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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:54 PM
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Does it upset you when people don't say 'thank you'....?
...upset--sad, angry, etc.?

When people don't thank you for something you've done, aren't thankful for situations in their life or just don't seem to have the word in their vocabulary in general? How do you feel about it...?
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Crazy Guggenheim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:55 PM
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1. Disgusted.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:56 PM
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3. seems to be a dying grace
Edited on Sun Jan-08-06 11:57 PM by bliss_eternal
doesn't it?
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Crazy Guggenheim Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:59 PM
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6. Very. Where I live it isn't too bad. But, when it does happen it's
well disgusting.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:11 AM
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11. As a kid, no matter what we got
we were taught to call relatives to thank them personally, or to write thank you notes--FOR EVERYTHING! No matter how small or insignificant--even if it was obviously used previously (lol-not kidding, got a few of those over the years). We thanked EVERYONE!

I'm so shocked and appalled when I see people these days in stores, anywhere--not saying 'thanks.'
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:55 PM
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2. makes me angry!
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:57 PM
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4. ...ever expressed that anger--
in response?
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:59 PM
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7. I usually just say a snarky "You are MOST welcome" in response
usually gets the point across!
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Whoa_Nelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:11 AM
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10. ROFL So do I!
"Oh, You are so VERY welcome." or "something along those lines, and then mutter something else to myself while walking away.

It's really not THAT hard to be kind, polite or to take the couple of seconds to at least ACKNOWLEDGE a kindness no matter how small. Sheesh!!
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-08-06 11:58 PM
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5. it depends, i don't do it for thanks anyway, at least not always...
:shrug: i do it because it is imo the right thing to do B-)
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:16 AM
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14. I don't give
so people will throw me a parade or anything either. But it seems like those that can't be bothered to say thanks, have entitlement issues... that bugs me.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:06 AM
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8. I only expect it of myself.
It used to bother me a lot more than it does now. For me, being genuinely gracious is the right thing to do, but I've no control over others' behavior. :shrug:
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:22 AM
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17. True--
we have no control over others' behaviour.

Doesn't mean one doesn't have a reaction to that behaviour. You're fortunate that it doesn't bother you as much as it used to...

:hi:
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:06 AM
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9. Pisses me the fuck off!!
About twenty minutes ago I was at the store.. An elderly lady had tons of things.. I lost my place in line to open the door for her. She didn't even look at at me.. Sigh..
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:29 AM
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21. That sucks--
pisses me off, too. :(
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Langis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:15 AM
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12. I hate it
I used to have to remind my ex to thank people all the time. That was a strong clue to get out of that relationship.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:28 AM
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19. How sad--
you had to remind a grown up to say thank you. Good for you for walking away. :hug:
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:15 AM
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13. My Emote-O-Meter readings are:
Edited on Mon Jan-09-06 12:16 AM by qnr
Emote-O-Meter
No "Thank you":
|||||||||||||||||||||
No "I'm sorry":
|||||||||||||||||||||

I don't really like it, but it doesn't get me as mad as when people don't apologize.
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:18 AM
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15. I'm a wasted post. ignore me
Edited on Mon Jan-09-06 12:19 AM by qnr
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:19 AM
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16. No, it doesn't upset me.
But I really, really appreciate it when people DO say thanks.

Life is so much better when we can live it in gratitude.
And, THANK YOU for posing such a thoughtful question. :hi:
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:26 AM
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18. I aspire to be more like you, Rev--
I'd like it if it bothered me less...it bothers me that other's behaviour bothers me if that makes sense.

...And no, thank you for responding! :hi:
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Sugar Smack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:28 AM
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20. Woo-hoo!
:woohoo:
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:30 AM
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22. Heavens, don't put me on that pedestal.
Be like Jesus. That's my goal. O8)
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:32 AM
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23. Sometimes
I think even Jesus would get irritated with these people...lol. Kidding. I know better--but they are trying folk.To me, to not say thank you (ever btw) smacks of feeling entitled to whatever I give you...
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:35 AM
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24. Remember the parable of the Ten Lepers?
Ten came to him for healing. He told them, "go and wash in the pool". As they were going on their way, they were healed. Of those 10, one came back to thank him.

Put in a different light, it's a lot like tithing, isn't it?
(think about that for a while, before you respond... tithing = 10%)
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:43 AM
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27. In the grand scheme of things--
very little of what you put out there, comes back? (guessing here...)

When one tithes, you're supposed to tithe from the heart--giving not expecting to get anything back. That's all I recall on the concept of tithing taught.
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:47 AM
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29. If one leads a life of gratitude,
you realize that all you have comes from God as a gift. Out of all of our abundance, doesn't 10% seem insignificant in comparison to all that we have?

Tithing, IMO, is our way of saying thanks to God.
Remember, tithing includes not just your money (gifts), but your time, your presence, and your service.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:50 AM
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31. Absolutely--
Quote:
Out of all of our abundance, doesn't 10% seem insignificant in comparison to all that we have?

Probably helpful to not allow our egos to get involved or expect anything in return, no matter what the circumstances.

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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:56 AM
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32. That's the tricky part.
I remember getting angry when I brought over several bags of groceries to someone who needed it from church (many years ago). She never said thanks, or expressed appreciation for what people bought for her.

Now, I can look back on it and realize that
a)she probably didn't know any better
b)she may have been more embarrassed than I realized
c)the one with the problem was me, not her. I was simply supposed to help feed her, not stick around for praise.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 01:37 AM
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33. What a great example!
It's hard...we are human, not perfect like jesus was... But I think I understand what you are saying. Thank you for such a wonderful example, Rev!

For me, it doesn't feel like being after praise as much as sincerely wanting to know that someone liked what you picked out, or enjoyed it, etc. I guess after thinking about it, one really shouldn't need that validation, though--and I should examine my motivation if I have to have that, perhaps...Maybe that equates to praise--I don't know. :shrug:
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hickman1937 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:38 AM
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25. No not usually.
Edited on Mon Jan-09-06 12:44 AM by hickman1937
Sometimes people are just too ashamed to say thank you. I figure that I don't want to contribute to their burden. Do what you can do, and let it go. Forget it, and move on. Don't let yourself be defined by the thank you's and praise.
On edit, I'm sorry for sounding didactic. Its late, and I'm tired and stupid.
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obxhead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:39 AM
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26. I like to see a wave when I let people cut in front
while driving. You know, those times when you just be the nice guy and let someone over in your lane because you've watched the last ten people cut them off. A simple wave is all I ask. The lack there of just comes as an insult to me.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:46 AM
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28. Don't know why
but your response made me laugh aloud--I saw the whole scenario in my head. LOL! Been there. The person being let in and waving, and the person letting people in and getting the little wave. It's so funny that that little wave communicates so much.
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obxhead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 12:49 AM
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30. Doesn't it though.
It's really quite simple...

Step 1 - lift hand into view
Step 2 - shake said hand a little bit.

Is that really so much to ask?
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 01:47 AM
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34. 'No problem' is not the proper response
to "Thank You."
One of these days I'm going to blow a gasket on that one.
It bothers me less that some people don't say thank you; I just assume they were raised by wolves. :P
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 02:24 AM
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35. LOL!
:rofl:
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khashka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-09-06 02:30 AM
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36. Doesn't really bother me, although I try to always say it
Robert Heinlein said the first sign of a sick society is the lack of civility and politeness. He was right. So it makes me sad for our society - but I just assume these people were never taught any better.

Khash.
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