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I've posted about this friend before, most notably right after the Oct 2002 protest when she yelled & screamed at me for committing treason and how I should be shot for that. She happens to be one of my oldest friends who I first met at college. We had great times doing roadtrips to the shore & DC and hanging out together. But now, 20 years later we barely talk.
She's got a boyfriend who has cheated on her several times and basically a lazy ass good-for-nothing with criminals for his kids. My friend also has her own daughter that she practically neglects and is basically doing nothing about her growing drug habit (her daughter is 15 and very bright, very intelligent and very messed up. Mom's attitude about the drug habit? "Well I did the same thing myself". Of course back in the 70s the shit she was doing wasn't half as bad as what's out there today).
So my old friend just called me. Probably the first time in about 2 years - no biggie. Not like I've been calling her. I mean, she has apologized about the treason comment but I just can't be around and watch her daughter hell-bent on self-destruction why my friend (the mom) stands back and does nothing. Hell my step sister has 2 boys about the same age and neither of them seem to be on this path of self-destruction like the girl is.
But I guess my friend, her boyfriend, her daughter and a daughter's friend are going to Philly for the night and asked if I wanted to meet them there. I kinda bugged out with an excuse. My friend and her boyfriend are heavy smokers (and I'm sure the daughter is already picking up the habit too). I can't stand her boyfriend because he has cheated on her and is taking advantage of her. And most importantly I don't even want to be near her daughter because it'll break my heart to see what she's doing to herself and the fact that I can't do anything about it (Her daughter once emailed me why my nephews, who she knows, won't reply back to her emails. I actually told them to steer clear of her because I don't want them getting involved with her - hell she's been picked up by the cops once).
So, my question after this long rambling on about my life is this? Do I call back and say I got out of my plans for today and meet them in Philly and put up with all this drama even if it's only for one night or do I just steer clear. After 20 years my friend and I have nothing in common. My friend is a borderline drunk with an asshole boyfriend and they both love George Bush whereas I've kinda steered away from all of this. I drink, but if I'm lucky once or twice a month and then not much, I hate Bush and my life has been geared more towards politics & volunteerism.
Any advice?
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