How do you get back into the Dating scene?

I haven't been out since my Mama Died 10 years ago because I gained so much weight I was too embarrassed to leave the house. I also was injured and too sick to go out.

How do you get back into the Dating Scene and feel good about your new body? I am down to 140 pounds but I am too afraid to date again.

One of the Chefs at my College wants to fix me up with a friend of his but I am thinking his freind is the odd guy that works at the College. I mean odd because he loves cutting the locks off of the ladies lockers and looking though their stuff.

would you please PM me?? Thanks.

Not sure if I'll ever get back into it!

Seriously...I haveno idea.

I would be dangerous If I got drunk I might end up taking advantage of someone.

you won't consider dating his friend unless he tells you who it is. If it turns out to be the odd dude, you can demur.

She said that he wouldn't fix me up with anyone like that because he is a nice man.

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I mean cutting the locks off of people's lockers and going through their stuff should be the first red flag. Look in the singles' section in the Calendar section of your paper and go to a mixer.

Go to a cooking class not associated with school. I go to cooking classes here in So Cal from time to time and there is almost always a single straight guy in the class. Men need to eat too. Meet someone at an event that is in keeping with your interests.

Go to a store and buy something flattering to your body habitus regardless of your size...there are small petit women who look frumpy and there are large women who carry their size and obviously love themselves and pay attention to their appearance with a lot of dignity. Everyone's body is their own little work of art.

You don't have to spend a lot of money on wardrobe...you can accomplish this at a discount store. Ask the attendant or helper in the store who appears to be the most tastefully dressed to help you choose...most would be happy to help.

But I don't care.

I understand why you feel that way, though. Twice in my life I have lost a fair amount of weight... +30 pounds each time. But I felt the same after as I did when I was still overweight. The mind has to overcome a lot. Size 10 is perfect!

many overweight people have love in their life so having extra weight doesn't mean you are unlovable unless YOU SAY IT MEANS YOU ARE UNLOVEABLE.

Really..go get a makeover....they don't have to cost a lot of money and can work wonders on your self esteem.

I'm a 12 now and I've never had a problem attracting men even when I didn't want to attract men. Even when I was an size 18 last year, less, but still some men noticed me. Besides, you're smaller than average. Smile, make eye contact, relax, and be yourself things work out. If they don't, it's their loss.

on a regular basis. When you have a lead, get behind them in line and let nature take its course

Alternatively, do the book store, watch for the titles appropriately looking people thumb and when ready move in for the intro.

Alternative 3 go to a Lowes, Home Depot, etc. when you spot a likely candidate go for the "can you help me" play. If nothing else you might get someone to fix some of the problems around the house...

Believe me there are plenty in the area that I live in and I not looking for someones with CASH.

I don't want a crazy freeper BUM either that might have been in the pen.

I guess an alternative for you would be to watch grocery store parking lots. Identify bumper stickers with an acceptable message and acceptable looking drivers, then pursue them in the aisles.

What you should do is go out with friends and just have fun. I met my partner when I was out with my best friend just having fun. You never know when someone you'll like will be out there. Have fun and enjoy yourself. You'll see.

The less you find. Stop looking, and suddenly...

In the meantime, just have fun!

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Amazing, isn't it?

I thought that a woman would have an easier time with this sort of thing than a man would.

Networking would be a logical first step and this isn't a bad place to start.

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I am a woman and we do that.

Not the gender. In fact, many studies have shown that males are the gender more likely to change their minds.

So what other stereotypes do you have for me to demolish?

I just looked at a couple of them and ignored the rest.

Nothing against them, I just think it's better not to dwell on being single. Besides, it is easier to find someone when you aren't really trying but just living if ya know what I mean.

There are a rash of them lately, LOL.
I think its the holidays coming up.

It's the holiday blues. I get them too. :)

I'm talking from personal experience. There was a time when I thought it was always better to be in a relationship than by yourself. Boy, was I wrong! And I endured a lot of heartache and aggravation before I learned.

Sorry if that doesn't really answer your question, but I wanted to speak my mind. Good luck to you!

It gives you someone to fall back on.

whenever I walk my dogs in the park or anywhere I make lots of contacts. People really warm up to animals and that is how I usually make friends whenever I am in a new town or even in my old town. I am way too busy to follow up on any social contact I make, but if I were more available that is how I would probably pick my social circle. So my suggestion is to walk a dog, either your own or borrow your friends.

I am not interested in the dating scene, but my friends at work are raving over the internet dating services that you pay for. I have heard of several who have found good partners that way. Personally its not for me but the ladies I have spoken to who have used it were very pleased with the selections.