dirty. He doesn't show up for visits. He wants to know what the child support was spent on "to the last penny". He yells at you because you're raising his child as a Methodist when he's not one. He screams about the Girl Scouts teaching girls to become "pushy broads" but doesn't offer to pay for other activities. And it just gets worse from there.
Don't get me started-I have a baby daddy. They suck.

"only get a man who will not be a baby's daddy", "do not have children", or "avoid men altogether"?

either breed only with men who will be responsible co-parents or don't breed at all.

:grr:

:rofl:

(this guy)

Most of the time it means "buyer beware". Make sure you know this person before you really get involved.
This asshole will have a place in my life until I die. It's hard to explain-women like me know that there are good men out there. We've been dealt a bad hand and have to live w/ it.
Ever get into a fight w/ a woman and think "WTF was I thinking, getting involved w/ women at all! I should have stayed alone!"
It's the holiday season, babydaddy probably didn't send the child support or come to visit or even buy a present. She was probably speaking out of sheer frustration, knowing that she would be going home to a house of disappointed children while asshole is out partying.

He said "I have to babysit tonight?"
I said "whose kids?"
"Mine"
"THAT's not babysitting!!!!"

But he was a married guy saying that.

:nuke:

Then again, I'm not one for worrying about what my supervisors think of me. Probably was a good idea to hold your tongue.

It's not babysitting if they're your own children, it's parenting. And if you think it's babysitting, obviously you're not doing enough of it.

*sigh*

I take it?
Sucks, doesn't it.

But my sister works in a neonatal ICU unit, and the stories she could tell... :(

I think his lifestyle might kill him in a few more years. At least we'll get his SS and maybe some life insurance.

:pals:

:pals:

A woman's baby's daddy (or a man's baby's mama) is someone with whom one has a relationship, but only through the baby. That is, her relationship with the man isn't one of girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband, it is mother of my child/father of my child.

ie: don't fuck any man who has fathered children.

Why? Hey, I'm sure she has her reasons. I just hope her advice doesn't catch on! B-)

...the 'babies' were called trophies. Then that must have made the dads...players.




Tikki

You'll figure it out.

"My baby's daddy" usually refers to the former boyfriend who is the biological father of a child and with whom a woman must maintain some sort of relationship, for the sake of the child.

It can be a very frustrating relationship, so when wishing someone to not have a "baby's daddy," she's wishing that someone not be in that relationship.

She's bemoaning the apparently widespread practice of unwed people having children.

you think?

I also hear "Baby's momma." It is said by one unmarried parent in reference to the other. Instead of "my wife," it would be "my baby's momma."

She is having a bad relationship with him, and expressed it a pretty strange way.

That way he is a husband and not just a "baby daddy". That is what I get anyway.

Hines Ward play football for the Steelers...

Note...my brother has a huge crush on him...

I thought a baby daddy / baby mama was slang for a single parent, referenced by a person who conceived with that individual, and were not legally associated with each other via marriage or common law.

I also thought would be different from a divorced couple (an ex-spouse)